GF doesn't want to have sex anymore ?

[hck332]

yes that's it!

That's what i thought, but HOW can I overcome this???

She says that time will cure that.
But I doubt... I think I need to do something else...

I really don't think she's seeing someone else - she invites me to come over all the time. She wants me to be there... She doesn't avoid me - she only avoids sex.

I know this is very rare situation, and I doubt someone here have been in it... I hope you guys will come up with some ideas.

 

[Adone]

Originally posted by ( . )( . )
Look at me I'm pissing down this guys back and telling him its rain. Which episode of Dr Phil was that garbage dragged from?

If everyones done sucking this chumps d!ck I might say a few words.

Lesson 1. If your not fvcking her some other guy is, no ifs and or buts. End of story.

Lesson 2. I'm presuming your a man or at least something close to it yes? Which means no chick EVER dictates to you when and where she will have sex with you. "Patience" is ******** for "hoops" understand? you dont jump through anyones hoops .

Lesson 3. Sex is a part of any normal relationship, when a mans needs are not being met he walks. What he doesnt do is look for ways to reward her.

I totally disagree with the first point, but 2nd and 3rd are pure gold.

 

[pagemaster]

I don't want to say this but I think you are going to break up.

 

[Desdinova]

This post I just wrote up is kinda deceptive, but it might help you out a bit:

I pulled this from Sir Chancealot's Advanced Sexual Techniques
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16888&highlight=advanced+sexual+techniques

Here are some important reminders when thinking about Advanced Sexual Technique.

Really good sex will connect a woman to you like nothing else can.

Women love sex, they just don't want to be viewed as sl*ts.

Sex with a wife will be better than sex in an LTR, or ONS.

“No Way!” some of you will cry. You will also happen to be wrong. First, really think about women not wanting to think of themselves as sl*ts. A wife can have all the sex she wants with her husband, and even the most religious person can't say anything bad about that. It gives her a freedom to let loose her sexual beast. Believe me, if you DO understand what I mean, you know why I call it a “beast” http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/wink.gif (But only in the good sense!)
Deep down, women know that men don't respect sexually loose women.

Now, this doesn't mean that you need to marry her to "fix" her slvt barrier. You may have to communicate how you view the relationship. If you're not in a LTR but you're not wanting to date other women, let her know that the two of you are exclusive.

I'm also going to take back *some* of what I said about romantic gestures. One gesture (note, only ONE) may be appropriate here. Don't go out and buy her a fvcking teddy bear. That won't fix anything.

Take her out somewhere secluded and "romantic" (not a movie theatre) and have a deep conversation with her. Recap some of the best memories that the two of you have. Let her know that the relationship (to you) is exclusive. DO NOT MENTION OR PUSH SEX. You've been focussing on that for a while now. It's time to make her beg for it.

She might have sex with you after this. If not...

After this "romantic" night, pull back the attention you give her a little bit. Cancel one (and only one) date. Make your visits a bit shorter because you have something else that needs to be done.

She might have sex with you after this. If not...

Now, you're going to turn the tables. On one of your dates after the "romantic" date, tell her "You know, I discovered that I don't need sex. I'm happy just spending time with you."

Yeah, I'm a rotten bastard. I stole that from this thread:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=22017

That is a rejection, and damn close to a neg-hit. It should be true that you don't *need* sex. After all, we were given not one, but two hands!! You can satisfy yourself. To hell with her, make love to the best damn person in the world... yourself!

If she doesn't fvck you after that, end the relationship.

 

[hck332]

Hi, Desdinova

Thank you for your advice. I like you dating idea, and talking about beautiful moments and memories...


but wait! I can't think of any SPECIAL moment with her (except few times when sex was great). I guess I really view her as slut!

Maybe she started to think that about our past, and she realised that in this relationship nothing special happened except of sex

 

[NewMan]

Come this post has to be BS....

because there are only 4 things you need to say to her.

have a nice life.

and walk.

these are power games that she is playing - you need to call her bluff otherwise the rest of your life with this Ho will be nothing but trouble.

wake up pvssy.

 

[Desdinova]

but wait! I can't think of any SPECIAL moment with her (except few times when sex was great). I guess I really view her as slut!

Well then, discard most of what I said. It sounded like you've been with her for a while. In that case...

these are power games that she is playing - you need to call her bluff otherwise the rest of your life with this Ho will be nothing but trouble.

I'm with NewMan. If you've only been on a few dates and she's already pulling the sex, she's not worth it.

 

[hck332]

well that's what i'm thinking to do.


It would really be the easiest thing to do, BUT she's really having hard time in other aspects of her life, so I think I would be very unkind to leave her now. And she also says she loves me more than anyone...





Desdinova, I've been with her for 4 months. We're in committed LTR. I can't just dump her.

 

[Distant Light]

That day I asked her if she's with me only for sex. And than she started to cry and say how she loves me.

What were you thinking seriously you just fuvked up everything for you and her. What you got to understand women have a higher priorty of Social status than a relationship. You said that remark she then thinks that you think she is a slut. Which now she doesn't want to do anything because now if she does fuvk you she is going to remember what you said. Damn its messed up that you said that.

Originally posted by Desdinova
Women read into things. This was translated in her head to "You are a slvt".

She now thinks that you view her as a slvt. She's put up a barrier in her mind that is preventing her from having a sexual attraction toward you. Not sure how you can break that down, but romantic gestures aren't going to help.

Man that guy is right, You basically did a LOW Blow to ur relationship with her. I say your fuvked I don't really know how to help you with this because, what you said is by far one of the dumbest thing I've heard in awhile.

