Just joined this site to see some of your alls advise or opinion on what is going on with my ex gf, and If youve ever dated anyone as obsessive and crazy as this b1tch.
Ok, let me try to summaraiz this as succinctly as I can.
We had a super intense passionate, enmeshed codependant relationship. Just to be honest. I know about 4 months in that she was REALLY needy. She loved me to a suffocating degree, and it made me clostrophobic. I had talks with her on several occasions ad almost broke up with her because it was too much. I had jsut got out of an 8 year marriage, hooked up with her, and she like wants to marry me. Litterally called me THE ONE. She was 20! I told her to chill the fvck out. I love d her too, but it was not healthy. I allowed it to persist. Eventually I asked her to move out and back into her dads place some two years later. I had a ton of wor to do, was super busy and needed some space to breath. And so she did. She still stayed over ALL THE TIME and we were still together. WE did not "break up". About a month after she moved out, my granny died, so I went to take care of her for like a week. My gf ook me to and dropped me off at the airport.
Fast forward to July 4th. Night time, fireworks, Ra-ra-ra. I see her checking her phone obsessively, and bells start going off. I have really good eye sight as well. I happen to see some dudes name all over her fvcking phone. Of course she senses this.
She had started seeing another guy. Going on dates with him over the month of June, and coming back to my house literally that same night or next day, saying she had "girls night" with her friends in a baby voice, head on my shoulder, the whole 9. It was like guilt manifest, in retrospect. Anyway, I found out. Nailed her to the fvcking cross, she begged me not to break up with her, said "nothing was going on" I "lost touch with my spirituality", etc. Crazy ****. It was OBVIOUS. She layed this huge guilt trip on me. Which I bought!
After a couple days of thinking about it, I was like "yeah, we haave a lot here. I fvcked things up too during this relationship, I'm sort of to blame..." what the fvck ever. Dumb.
I take her back! She has ME apologizing to HER!! All this came out of left field for me, so I was totally amushed here. She had me reAling! Ieven bought her a ring after this showing my committment to her. Something I had NEVER done, but what she always wanted. Told her I love her unconditionally, etc. All horrible mistakes. The day after I gave her the ring whcich she said she loved, she bailed and BROKE UP WITH ME through my roomate. Blocked me on facebook, and changed her profile pic to her at a bar with a different ring on the same finger (haha) her phone number. she then told her friends and family that I had been ABUSING HER. Same thing she told me about her boyfriend before me when I found out she was cheating on him. I got super pissed about that. She apparently uses that as a tactic to get attention off of her being a *****. I mean, she spun a web of lies Satan would have been proud of. Too many to list...
Anyway, I tell her if she wants to be single, I wish her the best. She says cool. i say goodbye.
She the proceeds to try to still talk to me. Tries to take me to dinner on my bday wcich was like 3 days later. I passed. Thankfully my friends were thinking more clearly than I. They were like, "dude, wtf are you doing?" She then freaks out, beggs me to meet sith her, says she didnt break up with me, etc...it was bull****. Anyway, I TAKE HER BACAK AGAIN! I know, Im a dumbfvck. I had never been through all this drama with a girl. EVER.
She comes back. The very same day, she starts talking to another guy, no idea who the fvck he is, or was. (no idea what shes doing, NC for 7 months).
She breaks up with me 3 weeks later, after being shady and treating me like ****. SHe beat me to the punch. One reason I put up with all this **** from her is because I totally dominated the realationship. Flirted to a egregious degree. Threatened to leave numerous times. I felt guilty. I wanted to make it right. I was also REALLY hard on her. To a dregree where I could see the resentment in her eyes towards the end.
So we broke up. I threw her fvcking number away that day. She would be walking on sunshine whenever I saw her. Like she had never been happier. Meanwhile she then implemented a gameplan of psychological warfare, the likes of which I have never seen! She immediatly tried befriending all our mutual friends. She tried to isolate me totally. My friends were like constantly telling me, "saw her out again, shes with some guy"...like shoving it in my face.
Mailed a fvcking pair of panties, ordered from NHL.com to my house in what I can only imagine is the dudes team. Shes loving it.
She then finds out Christmas Eve. I have been banging one of her friends. #Gamechanger. She flips her ****. txts the girl xmas eve. clalls another frined xmas DA'Y! emails me the day after xmas with some passive aggressive bs, "hey, do i have some stuff out there?" making small talk, etc. I ignore or give one word answers.
My ex worked one day a week where the girl I was sleeping with and I worked. That is, untill she found out 4 months after we broke up that I was banging this other girl. at whcich point she turns from walking on sunshine to playing the victim. Telling the girl, she going to try t=not to 'hate her but cannot promise anything'. and strait up quitting with no notice a week later. she quits the day after she 'likes' my new profile pic on fb. after that action i delete her from fb, outright. all her **** had been blocked for months so i did not see any of her activity. i literally have no idea where she is or what she is doing. dont care.
ok, so two days after she quits the job there, she emails me, asking me if i wanted to 'work on something' at her other job with her.?? and then saying that she heard through the grape vine that i was doing great and that made her happy. ( in know through mutual friends that did not make her happy. she was super fvcking pissed)
valentines day, she texts me out of the blue for the first time since we broke up. says she dropped something off through a mutual friend. i go to see what it is and its a bill she says im responsible for. i payed for it. whatever. but on valentimes day? go eat dinner and fvck your new boyfriend. know what i mean?
what is going on with this girl. she did not seem this drama filled when we were together... please advise. hope idid not ramble too much
Ok, let me try to summaraiz this as succinctly as I can.
