Getting Into An LTR The “Right” Way?

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I'd focus on filtering women who are suitable more than how to get into an LTR. Any woman who is sleeping with you regularly will at some point ask to be exclusive. I had one plate where it took seven months so that's the longest I've experienced. But what you need to worry about is getting into an LTR for the right reasons and more importantly with the right woman. A woman high in empathy and impulse control. A woman with strong ethics and family values. A woman who after eight months still aggressively jumps you in bed like she can't help herself. A woman who pays her way despite earning less. A woman who is feminine and defers to your leadership.

Don't ask how do I get into an LTR, ask if you should get into an LTR with this woman. Constantly!
Agreed sir ohrein! While keeping all those things in mind, and doing it because of the fact she is the type of woman you describe above... how have you personally gone about actually making it happen after a plate asks you to be exclusive? Or I guess what’s your “plan of action” so to speak? How do you usually proceed?

The reason I ask “how” to get into LTR moreso stems from conflicting shyt I’ve read on the internet about “rules” on how to do that when you are ready to do that. Without the girl all the sudden losing attraction for you because she “has you” now.

You’ve given me great advice in the past.
 
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First off a plate rarely becomes more than a plate. 2, when you’re banging and hanging out those 3 months you’re suppose to be looking for red flags. **** like, how are your parents? and when was last boyfriend? and such. Not the marriage and babies questions

The whole point of dating for a guy is to find a girl that has a stable family life before you met her and isn’t ****ing crazy. If you nice guy it and try to just bang her, you miss all the red flags

Some girls will ask what you guys are after a month of sex, some 2 weeks, some 3 months. It’s up to you to decided if you want monogamy with her in the end and become locked down. A lot of women will just hang in there a loooooong time like 6 months to a year of trying to lock you down before giving up. True power is when she’s begging you for a relationship. If you don’t see yourself as that kind of man, you don’t have the SMV or confidence yet and you need to work on yourself.

Appreciate the response but I wasn’t asking about marriage and babies? Haha.

I understand everything you’re saying, my question was moreso how do you handle the situation if you DO decide you want monogamy with a woman, while keeping all things considered that you mentioned above?
 

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Agreed sir ohrein! While keeping all those things in mind, and doing it because of the fact she is the type of woman you describe above... how have you personally gone about actually making it happen after a plate asks you to be exclusive? Or I guess what’s your “plan of action” so to speak? How do you usually proceed?

The reason I ask “how” to get into LTR moreso stems from conflicting shyt I’ve read on the internet about “rules” on how to do that when you are ready to do that. Without the girl all the sudden losing attraction for you because she “has you” now.

You’ve given me great advice in the past.
Men know what they want and aren't afraid to get it.

Ignore the rules. If a woman is interested in exclusivity and you are too, accept it. If you're not, don't. In my experience women lose attraction for you when you get comfortable and become AFC, not because they have you. The women who get bored because they have you are low quality and will eventually get bored no matter what you do. They are almost always damaged in some way, BPD or avoidant, so they freak out at intimacy and cut and run. Additionally, you should be naturally using dread game and social proofing by being friendly with women (in an acceptable way) in front of your partner. When you make other women laugh and smile in front of your girlfriend, it reaffirms you're a catch to her. This is far more important than reacting to the question. I would also say that playing too hard to get with exclusivity will drive away women who want stable attachments. I had a friend recently try to **** around with game that was incongruent to him in this exact way, by "not being sure" he wanted a relationship. She ended up putting her foot down and he had to come back with his tail between his legs so he basically started his relationship with a weakened frame.

With the last three women who asked me for exclusivity my reactions were as follows :

1) Woman was damaged so I said I wanted my independence which was true. She continued to be a plate.

2) Woman I wrote about a while ago who had a bunch of red flags I ignored. She asked and I said sure, let's give it a shot. Relationship lasted about four months. She was avoidant type (diagnosed by her psych, she showed me the information sheets he printed out and gave her) and broke up with me a month later. As a side, this is a good demonstration of women following emotions rather than logic. She knew she had this problem but did it anyway with me.

3) Current girlfriend asked me on the fourth date (she is a bit inexperienced haha). I said of course, I'm only interested in you right now and I want a proper relationship. We've been dating for around six months and she's by far the highest quality woman I've dated.

All these women were after my red pill transformation, I maintained frame and never became AFC with any of them. None of my reactions were following a script or method, they were just me doing what I wanted to do.
 

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Men know what they want and aren't afraid to get it.

Ignore the rules. If a woman is interested in exclusivity and you are too, accept it. If you're not, don't. In my experience women lose attraction for you when you get comfortable and become AFC, not because they have you. The women who get bored because they have you are low quality and will eventually get bored no matter what you do. They are almost always damaged in some way, BPD or avoidant, so they freak out at intimacy and cut and run. Additionally, you should be naturally using dread game and social proofing by being friendly with women (in an acceptable way) in front of your partner. When you make other women laugh and smile in front of your girlfriend, it reaffirms you're a catch to her. This is far more important than reacting to the question. I would also say that playing too hard to get with exclusivity will drive away women who want stable attachments. I had a friend recently try to **** around with game that was incongruent to him in this exact way, by "not being sure" he wanted a relationship. She ended up putting her foot down and he had to come back with his tail between his legs so he basically started his relationship with a weakened frame.

