GEZZZZZZ What next? Any help with this situation guys?

[badger04]

I have been dating this girl for the past 7-8 months. I am 29 and she is 24. Shes probably an honest 9. BUT this girl has this "what have you done for me lately mentality. She has broke up with me 4-5 times and everytime she does we are back together the next day because when she calls I can't help it as I have some strong feelings for her. It seems as though I can't do enough to keep her happy or give her enough attention????? WTF? So Friday we got into it again and when she called Saturday I told her NO I was going out with my friends "whom I have written off the past months to be with this girl" She gets TICKED and comes to my house, screams at me, throws a big ass scene, almost breaks my front door and scrams off the porch and out of the driveway. I was actually hoping to let it cool down and get together and talk on Sunday after I did this to let her know I am sick of it. TURNS OUT she hooks up with some guy SATUDAY as soon as she leaves my house, goes out, stays all night with him and apparently is with him now. WTF AGAIN? I know shes talked to him before as she was joking around one night and I said if hes so great go to him....LOL Her response was that " I know I can have him if I ever want him"??????? I feel that I am probably the first guy to ever turn my back on her as shes usually the one who does all the breaking up with her previous guys. Thing is we have both put alot into this and it sickens me to see her go out the SAME NIGHT and not only hook up but STILL BE WITH THE GUY. She only lives 1 block from my business so naturally I noticed his truck there. She tells me she is just "confused"?????????? SO I didn't call her Monday and she called me 2 times the next day for lame reasons. I know shes messing around with this other guy as hes the type to eat out of her hand. Hes already doing it I am sure......LOL I am NOT. So how can I turn this game around on HER and really make her confusion a BIG TIME HEADACHE> When I talked to her last night she made sure to ask if I was going out and I said YES. And she proceeded to ask if I had my daughter tonite? So shes wondering about somthing. WHAT GIVES with this typew female and how do you handle the situation from here?

Thanks guys.

 

[Crotch Sniffer]

Let me be the first to say NEXXXXXXXTTTT!

You will hear this repeated so get used to it.

This girl is playin you for a fool. I say get with the girl who has the "what can I do to make you happy" attitude instead of "what have you done for me lately.

I dated a chick like this for a year. It was madness! The highs the lows! The emotions were all over the place. One minute we´d be fighting, the next having great makeup sex. It was INTENSE!

I didnt realize at the time but it was so intense that the relationship consumed me! I neglected all of my hobbies interests and friends for this girl. She ended up cheating on me and trying to escalate the drama.

See thats the trouble with this type of girl, she gets used to a regular pattern of drama and bullsh*t that she has to keep upping the ante, much like a crack head who needs to smoke twice as much to get anywhere near that first high.


Trust me man. Your best bet is to RUN and dont look back!

You obviously have the skills to hook up with hotties, so apply this elsewhere, or better yet, focus on your life and what you wnat out of it. Ya aint gonna live forever you know!

 

[Chewy Bagel]

Here's the deal. This girl is not LTR material. So, before you say goodbye to her again, try to get her to let you f-uck her in the ass and/or have a three way with one of her best friends or some random girl you meet at a bar. Then, never talk with her again.

I would not let any girl treat me with such disrespect - If she pulled any of that **** on me, then she would be gone the next day.

With all the stories I'm hearing on here lately, I'm glad that I'm with my girlie....so often LTR's turn out bad and because you're so in love and have invested so much time in that person it's nearly impossible to leave the relationship. Ouch...

 

[badger04]

WELLLLLLLL, Last weekend we had been fighting and it was her fault so while having sex I told her " You know it's time for a little payback"...LOL Rolled her over lubed up the jimmy and inserted it into the rear...LOL As for the 3 way 2 weeks ago we were talking about that stuff and she told me she would let another girl be with us as long as she could pick her etc.......... THATS why I hate to lose this one....LOL So there really nothing I can do to help this? She told me yesterday that she gave in more to me and swallowed her pride more than anyone shes ever been with and it got her no where so it's the last time shes doing it with anyone, Just out of curiosity how long will it take for her to destroy this 24-25 guy she left me to go with. Hes already eating out of her hand. Taking his computer to her house for her to use, taking her out all night, you know the type. Anymore suggestions.?

 

[NewMan]

Cut off contact - don't be the guy who eats from her hand - you will drive her crazy.

