My way of seducing (part I)
Interesting post, made me think about how i've gotten the girls in the past and what attitude i've had.
I'm gonna tell you how it has worked for me so you can see what kind of person i am with women, and my strenghts & flaws. This is the way i've mostly got ONS, girlfriends, fbuddies, etc since my adolescence. Note this is the way most of my seductions happen, but i also meet women in my university and, more rarely, in clubs.
During vacations, or through large group of friends gatherings, going to the beach with many friends, big parties, etc wherever i go with many friends and friends of friends, i end up with 1 or 2 chicks interested in me. This is the process i've seen always happen:
- A large group of friends an i go to the beach for a weekend. In the group, there's friends of them that i didn't know before. Usually, there are 2 or 3 girls that i just meet there.
My mindset is always of having fun and party with my friends, i don't go thinking "well i have to get laid / meet a girl" or something. Just fun. I go with that vibe. Very energetic and party vibe.
- First day: Usually, during the whole day i'm enjoying the time with my friends, i don't talk with the girls if they don't talk to me, i'm more like the one who talks a lot to the whole group, joking, maybe even sayin jerkish or arrogant things to my friends, but the follow my jokes. I keep going myself to buy things, to other parts apart from the group and my closest friends follow me. I keep myself very active during the day. Until this point, i'm not even interested in any girl, i have not evaluated her, maybe some guy has talked to some of them and people start to associate them. I just don't care, i'm very busy having fun in the group. I am very social and quickly the new persons in the group catch my vibe and ask me some personal question to make friendly chatting.
In the night, there's a party, or the whole group goes to some event. There's where the girls (usually one of them) starts giving me signals. Let's say it is a big party on the beach. I always find friends hanging there, so i separate myself from the group and go greet them, i hang with them for a while, joke with them, meet a girl friend of mine, etc... just socializing with a high party energy. I come back to the group, and the girls from my group (the ones i didn't know) start touching me, and initiation conversations with me.
I then, joke with them, flirt, make a lot of eye contact, body language close to them, i say "let's toast for...." and say whatever jerk or funny / arrogant thing comes to my mind in the momment. I keep doing it and the girls start matching it and doin it themselves with me.
Basically that's the dynamic, i never talk with them about personal things, mainly because they don't ask me nothing personal!! they're just joking, even not talking nothing with me, just smiling, touching, laughing, etc. I keep talking with the whole group and notice 1 girl interested in me, watching me, following me.
I party hard, i go to dance by myself, or with some friends, keep meeting other groups, etc. and i notice the girl sees me, maybe she's talking with some guy or something but i can tell she's already intersted in me. I think mainly it is for physical attraction itself, because i've not talked anything with her, and partly because of my attitude shown during the day.
At the END of the party, i come back to my group, and dance with some girl, not the one interested in me. I keep talking a bit with my friends and then i notice the girl interested in me, seeing me like saying "hey i'm here!!". I grab her by the hand or i take her by the arms and tell her "hey, come with me to grab some drinks!" or whatever comes to my mind. Last time i told a girl "hey i'm going to the bathroom, accompain me" while she was dancing with a guy i didn't know and she followed me. I take the lead.
Then, when we are isolated, she starts to touch me more, grabs me like if i was his boyfriend, you know that dynamic. Then quickly the kiss happens (while we are dancing, or waiting for a drink, etc), and usually that night if there are not friends of her watching, we keep making out and have sex near the beach. If it doesn't happen, we just kiss and touch a little. But the physical contact and the first impresisons are there from the first night. And we only exanched our names and some jokes!!
- Day 2: the same thing, i am very energetic since the start. Girls in the group start whispering rumours about me and the girl, they think "there's something" about us... they indirectly ask me if i kissed the girl, etc. and my friends ask me details about last night. I tell them, just to my closest friends. And joke about it.
In the afternoon i go by myself to the beach, to run, and to eat. My closest friends come with me, and during the day i don't talk with the girls, neither do them with me, they appear like if nothing happenes last night.