With the last three women who asked me for exclusivity my reactions were as follows :

1) Woman was damaged so I said I wanted my independence which was true. She continued to be a plate.

2) Woman I wrote about a while ago who had a bunch of red flags I ignored. She asked and I said sure, let's give it a shot. Relationship lasted about four months. She was avoidant type (diagnosed by her psych, she showed me the information sheets he printed out and gave her) and broke up with me a month later. As a side, this is a good demonstration of women following emotions rather than logic. She knew she had this problem but did it anyway with me.

3) Current girlfriend asked me on the fourth date (she is a bit inexperienced haha). I said of course, I'm only interested in you right now and I want a proper relationship. We've been dating for around six months and she's by far the highest quality woman I've dated.

All these women were after my red pill transformation, I maintained frame and never became AFC with any of them. None of my reactions were following a script or method, they were just me doing what I wanted to do.
They get one pass with me. If they continue to act like a spoiled little bratty girl; pvssy or not, they are nexted. My self-respect is paramount; but that's just me.
 

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There is a lot said on the side of mystery here. But at some time this might get old... and insecurity starts to set in. The woman wonders whether you are even interested. At some point in an LTR, or even in the development of an LTR [the development of something as opposed to jumping over a line], intimacy must be built. For her to love and admire [and of this she must be capable], you must be lovable and admirable. A lot of this is lost on this site. It teaches people how to survive in a barbarous state, where there is a chaotic lack of order, but often fails how to build an order out of this chaos. Man's job is not to just survive, but to thrive.
 

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The problem with this is that eventually you may want to get into a LTR with her. And if she's the type of person who gets bored as soon as you give her what she wants, she's just not suitable LTR material. Because at some point the stability is going to arrive. You can't keep her head spinning around forever. I don't even know why anyone would even desire that kind of life if that's what you have to do to keep it. If she's a spoiled brat who has to have the constant dopamine rush of unpredictability to keep her happy, I'd rather find out sooner than later so I can move on to some other girl who's more worth my time.
Yep, screen hard. Why bother with anything less.... once you have your 'raging hormones' under control. Who wants to be an adolescent forever.
 

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Yep, screen hard. Why bother with anything less.... once you have your 'raging hormones' under control. Who wants to be an adolescent forever.
I'd rather that than be shut down. You can always control your actions . High libido correlate to high test levels .
 

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I'd rather that than be shut down. You can always control your actions . High libido correlate to high test levels .
The law of logic [that of excluded middle] does not apply here. It is not a question of 'shutting down' the libido but in moderating it. You want a strong libido, for it is your life force, but you also want to be in control of it.
 

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Men know what they want and aren't afraid to get it.

Ignore the rules. If a woman is interested in exclusivity and you are too, accept it. If you're not, don't. In my experience women lose attraction for you when you get comfortable and become AFC, not because they have you. The women who get bored because they have you are low quality and will eventually get bored no matter what you do. They are almost always damaged in some way, BPD or avoidant, so they freak out at intimacy and cut and run. Additionally, you should be naturally using dread game and social proofing by being friendly with women (in an acceptable way) in front of your partner. When you make other women laugh and smile in front of your girlfriend, it reaffirms you're a catch to her. This is far more important than reacting to the question. I would also say that playing too hard to get with exclusivity will drive away women who want stable attachments. I had a friend recently try to **** around with game that was incongruent to him in this exact way, by "not being sure" he wanted a relationship. She ended up putting her foot down and he had to come back with his tail between his legs so he basically started his relationship with a weakened frame.

With the last three women who asked me for exclusivity my reactions were as follows :

1) Woman was damaged so I said I wanted my independence which was true. She continued to be a plate.

2) Woman I wrote about a while ago who had a bunch of red flags I ignored. She asked and I said sure, let's give it a shot. Relationship lasted about four months. She was avoidant type (diagnosed by her psych, she showed me the information sheets he printed out and gave her) and broke up with me a month later. As a side, this is a good demonstration of women following emotions rather than logic. She knew she had this problem but did it anyway with me.

3) Current girlfriend asked me on the fourth date (she is a bit inexperienced haha). I said of course, I'm only interested in you right now and I want a proper relationship. We've been dating for around six months and she's by far the highest quality woman I've dated.

All these women were after my red pill transformation, I maintained frame and never became AFC with any of them. None of my reactions were following a script or method, they were just me doing what I wanted to do.
Damn haha. Looks like your current girlfriend knew what she wanted and wasn’t afraid to get it :cool:

Thanks for the insight!
 

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There is a lot said on the side of mystery here. But at some time this might get old... and insecurity starts to set in. The woman wonders whether you are even interested. At some point in an LTR, or even in the development of an LTR [the development of something as opposed to jumping over a line], intimacy must be built. For her to love and admire [and of this she must be capable], you must be lovable and admirable. A lot of this is lost on this site. It teaches people how to survive in a barbarous state, where there is a chaotic lack of order, but often fails how to build an order out of this chaos. Man's job is not to just survive, but to thrive.
Great point there. There’s more than just surviving!
 
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