But the posts are right - she's definitely not LTR material.

 

[badger04]

Well heres an update for you guys. She called this afternoon so I told her to stop down at my business and such. She came down about 1:30 and stayed until 5:30. She had class at 2:00 and skipped it to sit and talk with me I guess. We talked about alot of stuff and naturally there was times when we just stood and hugged each other etc... During this time her cell phone was ringing and she just looked down at it and didn't even answer it. It was the new man of course. GET THIS SHAT, He has only been with her since Saturday night and already in 3-4 days he has. Bought her a new cell phone, Took her shopping, Took her 4 wheeler riding, To the flea markets, and even was nice enough to take his computer to her house to let her do her midterm. I wouldn't let her use mine seeing how we are not going out....LOL He even offered Saturday night to take her to my house to see if I was actually home????? WTF. It seems these 2 spend an awful lot of time talking about me? This guy is only 23-24 so what the hell is doing all this crap for after being with a girl 3-4 days? I just grabbed her and stared deep into her eyes and said "anyone can buy you things, what me and you have you cannot buy". Than I asked her does she love me. Of course she says yes, I said you don't love him, Of course she said No and so forth. When I came home this evening she called 3 times before 9:00 and than pud head showed up and she said she had to go. I asked her why and she said since she was using his computer he was stopping by blah, blah, blah,. Funny thing was that last night when I called I was in town and had my new Mustang Cobra Convertible out driving around I asked her if her boyfriend was there and she said " I don't have a boyfriend".....LOL If I was this guy sitting there I would have wigged out. I talked to her about 10 minutes and told her I was heading into town to hit the clubs and today she told me she was pissed that I did that. After I got off the phone goober boy got mad at her for talking to me and left...... I am sure he came back as hes eating out of her hand so to speak.
I also asked her out FRiday for the 2nd time and she said " WHY can't it be Saturday do you have plans or what the hell.......???????? LOL this was a classis to me as it seems she really doesnt want me to be out running around town even though she ""supposedly" has a new boyfriend"........ WTF is up with this situation?

 

[Crotch Sniffer]

Haha!

She found an AFC to try and make you jealous, and since that doesnt work, she wants you now more than ever. You have all the power here. Feels good dont it? Use it wisely!

Hit it and quit it! Or just make her your sex slave for a while...

 

[badger04]

What bugs the crap out of me is that she tells me hes soooooooo perfect and so sweeeeeeeet and has done more for her in 3-4 days such as showing attention and such than I have in 6 months????? " OK if thats so why is she sitting here at my business all afternoon ignoring his phone calls"? So than if thats the case why is she upset at what I am doing. Going out, running around etc... I really feel she has an obsession with me so how can I use this against her and get rid of this clown. She also told me how tore up she was " I know this is true" that I came back in her life after Saturday night and all this crap. She jokingly said Can I just be with him and if it doesnt work out we can get back together.? I just laughed and said the weekend is approaching and I am going out with or without you.
Is it possible that this guy has such a good game that by indulging her with all this attention and effort that shes actually forgetting about me. I would like to work it out with her as we had a decent thing and my 6 year old daughter loves her as well they get along pretty good. What ticks me off is that she calls me tonite and we are talking about sex and how the last time we had sex on Friday it was freaking awesome and so forth and shes really horny and all this shat. BUT THEN I have to sit here all freaking night alone while mr. buy my love is down there at her apt. helping her with her term paper? HOW in the hell do I counteract these acts of sabotage by this guy

 

[Crotch Sniffer]

Wow you really dont get it do you?

The other guy is sabotaging HIMSELF!

The absolute worst thing you can do is give a girl so much attention/gifts/ass-kissing, especially right from the start. She doesnt take him seriously because he is not a MAN!

He is a chump who must compensate for his lack of manhood by buying her things and eating out of her hand as you say. She is not attracted to him as much as she is to you, the MAN who does not need her and whose life is just fine and dandy without her.

This drives women crazy! Of course she is obsessed with you! She won´t be able to validate her own self esteem until she proves to herself that she can win you back and turn her into her little pet, at which point she will lose interest again and find some other badboy who doesn´t need her.

I know this sounds totally illogical, but it is 100% TRUE!!!

Just play it cool like you are doing right now, the chump will phase himself out and ultimately that ass is yours!

