GF Flaked.. Slightly Suspicious!

[soulforge]

Ok so I had a date with my current chick at 7pm tonight..

Few days ago she tells me, that she has quite a bad sore throat, so I tell her that she should rest up, as I need her in good condition, ready to suck C@ck when she comes over (Banter) lol


So anyway yesterday I ask her how she is feeling, she states feeling much better, and she is looking forward to see me.

Today I get a call from her at 2pm, She tells me she is feeling unwell, and asked me, if I don't mind spending time with her, when she looks and feels rough..

My response was, I don't mind seeing her, I don't think a little bit of cold is an issue, however I gave her the option.. Told her it's upto her if she wants to make the journey over. She didn't give an answer, just said will speak bit later, as she off on school run.

She rang back again few hours ago, sounding bunged up with cold.. Claimed she isn't well enough to come over..

I said cool, not a problem.. You rest up..

Later she sent a text stating, she is sorry she couldn't come, and was going to miss spending time with me blah blah blah..

Anyhow, it all seems above board.. people get unwell sometimes, no big deal..

Only thing that got me thinking was, last night she said she was feeling much better, and her sore throat was nearly gone.

Plus she seems very quiet tonight, not many text messages.. Maybe just not well...

I'm off out tonight drinking with friends, will see how she is behaving tomorrow.. Flaking usually leads to other BS

And females are great fuking liars too! Very convincing

 

[Billtx49]

Some cold symptoms can come and go before you get well, especially if they’re bacterial in nature. Have personally experienced it.

 

[sosousage]

yeah.
She felt bad and canceled>feels good>feels bad at cancels again.

its a cake of lie

 

[wifehunter]

lolz! What's the point of lying if no one believes you? In order for someone to swallow a lie, there must be an element of truth. See: Satan

 

[soulforge]

Some cold symptoms can come and go especially if they’re bacterial in nature.

Yes this is true.. you can feel ok one moment, then cold and feverish again.. Chit happens!

What was a little odd was, the first time she called, she still wanted to come over, and wanted to know if i was okay with it.

When I gave her the impression, its upto her.. If she isn't well enough, then its not a problem.

She then called back and cancelled the date. Maybe she was feeling me out, to see how I react.

I think every chick will flake at some point... but you have to keep an eye on the situation, woman are sneaky as fuk.

 

[RedScorpion]

I wouldn't think too much of it. I know being sick and such can mess with your mood and motivation. You might feel great waking up fresh from a sleep, then 3-4 hours later, feel the energy just drain completely. I wouldn't be texting much either - just would be focused on my own sick feeling and making it through the day. I think as well, it's good in a sense that you can be comfortable enough with your date, to be able to cancel if it's not going to be great (and just 'bleh... sick').

I would just be relaxed, wish her that she just focus on getting better, and not worry about it.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

If she sounded sick, I would assume she was sick. I mean, why would she even flake out on you if everything else is good right now?

 

[soulforge]

Seems likely to me that she wanted to hang while sick with the idea in her head that you might come to her. When she realize she had to go out into the cold to come to you, she changed her mind because she didn't quite feel up to it.

Could be wrong, but its simple and makes sense to me.

She knows i wouldn't come to her, as my car is written off.. and she is over an hours drive away..

She sounded like she had a cold... She could be bluffing or she could be telling the truth.

I just handled it like it wasn't a problem and told her to rest up..

If her behaviour remains the same as before moving forward then it's all good.. If her behaviour changes, you know some chit is about to go down lol..

 

[soulforge]

If she sounded sick, I would assume she was sick. I mean, why would she even flake out on you if everything else is good right now?

Yeh things seem good, but here is where us men get fuked over...

We believe things are great, she flakes, then less text messages... then all of a sudden riding next mans dik

 

[Mazer]

She might still be sick or she had no intention of going over to your house. Her, asking you if you still wanted her to come over was a line of BS. She knew she wasn't going over to you, she was waiting for you to refuse her due to her being sick, so she wouldn't feel bad about her flaking. I would give her a call later at night around 9pm asking how she feels. This shows concern for her health but really to check to see where this bish be at.Tell her you are headed out to hang with friends and wanted to check on her.If she doesnt pick up, guess what, she is probably out partying.

 

[Billtx49]

She sounded like she had a cold…


I just handled it like it wasn't a problem and told her to rest up...

It’s flu season and she sounded sick on the phone. Sometimes it just is what it is. Don’t know why this is being considered as a flake.

Your response was right.

 

[soulforge]

She might still be sick or she had no intention of going over to your house. Her, asking you if you still wanted her to come over was a line of BS. She knew she wasn't going over to you, she was waiting for you to refuse her due to her being sick, so she wouldn't feel bad about her flaking. I would give her a call later at night around 9pm asking how she feels. This shows concern for her health but really to check to see where this bish be at.Tell her you are headed out to hang with friends and wanted to check on her.If she doesnt pick up, guess what, she is probably out partying.

I don't know about this man.. we never really ring each other.. On very rare occasions..