We had a super intense passionate, enmeshed codependant relationship. Just to be honest. I know about 4 months in that she was REALLY needy. She loved me to a suffocating degree, and it made me clostrophobic. I had talks with her on several occasions ad almost broke up with her because it was too much. I had jsut got out of an 8 year marriage, hooked up with her, and she like wants to marry me. Litterally called me THE ONE. She was 20! I told her to chill the fvck out. I love d her too, but it was not healthy. I allowed it to persist. Eventually I asked her to move out and back into her dads place some two years later. I had a ton of wor to do, was super busy and needed some space to breath. And so she did. She still stayed over ALL THE TIME and we were still together. WE did not "break up". About a month after she moved out, my granny died, so I went to take care of her for like a week. My gf ook me to and dropped me off at the airport.
Fast forward to July 4th. Night time, fireworks, Ra-ra-ra. I see her checking her phone obsessively, and bells start going off. I have really good eye sight as well. I happen to see some dudes name all over her fvcking phone. Of course she senses this.
She had started seeing another guy. Going on dates with him over the month of June, and coming back to my house literally that same night or next day, saying she had "girls night" with her friends in a baby voice, head on my shoulder, the whole 9. It was like guilt manifest, in retrospect. Anyway, I found out. Nailed her to the fvcking cross, she begged me not to break up with her, said "nothing was going on" I "lost touch with my spirituality", etc. Crazy ****. It was OBVIOUS. She layed this huge guilt trip on me. Which I bought!
After a couple days of thinking about it, I was like "yeah, we haave a lot here. I fvcked things up too during this relationship, I'm sort of to blame..." what the fvck ever. Dumb.
I take her back! She has ME apologizing to HER!! All this came out of left field for me, so I was totally amushed here. She had me reAling! Ieven bought her a ring after this showing my committment to her. Something I had NEVER done, but what she always wanted. Told her I love her unconditionally, etc. All horrible mistakes. The day after I gave her the ring whcich she said she loved, she bailed and BROKE UP WITH ME through my roomate. Blocked me on facebook, and changed her profile pic to her at a bar with a different ring on the same finger (haha) her phone number. she then told her friends and family that I had been ABUSING HER. Same thing she told me about her boyfriend before me when I found out she was cheating on him. I got super pissed about that. She apparently uses that as a tactic to get attention off of her being a *****. I mean, she spun a web of lies Satan would have been proud of. Too many to list...
Anyway, I tell her if she wants to be single, I wish her the best. She says cool. i say goodbye.
She the proceeds to try to still talk to me. Tries to take me to dinner on my bday wcich was like 3 days later. I passed. Thankfully my friends were thinking more clearly than I. They were like, "dude, wtf are you doing?" She then freaks out, beggs me to meet sith her, says she didnt break up with me, etc...it was bull****. Anyway, I TAKE HER BACAK AGAIN! I know, Im a dumbfvck. I had never been through all this drama with a girl. EVER.
She comes back. The very same day, she starts talking to another guy, no idea who the fvck he is, or was. (no idea what shes doing, NC for 7 months).
She breaks up with me 3 weeks later, after being shady and treating me like ****. SHe beat me to the punch. One reason I put up with all this **** from her is because I totally dominated the realationship. Flirted to a egregious degree. Threatened to leave numerous times. I felt guilty. I wanted to make it right. I was also REALLY hard on her. To a dregree where I could see the resentment in her eyes towards the end.
So we broke up. I threw her fvcking number away that day. She would be walking on sunshine whenever I saw her. Like she had never been happier. Meanwhile she then implemented a gameplan of psychological warfare, the likes of which I have never seen! She immediatly tried befriending all our mutual friends. She tried to isolate me totally. My friends were like constantly telling me, "saw her out again, shes with some guy"...like shoving it in my face.
Mailed a fvcking pair of panties, ordered from NHL.com to my house in what I can only imagine is the dudes team. Shes loving it.
She then finds out Christmas Eve. I have been banging one of her friends. #Gamechanger. She flips her ****. txts the girl xmas eve. clalls another frined xmas DA'Y! emails me the day after xmas with some passive aggressive bs, "hey, do i have some stuff out there?" making small talk, etc. I ignore or give one word answers.
My ex worked one day a week where the girl I was sleeping with and I worked. That is, untill she found out 4 months after we broke up that I was banging this other girl. at whcich point she turns from walking on sunshine to playing the victim. Telling the girl, she going to try t=not to 'hate her but cannot promise anything'. and strait up quitting with no notice a week later. she quits the day after she 'likes' my new profile pic on fb. after that action i delete her from fb, outright. all her **** had been blocked for months so i did not see any of her activity. i literally have no idea where she is or what she is doing. dont care.
ok, so two days after she quits the job there, she emails me, asking me if i wanted to 'work on something' at her other job with her.?? and then saying that she heard through the grape vine that i was doing great and that made her happy. ( in know through mutual friends that did not make her happy. she was super fvcking pissed)
valentines day, she texts me out of the blue for the first time since we broke up. says she dropped something off through a mutual friend. i go to see what it is and its a bill she says im responsible for. i payed for it. whatever. but on valentimes day? go eat dinner and fvck your new boyfriend. know what i mean?
what is going on with this girl. she did not seem this drama filled when we were together... please advise. hope idid not ramble too much