Dont fall under her spell though! Stay away from LTR with this one and never give your power away! You can be sweet to her when she deserves/earns it, but dont ever spoil her! ALways keep her wanting more of you (kinda like you are doing now)

 

[badger04]

DAMN, I was almost under the impression that since this guy is doing all these bull**** things, giving her attention 24/7 and all that crap that hes winning her over. But in reality it seems she is spening an awful lot of time thinking about me now that she knows I want her back. What wigs me out is the fact that I know she has really led on a few guys and dumped them. Most were the nice guy types. So maybe this guy doesnt even realize what hes doing. After all when I was that age I would have done the same things to get a girl. This guy even offered to give her his 94 Mustang for her to drive since her car is on the brink. Whats REALLY funny is that this girl is TOTAL attitude. And I had her with a few neg hits feeling a little insecure. I figured since this guy spent all damn night telling her beautiful she was and all that crap that shes history because she told me she likes to feel that way and yadda, yadda, yadda.....yawwwwwwwwwwwwn.
BUT This girl while with me would help me at my business, watch my little girl, help clean the garage, bring me lunch, skip class and just sit at my store and talk, cut off all contact with all of her "male" friends, and it goes on and on. I mentioned above that Ill guarantee I could talk her into a 3 some if she knew it would make me happy. Does this sound like a girl who will forget me in a few days over this prick who likes to spend his rich daddy's money all over her?

 

[echo1212]

I don't know, maybe I'm living in another universe or something, but this without a doubt takes the cake for biggest afc i have ever seen (badger) and some of the worst advice on the history of this board.

First, dude, your psycho, the girls psycho..you both deserve each other. Either that or your all 15 years old, including the new bf. Even before all of this was happening, the girl had broken up with you multiple times, disprespected you, acted completely irrational by going insane on your front porch and who knows what else--I'm sure quite a bit. I would have ditched her after the first time this crap happened, but you kept coming back for more.

Then, after she breaks up with you the 148th time..she goes and IMMEADITELY gets with another guy. More than likely has sex with him and lets him buy her all kinds of gifts. To me she sounds like she suffers from at least Obsessive Compulsive Behavior, and probably Borderline Personality Disorder as well. Putting it simply..shes nuts. Yet you want this chick back!!!

Don't you see how crazy that is? She knows she can get you whenever she wants. She flat out asked you if things didnt work out with this other guy could she come back to you. Just because she has the nerve to ask that tells me she has 100% no respect for you at all. Hate to say it dude but the guy your making fun of? You know the other guy shes with that you call a huge afc? Well, your a worse one than he is because you've let her do this to you numerous times before..and like a little puppy dog you keep coming back.

And some of the advice given to this poor sap..damn. This board is getting younger and younger, and in turn more afc as I speak. What possible reason would there be to have any contact whatsoever with this psycho beeootch from hell? Yet alot of you are giving him ways to get her back.

Heres a suggestion to alot of you younger (or older) newbies and afc's. Read the bible, read the mesage board for a month before offering any advice too. This board is going down the **** hole and if things dont change it's gonna be sayanara Don Juan site.

 

[Reto]

Badger,

I've got girl that's similar. (But my situation isn't as extreme!).

Her "friend" is her AFC (poor fool). He's giving her all sorts of attnetion she thinks she needs. You, by not letting it get to you, not klissing her @ss, has created some serious attraction. She wants you more than ever.

Thing is, this is how she is. That is how my girl is. I've broken up with mine several times. We always get back together. You can't change the way she is. Accept the way she is or don't. Do you want to live with this drama? I'm still undecided in my situation...

By the way, those that flame you have never gone out with a woman like this. So, they don't know what they are talking about...

 

[echo1212]

"By the way, those that flame you have never gone out with a woman like this. So, they don't know what they are talking about..."
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Well Reto, theres a damn good reason I and others don't go out with girls like that...because they are like that!!! Youre the one lowering your standards to date someone who very obviously has some sort of attention deficit problem and yet you keep dating her.

Thats like saying that people who don't do drugs are whacked because they criticize people who do do drugs, and they have no right to say anything. Yet were smart enough not to do them because theyre badddddd for you, much like these types of women.

 

[b's nuts]

Originally posted by echo1212
[BThats like saying that people who don't do drugs are whacked because they criticize people who do do drugs[/B]

Drugs are bad mmmmmmkay?!?!

