Gf going suntanning with some dude. WTF

[jakeyboy]

the subject says it all.

she told me she's going suntanning with her brother's friend's brother.

and i said nothing.

i didn't want to be a **** and tell her she couldn't go, that'd just make me look like the over-possessive f**ktard. like i'm giving her no freedom and shyte.

but all the same, i wonder if she's going with him alone or if it's with other people.

its a tad fishy for a girl to be going out alone with a guy friend to the beach.

she's a nice girl, and it'd hardly be in her capabilities to cheat on me, but well, you never know.

so what can i do now? any advice or help will be appreciated.

thanks mates.

 

[BackToTheMack]

Originally posted by jakeyboy
the subject says it all.

she told me she's going suntanning with her brother's friend's brother.

and i said nothing.

i didn't want to be a **** and tell her she couldn't go, that'd just make me look like the over-possessive f**ktard. like i'm giving her no freedom and shyte.

but all the same, i wonder if she's going with him alone or if it's with other people.

its a tad fishy for a girl to be going out alone with a guy friend to the beach.

she's a nice girl, and it'd hardly be in her capabilities to cheat on me, but well, you never know.

so what can i do now? any advice or help will be appreciated.

thanks mates.

WTF man you dont want to look possesive she is your f**king GF get some balls. Sun tanning my d*ck if the girl told you she was going sun tanning with some random guy you should tell her "no". Straight out say "If i meet the guy first then you can go out with him would you be ok if i went suntanning with some random girl you never met?"

Me personally i wouldnt care because

1- My girls wouldnt do that

2- IF IF IF they did i know my girls wouldnt cheat on me so i wouldnt care

But you are obviously worried so thats what you should have done.

 

[griffon65]

Well if I was you I'd be suspecious. She might not cheat but a girl wont hang out wiht a guy alone at the beach unless shes somewhat interested in him. Will she cheat? I dunno, I have no clue on how morally strong your girl is on the subject.

But I can tell you that I know a really nice girl right now. Shes a total sweetheart, nice to everyone, someone who you can trust to be there for you when your in trouble blah blah. But shes cheating on her BF of a year. The funny thing is that shes happy in the relationship and loves him.

 

[jakeyboy]

oh goddammit. i knew i should have said no. -bangs head on table.

but now the situation's messed already cos i didn't say no in the first place. any way to salvage from here on?

 

[BackToTheMack]

Originally posted by jakeyboy
oh goddammit. i knew i should have said no. -bangs head on table.

but now the situation's messed already cos i didn't say no in the first place. any way to salvage from here on?

If you want to look like an indecisive tool you will say no now.

If you want to be the jealous obsessive staler BF you will follow her

If you want to be cool just remember for next time. If she wants to go out with this guy again then you should be worried.

 

[shark]

Eh-i'd relax a bit. It's normal to question this but if your girl is telling you this, it's hard to say she'd cheat on you when she tells you what she's doing. She isn't being sneaky or anything. I wouldnt make an issue of it at all, however, if this happends or comes up again (similar situation) then i'd say something or do something (go "suntan" with a girl") Just relax man, she's still YOUR girlfriend..thats how girls are.

My girl went out to lunch with another guy..and i didn't make an issue of it (even tho our friend did and broguht it to her attention) and she hasnt since..when she could whenever.

 

[jakeyboy]

alright. if she wants to f*ck around with another guy, its probably her loss anyway.

i'll let it pass for now and if she wants to go out with him again, i'll tell her i'm going for drinks with some random girl and see how she reacts.

thanks for the advice mates.. it's been duly noted.

any other feedback is very much welcome.

 

[Wyldfire]

I don't know many straight men who go lay out in the sun to get a tan. They usually go do some sport and get tanned in the process.

The guy is probably gay...

 

[Jariel]

Originally posted by jakeyboy
alright. if she wants to f*ck around with another guy, its probably her loss anyway.

i'll let it pass for now and if she wants to go out with him again, i'll tell her i'm going for drinks with some random girl and see how she reacts.

I'd say this is the best way to deal with it. I agree with you for not wanting to get over posessive and controlling as it would make you look insecure. But if she's going out with guy friends, then you have the right to go for drinks with girl friends.

Personally, I don't think you have reason to worry seeing that she didn't lie to you about meeting this guy. However, sometimes girls will mention other guys to get a bit more attention from you.

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

I wouldnt ask another girl for drinks too quickly, or it will look like a revenge tactic and she will call you in on it.