 

[hck332]

There has to be some great moments we've shared...

yeah, there were... at least 2 or 3 that are worth mentioning...

I'll have to put them on the paper

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Iron Rule of Tomassi #3

Any woman that makes you wait for sex, or by her action implies that she is making you wait; the sex is NEVER worth the wait.

By waiting patiently like a good AFC, you conform to her frame, her reality and must qualify yourself to her.

You're basically reapplying for your old job in this instance. So do yourself a favor and apply for several other jobs instead - ones that are more rewarding and have better benefits.

 

[hck332]

Originally posted by Distant Light
What were you thinking seriously you just fuvked up everything for you and her. What you got to understand women have a higher priorty of Social status than a relationship. You said that remark she then thinks that you think she is a slut. Which now she doesn't want to do anything because now if she does fuvk you she is going to remember what you said. Damn its messed up that you said that.



Man that guy is right, You basically did a LOW Blow to ur relationship with her. I say your fuvked I don't really know how to help you with this because, what you said is by far one of the dumbest thing I've heard in awhile.

****.

HOW CAN I CORRECT THIS!! PLEASE!! THERE MUST BE THE WAY!

 

[Desdinova]

At this point, I have to ask: How long have you been with her?

 

[hck332]

actually a little more than 4 months

 

[djbr]

my signature is making my post count go beserk.

 

[Desdinova]

Okay, so that's not short, but it's not long. You can try what I suggested, but you must be willing to ditch her if she doesn't give up the sex control. No woman is worth waiting for.

If you can't think of any special moments with her, skip the romantic date and start pulling back the attention you give her.

I know I'm going against most people on here to just cut her loose, but it doesn't sound like she's fvcking someone else, nor has her IL dropped below sea level.

 

[hck332]

Thanks.

I would like to hear some more opinions.

This is the story:

We are in LTR. I asked her if she's with me for sex only (the dumbest words ever), and she feels like slut now.

She doesnt want to have sex with me because it would remind her of those words (but she knows this state of her mind will end in some time).


Should i say something like:

1) "I know what i said was stupid. I hope you'll find someone, i just can't be with you anymore. I learned a big lesson"

2) Or should i try to correct this mistake (how?)

3) OR should I just wait and masturbate until she gets over it?

4) Or follow my friends advice - go and **** someone else while still being with her

 

[gongxia649]

if that girl cries is a really bad sign.

 

[Porky]

Originally posted by Rollo Tomassi
Iron Rule of Tomassi #3

Any woman that makes you wait for sex, or by her action implies that she is making you wait; the sex is NEVER worth the wait.

what if she's sore from all of the fvcking you did earlier?

 

[Socialreject]

Let me put things into perspective for you...

When a woman explicitly says she truly, honestly and RLY RLY loves you...

That means: I'm feeling guilty about something, i think about you a lot so i must really love you, but the truth is I'm just not comfy with something I'm doing, or not doing in your case...

When someone loves you they don't say they do as an excuse for something they are doing/not doing.

Let me guess...

You said something kinda stupid, that you didn't really mean but sort of slipped out of your mouth... Ok so, no more sex

OK, you obviously apologised for it. You made it clear that you didn't mean it that way. You explained that in every way humanly possible.

Now do you really think that anyone/thing that even HAS a brain would not see what you said as a very obvious and unintended error on your part, after all the explaining you did?

No, that doesn't make sense does it? That's cause it's not the real reason. It's an excuse for the real reason which is to difficult/ugly to face.

The reason why this seems complicated is because it's full of untruths and brain farts.... while in reality it's very simple.

Sry to have to be the one to say this but, finish it. She has issues and nothing you can say will fix it. So make your choice, either cut off your **** and put it in the freezer or find someone else. If you truly believe this happened because you said something to her you need to open your eyes.

Oh and PS... this won't go away by being patient. You're gonna be 5 years down the road and still being patient. She doesn't want it anymore, in fact she resents it. If you back off now and don't push the matter she will just grown comfortable not having sex and you'll never get it again. She doesn't want it, so if you don't press it it's not going to happen and if you do press it you will just make it worse.

I'm not making this up btw, i'm speaking from PERSONAL experience. People don't just one day lose their sexdrives over something you SAY. That has BS written all over it. I don't care howmany Doc phil tapes you watched, the outcome of this mindtrack is so far off the mark it's not even funny anymore. Reminds me of people in support groups bringing the most trivial unimportant crap just to be able to say something in the group and get what's really bothering them... ie lack of attention.

ANY sane person asked the question 'are you just with me for the sex', would reply with yes/no/wtf?!/some more elaborate form. They might be a tad upset, but go full out into a tantrum causing deep emotional anguish... allow me to LMFAO. What happens when her cat dies? She kills herself?

Seriously, i'm not saying this to put you down, make you feel bad or bash on your gf/women in general. I'm simple stripping away the BS and showing you what's really going on. It's not really anyones fault, she is simply responding to things she is feeling. She doesn't want to have sex, so you must be doing something wrong, OR worse it's something wrong with her, she feels guilty towards you, she apologised by saying she loves you. I could go on, but it's really not worth it.

Don't try to 'fix' this. Unless you have a PHD in psychiatry, and even then it's like defusing a nuke with an attitude. She will have to sort out her head for herself. The choice is up to you wether you want to stick around and wait while she does this. Just bare in mind that some people spend their whole lives trying to sort out their issues and end it with a 'mission failed'.