 

[vdk]

badger take away her looks and what you get? I certainly have no patience or the time to put up with the shi@t HBs give you and have no trouble nexting them.

Thats why, go for NORMAL WOMEN, not the ones that loyalty is unknown, or you have to use your DJ skills every 3 days to win her back. Get a woman who likes you the way you are, not the way you are trying to act.

Like I said take away a HBs looks and you probably get VERY AVERAGE personality. The real goldmine is in the HB7s.

Seriously you have oneitis which has clouded your vision. You think you have the power, but you know you like her enough to give a **** when she dumps you. Wake yourself up and meet other women. She ain't worth it

 

[Big Pappy]

Badger -
A threesome - how very special you must feel.

First, I think that I understand why you keep such a woman in your life. I'm not certain, of course, but maybe I do. You've got a lot going on. If you're driving the Cobra, have your own business and a little girl, you've plenty of things to do to keep the balls of life juggling in the air.

Here's my opinion. You need to figure out what it is that you want from this girl. Is all you want a threesome?

Let me ask you a question. Has your daughter gotten attached to this girl?

Have your clientele gotten attached to this girl?

Sounds like you're attached to this girl. I think if it weren't for some of the posts in here, you'd be eating out of her hand more than the young fella.

Take this girl and start comparing her to other women you know. It might be sobering. Me, I'd be reluctant to next her, because of the attachment. Yet, I would indeed "next her".

Best of luck.

 

[badger04]

Crotch Sniffer described this relationship to a tee. The highs and lows are very crazy and it is almost a job to go through one day without crap. Well it doesnt really matter because she called tonite and proceeded to rip my ass again telling me how "even though she has a boyfrined" if I had stayed and talked Saturday night with her and not went out this would not have happened. Of course she also says that she doesnt trust me and the only reason I am trying so hard to get her back is because I know I didn somthing terrible Saturday night and am now feeling guilty about it? WTF is that crap. She also said If I didn't do anything wrong I would be not even coming around and let her make the move to be with me. What really sucks is when this girl tells you she has strong feelings for you but yet shes with this other chump and for some reason putting me through hell. She was even pissed when I asked her what she was doing this weekend and I said if she wasnt going to be with me I guess Ill make other plans. She than blows up and me because now I want to run the bars all night. WHY IS SHE DOING THIS SHAT TO ME. As a guy it's pretty ****ed up that if I have strong feelings for a girl I don't care what else matters I would want to be with her. Does anyone see an end to this madness and is this just a big waste of freaking time.

 

[Crotch Sniffer]

I told you from the start your best bet is to MOVE ON!

She is testing you dude. DOnt take her questions so seriously. She is doing this to create more drama for herself.

These types of girls are BAD FOR YOU!

Next time she tries to rip you about going out and meeting other chicks, tell her that what you do on your time is YOUR business and why should she care? She has the Superchump, remember?

Dont let this girl play you out man. Either turn her into your sex slave or ditch her.

Personally I would ditch a chick like this. Too many problems. Not worth my precious time.,

 

[badger04]

After sitting here reading these posts from some of the guys who have been here a while. I have decided that even though my little girl is attacthed to her and we have alot of great things in common. "the girl up until Saturday would do anything in the world for me that I asked". I am just going to call her up and nicely tell her that I am sorry she feels the way she does towards me and I really wish it didn't have to be this way. I am going to also tell her that I hope her life works out great and all that. I guess I am just going to walk away from this because I fail to understand how someone who you know has very strong feelings for you can replace you that quick and now is for some apparent reason sticking the dagger in a little deeper each time she can. I can see the outcomes of this already. I tell her this tonite, I go out this weekend to my favorite club, she will no doubt be there as well or make sure she is if my cars outside and will not only throw this guy in my face all night. Any other suggestions guys how I can turn this weekend around and not let it get to me so much. Not looking for put downs here just some good advice from those who know what I am going through here.

 

[badger04]

As for the sex slave yeah that would be pretty nice as it was always good. But when she was at my store yesterday I tried to kiss her a couple of times and even though she was standing there with her head on my shoulder for ever getting all emotional and crap she would not let me kiss her. I assume it's because she has a new man or ? Hell at this point I don't even know about myself anymore........LOL