During the night in the 2nd day, if i didn't kiss or have sex with them in the first night, then it happens. The 2nd night there's no party because some people are tired so we hang out in the hotel or house. I go to drink with my friends and it is easier to isolate the girl.
The interesting thing is that usually another girl starts to touch me a lot, ask me questions, etc and i start to like that girl, not the one from the first night. I don't know why, so i flirt with her and then late at night i start to talk with the other girl. Normally, she's serious (happens to me 90% of the times), like if she was guilty about last night or something. What i think is that she's waiting for me to talk to her about last night. I don't talk about it. I keep joking with her, cheering her up, etc. and in a few minutes she matches my vibe. I isolate her, touch her, kiss, etc whatever happens. Sometimes we have sex in that 2nd night, again without talking too much and without exchanging personal information. If sex doesn't happen (50% of the cases), we advance in the physical contact, to the point she knows i want to F**k her hard. I kiss a lot in the neck, grab a lot her hands, i tease her doing like if i were to kiss her in her lips but i move and kiss her in her forehead. They love it, and that teasing make them hornier. I've noticed it.
- 3rd day: Something strange happens. I start obsessing with the girl, is like a temporary "lust- i like / enjoy this person" feeling, or infatuation. I can't resist it. It happens. And she's very serious, she doesn't approach me, i don't talk with her in the whole day, like if she is not interested in me, i believe she's thinking "is he playing with me?" or something. I keep hanging with my friends, and sometimes keep flirting with the other girl from the group.
Now, it always happens, ALWAYS, i've noticed it 100%: the girl with whom i had sex and/or kissed the first nights, starts to flirt with other guys!! and acts uninterested in me. She doesn't initiate convos with me, or if i go where she is, she acts boring or doesn't talk too much to me. Here's when i go to drink, or talk to other girls, etc... and the girl goes to sleep early, saying "i'm tired"... this is night with less action. Maybe i kiss another girl from the group, and usually this other girl initiates the conversation and i let her take the lead. It has happened to me 3 times during my vacations. With this other girl, i don't have sex, just kissing and she asks me "hey what's between youu and ____ (the other girl's name)?" after whe kiss. I tell her "mm nothing, just friends" and escape from her questioning. Even if we kiss, i am already "obsessed" with the first girl, like if i really need to keep hanging with her.
- Last day: She keeps acting uninterested, and before we are going back to our homes, i grab her by the hands, or give her a hug, or touch her hair, etc (something physical that emulates the lover dynamic) and tell her "hey, give me your phone number". 100% sure they give it to me. 25% of the times they ask for mine back. I kiss her in the lips, and say "bye".
- If the beach thing was during weekend, i call her like tuesday or wed. and tell her to "come with me to my university and help me organizing some books" or "come with me to see some new clothes i want to buy", "come with me to give me a ride to the supermarket and buy some things" ( i don't have a car, so it works very nice). I never date like in the "classical" date term.
- Funny thing: even in the next 2 meetings, they don't ask me personal questions, it has happended a lot to me. Or the girls i attract mostly are very shy or quiet in their nature. However, i ask them personal questions and enjoy talking about them. I never, never never talk about romance with them, or boyfriends, girlfriends, love, sex, male-female atraction etc. And i avoid the topic, i just joke / tease her and give her some personal info about me from time to time.
It is after the 4th meeting that she says it. We are kissing, and then boom! "hey... i don't think this is appropiate" or "i've been thinking something"... "what do you feel?", "hey you haven't told me some things.." etc... I keep kissing etc until she stops me and asks me "do you have a girlfriend" or "what are we doing to do?". I happens 100% of the time. They are the ones who initate this conversation, never me.
THEN is where i decide if i want her as a friend, or as a lover, girlfriend, f**k buddy, serious material, etc.
I have a girl friend of mine whom i had sex last year and told her i didn't want something serious with her, and after 1 year she keeps calling me 1 or 2 times a month to see each other, and she has a boyfriend in another country!