Gf Broke Up With Me - Need Advice

[BULL3TPR00F]

I have been dating a 26yo girl for four months, who I really liked a lot. She was a beautiful lawyer, and was very smart.

A week and a half ago, she broke up with me.

One night we had plans to go out to dinner at 8pm with another couple, and then she was going to come back to my place to sleep over. I was expecting her to come to my place at 5pm so we can spend time together before we went out. She texted me telling me that she was running late, and then she asked if I could pick her up because it was raining out. I texted her back "You can't drive in the rain?". This made her flip out, and she cancelled the plans. She called me and asked why I couldn't just pick her up. I asked her why she couldn't drive in the rain and she said she didn't want to get her hair wet. I sarcastically said "oh my god you're going to get your hair wet" and then I told her to use an umbrella. This is when she cancelled the plans (again), hung up and didn't contact me for the rest of the night. (Btw, she only lives 12 minutes away)

The next day I contacted her and said we should meet and talk. When we met, she was very cold and broke up with me. She said that if I couldn't do a favor for her by picking her up, then I wouldn't be there for her for bigger things. She said her dad never did favors for her either. (She hates her dad, and went through a lot of very bad things with him that she never discussed with me). I told her that this was the first time I said no to her, and I did many favors for her in the past. I accepted that she broke up with me, told her how I felt, and politely asked her to stop texting me. I haven't spoken to her since then.

This was the very FIRST time that I ever said NO to her in the 4 months I dated her. I said "no" about picking her up because I picked her up two weekends in a row. She never drove me anywhere in her car (not even once). When she asked me to pick her up, I got a vibe that she was demanding me to pick her up (not asking me). Sure enough, when I said "no" she flipped out.

Prior to this, she picked on me on many occasions:

1. She picked on me for keeping my place too clean and organized. She said I had "OCD".

2. She got mad at me for "checking out a gay guy" and said I might be gay too.

3. She picked on me once before bed and upset me, so I left the bedroom and went into my office to go on my computer. I did not yell at her or get angry. The next day she said she was nervous that I was "going to rape her". (This is crazy because I am not violent and never got angry with her EVER)

4. She texted me not to drink soda because the phosphoric acid is bad for me. I texted her back once "Omg the phosphoric acid is eating my insides and I am dying.". She got angry and texted me back "This relationship isn't going to work out". I had to explain I was joking to calm her down.


I think the whole reason why she broke up with me is really silly. I liked her a lot and expected much more from this relationship. She deleted me from both Facebook and Instagram, but kept all the pictures of us up.

Do you think she really still wants to be with me? Should I try and get her back, or is this a fight not worth fighting?

 

[Big Nuts]

She sounds awful! A lawyer cvnt too.....NEXT!!!

 

[VladPatton]

She sounds awful! A lawyer cvnt too.....NEXT!!!

Couldn't of said it better, myself!

Good riddance. I'd be getting hammered every night to celebrate if I were you, you lost nothing but trash, I don't care how good looking she was. I feel sorry for the poor bastard that will end up licking her ass his whole life.

 

[donking]

get "no" in your vocabulary much earlier - maybe like 1st date after u f her.

 

[Berocca]

Listen to these guys above. I feel sad for the next guy too.

You should not want to be with such a woman, and it will only get worse and worse. Not better.

 

[tryst type]

get "no" in your vocabulary much earlier - maybe like 1st date after u f her.

Yup, wholeheartedly agree with this. Even before you F her, I usually say no to any request whether small or big very early on.

 

[Yo'Mama]

She sounds like the worst person alive. Thank your lucky stars you're shot of her.

 

[Die Hard]

Yuck, what a dispicable animal she is! Sounds like cluster B all the way, you should be very happy that you got rid of her!

Let me make his clear: If you continue with her, this woman will make your life absolutely miserable.

I repeat: If you continue with her, this woman will make your life absolutely miserable.

Don't fool yourself into thinking you can "correct" her behavior. She might come back to you, apologize for everything, make it up to...your reunion will feel like heaven! That's just the beginning of the "BPD cycle"...
You get the idea that she CAN be reasonable after all, coz she apologized and behaved well. But this exact situation will return soon enough, she'll flip out over something again and the two of you will break up again.....and have another blissful reunion again. Etc. etc. etc.
All the while you get emotionally hooked on her like a crack addict and won't be able to quit your addiction even though the woman hurts your feelings continually and you realize you SHOULD get away from her.

Actually, I suspect you might already be that far gone. But you know that best for yourself...

Anyway, delete her from Facebook and all other social media stuff, delete her phone number, go No Contact and stick with it! Eventually, you'll forget about her and meet another girl. Hopefully one that treats you the way you deserve to be treated, instead of this bytch who's like some terrible illness that you need to cure from.

 

[In2theGame]

I have been dating a 26yo girl for four months, who I really liked a lot. She was a beautiful lawyer, and was very smart.

A week and a half ago, she broke up with me.

One night we had plans to go out to dinner at 8pm with another couple, and then she was going to come back to my place to sleep over. I was expecting her to come to my place at 5pm so we can spend time together before we went out. She texted me telling me that she was running late, and then she asked if I could pick her up because it was raining out. I texted her back "You can't drive in the rain?". This made her flip out, and she cancelled the plans. She called me and asked why I couldn't just pick her up. I asked her why she couldn't drive in the rain and she said she didn't want to get her hair wet. I sarcastically said "oh my god you're going to get your hair wet" and then I told her to use an umbrella. This is when she cancelled the plans (again), hung up and didn't contact me for the rest of the night. (Btw, she only lives 12 minutes away)

The next day I contacted her and said we should meet and talk. When we met, she was very cold and broke up with me. She said that if I couldn't do a favor for her by picking her up, then I wouldn't be there for her for bigger things. She said her dad never did favors for her either. (She hates her dad, and went through a lot of very bad things with him that she never discussed with me). I told her that this was the first time I said no to her, and I did many favors for her in the past. I accepted that she broke up with me, told her how I felt, and politely asked her to stop texting me. I haven't spoken to her since then.

