Gf going suntanning with some dude. WTF

[jakeyboy]

alright mates... there seems to be quite a discussion going on... thanks for all the feedback!

not to go against prior beliefs, this girl's IL in me is rocket high. she's always the one who's calling and asking me out. She told me she loves me to which i had no reply. and she simply went all nuts after that, offering me more sex and simply doing everything for me.

i wonder if this could be a scam to get me to pay more attention to her.

however, i have decided i'll just let this fly. i know i was an idiot not to have said no on the spot. but what's done is done.

there's no loss if she's cheating on me, as i've got a few girls on the side.

but i will try and find out if she's going out with him alone or in a group.

i did think that she might have some initial interest in him. HMMM.

but i'll give her the benefit of the doubt this one time.

but thinking from an outsider's perspective, hell, the beach would be a great place to hook up for sure.. HAHAHA

will keep you guys updated.

cheers

 

[BrotherAP]

The only way to keep a girl loyal is for her to know that if she cheats on her you will leave her.

Not "if you find out" - she has to believe that YOU WILL KNOW

That's why you have to be smart about these things. She's going out tanning with some guy, and she's told you so that it's all 'safe'. You've been had! She knows that she could fvck him and tell you 'nothing happened' (which is exactly what she is going to tell you after this excursion). Whether she does him or not, all you will hear is "nothing happened".

How good are you at detecting BS?

Now your situation is more tricky, because you already told her to go. You can't rescind your permission, or even mention it again unless you have new information to go on, and you don't.

I would definitely go out with another girl. If it sounds like a 'revenge game' - well it sort of is. You want to establish a cause-and-effect relationship with her that tells her "if you boink other people I am going to also". Tell her you were at some place with some girl she's never met, and watch her anger fly - and do exaclty as MOM said and turn the tables on her - tell her that you have no interest in being in a mutually exclusive relationship that isn't mutually exclusive, and that if she's going to be hanging out with dudes that are trying to fvck her then you should see other people because, well, she's already seeing other people.

If she doesn't get upset or bother, chances are she's cheating already and it'd be wise to break up with her.