Let me put things into perspective for you...
When a woman explicitly says she truly, honestly and RLY RLY loves you...
That means: I'm feeling guilty about something, i think about you a lot so i must really love you, but the truth is I'm just not comfy with something I'm doing, or not doing in your case...
When someone loves you they don't say they do as an excuse for something they are doing/not doing.
Let me guess...
You said something kinda stupid, that you didn't really mean but sort of slipped out of your mouth... Ok so, no more sex
OK, you obviously apologised for it. You made it clear that you didn't mean it that way. You explained that in every way humanly possible.
Now do you really think that anyone/thing that even HAS a brain would not see what you said as a very obvious and unintended error on your part, after all the explaining you did?
No, that doesn't make sense does it? That's cause it's not the real reason. It's an excuse for the real reason which is to difficult/ugly to face.
The reason why this seems complicated is because it's full of untruths and brain farts.... while in reality it's very simple.
Sry to have to be the one to say this but, finish it. She has issues and nothing you can say will fix it. So make your choice, either cut off your **** and put it in the freezer or find someone else. If you truly believe this happened because you said something to her you need to open your eyes.
Oh and PS... this won't go away by being patient. You're gonna be 5 years down the road and still being patient. She doesn't want it anymore, in fact she resents it. If you back off now and don't push the matter she will just grown comfortable not having sex and you'll never get it again. She doesn't want it, so if you don't press it it's not going to happen and if you do press it you will just make it worse.
I'm not making this up btw, i'm speaking from PERSONAL experience. People don't just one day lose their sexdrives over something you SAY. That has BS written all over it. I don't care howmany Doc phil tapes you watched, the outcome of this mindtrack is so far off the mark it's not even funny anymore. Reminds me of people in support groups bringing the most trivial unimportant crap just to be able to say something in the group and get what's really bothering them... ie lack of attention.
ANY sane person asked the question 'are you just with me for the sex', would reply with yes/no/wtf?!/some more elaborate form. They might be a tad upset, but go full out into a tantrum causing deep emotional anguish... allow me to LMFAO. What happens when her cat dies? She kills herself?
Seriously, i'm not saying this to put you down, make you feel bad or bash on your gf/women in general. I'm simple stripping away the BS and showing you what's really going on. It's not really anyones fault, she is simply responding to things she is feeling. She doesn't want to have sex, so you must be doing something wrong, OR worse it's something wrong with her, she feels guilty towards you, she apologised by saying she loves you. I could go on, but it's really not worth it.
Don't try to 'fix' this. Unless you have a PHD in psychiatry, and even then it's like defusing a nuke with an attitude. She will have to sort out her head for herself. The choice is up to you wether you want to stick around and wait while she does this. Just bare in mind that some people spend their whole lives trying to sort out their issues and end it with a 'mission failed'.