This was the very FIRST time that I ever said NO to her in the 4 months I dated her. I said "no" about picking her up because I picked her up two weekends in a row. She never drove me anywhere in her car (not even once). When she asked me to pick her up, I got a vibe that she was demanding me to pick her up (not asking me). Sure enough, when I said "no" she flipped out.

Prior to this, she picked on me on many occasions:

1. She picked on me for keeping my place too clean and organized. She said I had "OCD".

2. She got mad at me for "checking out a gay guy" and said I might be gay too.

3. She picked on me once before bed and upset me, so I left the bedroom and went into my office to go on my computer. I did not yell at her or get angry. The next day she said she was nervous that I was "going to rape her". (This is crazy because I am not violent and never got angry with her EVER)

4. She texted me not to drink soda because the phosphoric acid is bad for me. I texted her back once "Omg the phosphoric acid is eating my insides and I am dying.". She got angry and texted me back "This relationship isn't going to work out". I had to explain I was joking to calm her down.


I think the whole reason why she broke up with me is really silly. I liked her a lot and expected much more from this relationship.

Do you see why she broke up with you and seemed to walk all over you? Put your balls back on. She wants a man to put her azz in check and you didnt do it.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Keep this in mind fella's: The greatest gift you can give a woman is the occasional "No.".

Not only will a stern "No." keep her brain in-check, it will also elevate you to a higher standard than the rest of the rabble who refuse to do anything that could chance to piss her off. Who gives a fvck if she gets pissed? Getting upset creates an emotional response, which also creates an instant imprint in her mind when she thinks of you. You think she cares if you bought her a bouquet of stinky sh!t weeds? It's nice for a second or two when she flaunts it in her girlfriend's faces, but it's the emotional trigger which makes her swoon.

Always be taking her on an emotional roller-coaster ride. There's no diamond encrusted c0ck-ring large enough to replace the feeling of the flooding emotion.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Sorry but this is an oxymoron; there is no such thing as a beautiful smart lawyer.

Where the fvck do you crash Barney Fife? In the real world there are gorgeous female Lawyers in droves. Drive through downtown Tampa any morning around 0700. Your eyes would explode from the sheer sight of them meandering the sidewalk.

The real problem here is that you pedestalized her, and subconsciously thought she was too good for you. She gained the upper hand in this balance of power struggle known as a relationship, and you unfortunately lost. Basically, you came to care more about her opinion than she did about yours.

She is an entitled b*tch, and you have been giving her your finger while she has demanded your entire arm - while conveniently (for her) giving you nothing in return. Consider yourself lucky in that you only wasted 4 months with this human vulture.

Don't waste any more of your time on this woman. Things would have just gotten worse. Count your blessings that you got out of it when you did.

The rest of this isn't bad.

 

[Die Hard]

Uh oh... I feel an AMOG contest coming up between Brad and Karma here

Anyway, the guys handing out advice (hey, it rhimes!) about putting the girl in check, are overlooking the cluster B aspect here. These bytches CANNOT be put in check, it's a futile effort. In fact, the guy is only gonna get drawn into her vortex more and more if he tries to put her in check.

The only way to "win" the game with these cvnts, is by not playing at all!


When it comes to gaming girls IN GENERAL, though...your advice is spot on.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Nothing of the sort. An idiotic statement screams to be called out, nothing more.

To say, in a definitive tone, that there are no beautiful female lawyers is akin to saying all forum Moderators know what the fvck they're speaking about.

Neither are true.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Bullet Proof,
Sorry mate but nexting is too good for this Bride of Satan,humiliate her!

 

[Bwana]

Go to the DJ bible and read women to avoid by Bungo Pony. You will find her type in there. I dated 2 like her and trust me things only go down hill from where you are at. Run and don't look back.

 

[TheBossman]

Should OP have ditched this girl when he found out she had a bad father/daughter relationship?

 

[Bokanovsky]

Guys like the OP are the reason why women are such entitled cvnts these days. She treats you like sh!t, walks all over you and you STILL want her back. What does she have to do in order for you to stop wanting her? Kill your mother?

 

[BULL3TPR00F]

Thank you everyone for your comments. You made me feel better about moving on and not looking back.

 

[LiveFreeX]

I have been dating a 26yo girl for four months, who I really liked a lot. She was a beautiful lawyer, and was very smart.

A week and a half ago, she broke up with me.

Celebrate.

No b1tch should be allowed to insult your sexuality. That would be an instant dump for me.

 

[disgustipated]

You should've dumped her at the first sign of major disrespect. Look up one my posts about my ex man, I should've listened to every guy here...I have to learn the hard way though it seems.

The more you bend, the more they will try to bend you some more. Think of it this way...you come into a relationship as 100 percent man power...or should...that's what attracted her to you at first. First compromise, you go down to 90 or so level...2nd, 75....3rd even further. On down the line....pretty soon you have bended and compromised so far there is literally no more room to bend because you've now given in to every single thing she's wanted. There is no challenge left for her. No bad boy to tame. No.thrill. and what's worse, THEE worst is, you will hate yourself for not being true to who you are. She will hate you , naturally, for not being man enough to tell her no and stick with it.