If I call her tonight, she will think it's very odd of me to be ringing? She might think i'm checking up on her, making me look like some beta paranoid idiot

 

[sazc]

Stop trippin.

This is the first time she's gotten flaky on you, right? If so, assume she is being honest about getting too downtrodden to make the trek, realize, when she gets sick, she probably just wants to rest, and BOLO for further flaky behavior that isn't connected to illness.

As far as being quiet that evening, she was probably chilling hard, or sleeping.

You sound a bit paranoid tbh

 

[Roober]

Is this your girlfriend, or just a more serious plate? I couldn't quite understand from your previous thread about this girl.

Regardless of what is going on, she has your hamster spinning over something sooooo minute. What does that mean? You still have to work on that inner game; A LOT of work. You shouldn't even bat an eye at stuff like this. You take what she gives to you. She is sick, you said get well, and leave it at that. Your over complicating a very simple matter because you are emotionally involved and the AFC in you is attempting to get to the surface.

Based on your interaction described above, I would also suggest that you are failing to lead, leaving her to guide some of the interaction and not feeling your strength. Why? Because it sounds like you are lacking it a bit still. She is sick and not feeling well? I would give a "come on over, I will take care of you ".

 

[soulforge]

Is this your girlfriend, or just a more serious plate? I couldn't quite understand from your previous thread about this girl.

Regardless of what is going on, she has your hamster spinning over something sooooo minute. What does that mean? You still have to work on that inner game; A LOT of work. You shouldn't even bat an eye at stuff like this. You take what she gives to you. She is sick, you said get well, and leave it at that. Your over complicating a very simple matter because you are emotionally involved and the AFC in you is attempting to get to the surface.

Based on your interaction described above, I would also suggest that you are failing to lead, leaving her to guide some of the interaction and not feeling your strength. Why? Because it sounds like you are lacking it a bit still. She is sick and not feeling well? I would give a "come on over, I will take care of you ".

Yeh the temptation was there to ask her to come over.. but the girl is unwell... How unwell I don't know..

By pushing her into making a one hour drive.. i.e leading.. could also be deemed as being inconsiderate. Or maybe even needy, in the sense, that i couldn't deal with not seeing her this weekend..

I always lead with this girl, however I don't want to be a dik either, expecting her to come over when ill.

So i left the choice to her.

 

[Bible_Belt]

She probably wanted you to at least offer to try to come over, as was said earlier. Some women have it in their head that the man in their life is supposed 'take care of them' when they are sick, whatever that means. You could call a takeout place near her and have them deliver some soup - romance from a distance, plus an excuse to see if she is home.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

I don't know about this man.. we never really ring each other.. On very rare occasions..

If I call her tonight, she will think it's very odd of me to be ringing? She might think i'm checking up on her, making me look like some beta paranoid idiot

Personally I think calling to check on her is gentlemanly rather than beta (assuming your relationship is somewhat serious). You're not going "I'LL DO ANYTHING FOR YOU PLEASE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT MEDICINE YOU NEED!!111"

A simple "Hey, are you feeling okay?" should be more than sufficient, and shows you give a crap.

 

[soulforge]

She probably wanted you to at least offer to try to come over, as was said earlier. Some women have it in their head that the man in their life is supposed 'take care of them' when they are sick, whatever that means. You could call a takeout place near her and have them deliver some soup - romance from a distance, plus an excuse to see if she is home.

She is miles away man.. Over one hour drive, and my car is busted.

Someone suggested give her a call, to see if she is feeling okay..

I don't normally call her, so calling her tonight may look suspicious to her, like i'm checking on her..

 

[soulforge]

Personally I think calling to check on her is gentlemanly rather than beta (assuming your relationship is somewhat serious). You're not going "I'LL DO ANYTHING FOR YOU PLEASE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT MEDICINE YOU NEED!!111"

A simple "Hey, are you feeling okay?" should be more than sufficient, and shows you give a crap.

You might be right here man.. Maybe a simple, just checking see if your feeling okay..

Short and sweet... If she lied, and is out and about, then probably she won't take my call

 

[Von]

She probably wanted you to at least offer to try to come over, as was said earlier. Some women have it in their head that the man in their life is supposed 'take care of them' when they are sick, whatever that means. You could call a takeout place near her and have them deliver some soup - romance from a distance, plus an excuse to see if she is home.

That's what I got too.

She probably opened the door for him to come over.

Now she knows he ain't serious about her.

It might hurt her but she will likely give another chance.

She's sick, boyfriend help their sick girlfriend.
Cold/flu get worst with time and you are left with low energy.. So driving 1hour to have sex and come back... ain't gonna help her... nor help her recover.

I had sex while having a cold once... its the most drunk I ever felt and couldn't finish lol.

OP is getting paranoid... I sense insecurities.
OP you mentioned you wanted nothing out of her except plate/fwb... you gotta act like you mean it.

If you want to solve your issues and to show you care about her... you drive there with hot soup (with some spiciness) + honey, lemon,gigner, hot water. (For hot water drink).