 

[the_great_gaia]

Song That Goes With This Post

Artist: Mase f/ Jay-Z, Lil' Cease
Album: Harlem World
Song: Cheat On You




[Mase]
Mase, come on
If I'm in the streets or I'm in my jeep
And I wit my peep, ex know not to speak
See it's all good, and it's all sweet
All women flirt, all women cheat
So I might spend a week down in Virginia Beach
Out or in the sheets blaze plenty freaks
Be the bad boy everybody wanna meet
Practice what I preach, never caught when I cheat
If I ain't work late, I say I was wit my peeps
And quick to tell a hoe, yo I ain't get the beep
And all these girls is quite the same
So it ain't your pencil, it's how you write your name

[Mase]
Yo, you can't think you gonna be cheatin and the girl ain't gonna cheat
Just like you cheat, they could cheat
And I just think, you a fool if you think girls don't cheat

 

[frivolousz21]

tell her HELL NO!!

lay down ur law ALPHA MALE MAN

 

[i am me]

"You're going SUNTANNING with this guy?"

"Yeah, why?"

"What, is he gay?"

"Haha no..."

"He's not touching you right...?"

"Haha no...(gives you a kiss) Don't worry, I'm not doing anything behind your back."

"Alright then. Have fun..."

Hopefully have a conversation with her like that. Just make her know that you're not blind to the fact that she CAN cheat, but don't seem like you're dictating her

 

[Modro]

if ur free why not go along as well

 

[MindOverMatter]

Bro, your gf is gonna be in a skimpy bikiny laying next to some dude you don't even know, who's gonna be rubbing lotion all over her body, and you're cool with this? Man it's amazing to what lengths you people will go to just not to look insecure. You had every right to be pissed off about this situation, and you passed it up.

Don't tell her ahead of time you'll be seeing another girl, that's just words and she'll interpret it as just a 10 year old jealousy game.

Do this instead. First find out if it was just that guy, or a group of people. If it was just that guy, this is you next step:

Take another girl out for a drink, and if your gf asks you where you were, tell her the truth. If she complains, flip the tables on her. I mean, she's allowed to go tanning half naked with some guy you don't even know and prolly let him put lotion all over her ass, but it's wrong for you to see another girl for a drink? Explain to her that if she wants a casual relationship where she can do this sh!t with other guys, that's cool, but it has to go both ways.

 

[Jake-inator]

This tramp is going with some guy, you don't know to a beach... in a bathing suit. Hell this guy could be me.
If i was this guy, after some tanning i would plan to take her back to my place for a good fyck, and i'm sure Mindovermatter and any other DJs would do likewise.

Now here's your problem... you don't have a gf anymore.
You have a h0 and you're pimping her out to other guys.
Sooner or later, another pimp is gonna come along and snatch your h0. capish?

If your gf found out you're going tanning with some girl... how would she react?

She would say no problem of course... and immediately start looking for another guy cuz she "gets it".
She didn't need you to tell her you liked another girl, she knew you implied that by your actions.

This girl is pretty much gone, at least she gave you a clue to start looking for a new gf.

I agree with MindOverMatter, you should immediately hang out with some chicks.

Actually telling her no, would have caused the same reaction. You can't manipulate people into doing what you want.
She's going to do what she wants to do.
You can only control yourself.

 

[Smooth Player 056]

I agree that you should have said NO!

but.....if she was going to cheat I dont think she would blantly tell you shes going suntanning with another guy. I think she would discreetely go of and cheat behind your back without telling you

I have come to a conclusion: She has a slight intrest in this guy...not too much that she would cheat on you..........but he most likely wants to **** her and may persuade her if he can so she may go from slight interest to full interest

 

[DJDamage]

Originally posted by Jake-inator
This tramp is going with some guy, you don't know to a beach... in a bathing suit. Hell this guy could be me.
If i was this guy, after some tanning i would plan to take her back to my place for a good fyck, and i'm sure Mindovermatter and any other DJs would do likewise.

LOL its funny cause its true.

oh and count me in too. If I was that guy I would bring a cooler with me to the beach and fill it with alcoholic beverages, something sweet and fruity that she will drink it down fast.

After a while I will casually inform her that her back and shoulders are burning up and that I volunteer to put some suntan loation on it. I would then tell her to lie on her stomach and that she should take off the her top because " it would be much easier this way". The rest would be history.

If there is one place that is easier to hook up then a club, its gotta be the beach.

 

[ketostix]

Just to reply to those that said, "since she told you she's going sunbathing..she's not going to do anything or isn't hiding anything..." I remind you of chick logic: If she tells her BF she's going sunbathing with some guy then in her mind she's absolved of responsibility if something happens. Also this was all one big sh!t test...

 

[prowler13]

ok man, not to be a D##k, but SHE IS CHEATING ON YOU! sorry
get rid of her, or get a couple on the side for youself