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GF Flaked.. Slightly Suspicious!

MoreThanSmooth

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Personally I'd say what differentiates a "plate" from a "gf" is normally:

1. Value
2. Commitment

Are you guys committed as "a thing", exclusively, formally? Or is it just kind of casual?

If she's your *actual* bona-fide GF, I'd say that means she's probably been judged by you as high value. Which, if you have good taste, means she's trustworthy when it comes to the big stuff (I.E. not climbing on other dudes) as well as attractive.

Personally using that logic I wouldn't worry about her bumping dudes whenever she's sick. Better to worry when she is consistently showing low interest in dates repeatedly all of a sudden, or if your sex life suddenly goes colder.

With a "plate" you have no commitment with, obviously bets are off and you'd be right to be more suspicious. But a girl you'd elevate to GF status should be someone you trust not to cheat.
 

Toddz

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Just chill and do you tonight. I wouldn't call or text her anything tonight or even tomorrow. Even if you do legitimately care to see how she's feeling, she'll spin it into you checking up on her or have some sort of trust issues (women are completely irrational in that sense)

Watch her behavior for the next few days and mirror her communication. Her actions will begin to tell you if something else is up other than being under the weather. We as men tend to dig ourselves into a hole by overtly trying to keep things as status quo and make things right. This unfortunately comes off seeming desperate and or needy.

Just chill and be cool. You'll know if something is up by her behavior over the next week or so...
 

marmel75

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I think you are overthinking it. Just see how things play out over the next week or so.
 

QuadDeuces

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I was sick last week too and didn't want to see the girl I'm dating too.
It was very annoying that she was blowing up my phone the whole time trying to impose herself to come and take care of me.
I told her, no I just want to be left alone for a week until I'm better.

So your girl is most likely just be feeling sick and not want to have you around for a while.
 

Dingo

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I wouldn't go near her if she had a cold... even if she just hinted at one... **** that !
 

guru1000

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OP: My girl caught a cold and cancelled.

Poster 1: it’s a bluff
Poster 2: she’s shvt-testing you
Poster 3: hypergamy, she’s branchswinging
Poster 4: trust your gut

Good God, this is what the forum evolved into?

OP, she’s sick. See how she’s feeling. Ridiculous.
 

soulforge

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I was sick last week too and didn't want to see the girl I'm dating too.
It was very annoying that she was blowing up my phone the whole time trying to impose herself to come and take care of me.
I told her, no I just want to be left alone for a week until I'm better.

So your girl is most likely just be feeling sick and not want to have you around for a while.

Yeh but seriously, I didn't really want her slobbering all over me with cold and flue either... So I just left her to recover, went out with my mates last night..

We got drunk, met some girls, etc etc... anyhow I just sent her a message today, told her to chill and recover soon.

Forget driving over to see her, or ringing her.. She got flue, not on her fricking death bed.
 

Macaframalama

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OP: My girl caught a cold and cancelled.

Poster 1: it’s a bluff
Poster 2: she’s shvt-testing you
Poster 3: hypergamy, she’s branchswinging
Poster 4: trust your gut

Good God, this is what the forum evolved into?

OP, she’s sick. See how she’s feeling. Ridiculous.
$$$. Playing the game vs the game playing you.
 

marmel75

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OP: My girl caught a cold and cancelled.

Poster 1: it’s a bluff
Poster 2: she’s shvt-testing you
Poster 3: hypergamy, she’s branchswinging
Poster 4: trust your gut

Good God, this is what the forum evolved into?

OP, she’s sick. See how she’s feeling. Ridiculous.
Yeah pretty much. Everything a woman does is intended to be a sh!t test or to see how a guy reacts...smfh
 
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