r4zorsharp
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I've concluded after many years spending time on various venues for guys on the internet to share their thoughts on women, their experiences, questions, dating life, that there are more guys who spend time on the internet in these type of venues who are fairly to severely inexperienced with women than those who are experienced and have had robust understanding of women and the various personalities behind them.
To some of you it probably seems obvious.. "Yeah dudes who have a lot going on don't have time for forums and reading about women online" But I say that it's not that simple. Most men read about women in some point of their lives or another. Yes, there are a great portion of them who don't ever and things came naturally.. But, the thing is, it's the ones who spend time, asking questions, trying to soak up information that are really trying to learn.
Now these men can be divided in three categories:
-The man who is learning online because he hasn't had much experience to learn in the real world.
-The man who is learning online because not only has he not had much experience in the real world, but he's desperate for women and almost hopeless.
-The man who is learning to further his game, learn cold approach, because his plan and ultimate goal is to have a bunch of women on rotation. basically have multiple sex partners to contact whenever he needs to get his **** wet. (pardon my urban dialect)
(I left out the 4th one because the trend went from forums to group chats and private groups)
-The man who is experienced, has multiple sex partners, and always finding new ones, usually involved in private groups where they share videos, images, of their plates, and usually has a more Focused and Explicit nature.. Complete opposite of the categories where men whine about women and other men.
Here are the issues with these 3 categories:
-Man who is learning online because he hasn't had much experience in the real world is basically filling his head with alot of bull****, a lot of conflicting information, etc. Some of it might be helpful, but ultimately most of it falls short when hes actually on a date, as he tries to think back to what "Coach X" or "*****Slayer2481" said on "HowtoGetbit.ches Forum" . And if its not bull****, the content he does retain that is helpful, without the experience and social skills, its hard for him to apply it.. Thus, experience trumps all always becomes the paradigm. Thankfully for this man, he has some of what it takes to continue learning through variety of means.
-Man who is learning online because they're practically desperate/hopeless. These guys are already in a f-ed up place. We don't know how they got there, nor do we care. What we do hope for them (at least the good ones of us), is that they make it out. These men easily fall for scorned philosophies and develop a scorn and hatred for women without realizing its detriments. Yet they wonder why it becomes harder and harder for them, as they continue tot alk about the faults of women, and join other men to do so.
-Man who is learning to further his game because he has the goal of being somewhat of a player/DJ: Now, these are the type of guys I wish there were more of. However, the sad thing about these guys is its easy for them to fall into the "ego" mind and still develop the wrong ideas about women, because they can't help but be surrounded by all the nonsense of the first 2 categories. Regardless, these dudes will have the most success because they are inclined to taking action steps to gain more experience and focused on learning more and more, even if they nee to weed out alot of nonsense before they get there.
But how do we really help these categories if they are all intrinsically different? Now some of you maybe asking "why do we even help them?" Is it to pad our egos? or is it because we just feel we're more experienced, judging by what we see being said? It's neither. The reason we help them is maybe because we been where they've been, but more so because we all want the same or similar things - women, sex, pleasure, comfort, joy, happiness, confidence, status.
But who's really helping? We look at the nature of the content we find online in forums and this is what we see:
1) Post complaining about women
2) Post complaining about a man's behavior
3) Question about a woman that doesn't even have a place in the OP's life
4) Question about a woman who is apart of OP's life
5) Basic Ass Obvious Statement about women or men or "what men need to do to get women"
So where did we go wrong? We didn't. Men who got it going on don't spend that much time online anymore in these type of venues. Unless they're PUA's selling a course, trying to look for clients to coach, or trying to promote themselves.
So what does that leave? A big mix of men who want to accomplish more in their lives when it comes to dating and women. A severely bad mix. I would say if this was a Chex Mix, it would be full of pretzels.
It's tough to read some of the content online but, thankfully.. Not everyone needs to be apart of the communities as there are great content on websites in the form of articles and videos.
But as the paradigm goes, Experience trumps all. Go out there and make it happen. Whether Online, Offline, grocery stores, malls, parks, college campuses, concerts, sporting events.. Meet women, take action, plant seeds, secure numbers, etc. and if you're still struggling, maybe address other things in your life. It makes no sense to prioritize women if you have no job, or you lack social skills, or you got weiner issues.
Once again, EXPERIENCE is everything. But, for now, let's stop focusing on the problems of women, or why women are bad or evil. Let's focus on empowering our fellow man, and thinking more Proactive. I believe this forum can see a lot of great change. Afterall, there are some great gems on this forum in the form of insightful and meaningful posts.
To some of you it probably seems obvious.. "Yeah dudes who have a lot going on don't have time for forums and reading about women online" But I say that it's not that simple. Most men read about women in some point of their lives or another. Yes, there are a great portion of them who don't ever and things came naturally.. But, the thing is, it's the ones who spend time, asking questions, trying to soak up information that are really trying to learn.
Now these men can be divided in three categories:
-The man who is learning online because he hasn't had much experience to learn in the real world.
-The man who is learning online because not only has he not had much experience in the real world, but he's desperate for women and almost hopeless.
-The man who is learning to further his game, learn cold approach, because his plan and ultimate goal is to have a bunch of women on rotation. basically have multiple sex partners to contact whenever he needs to get his **** wet. (pardon my urban dialect)
(I left out the 4th one because the trend went from forums to group chats and private groups)
-The man who is experienced, has multiple sex partners, and always finding new ones, usually involved in private groups where they share videos, images, of their plates, and usually has a more Focused and Explicit nature.. Complete opposite of the categories where men whine about women and other men.
Here are the issues with these 3 categories:
-Man who is learning online because he hasn't had much experience in the real world is basically filling his head with alot of bull****, a lot of conflicting information, etc. Some of it might be helpful, but ultimately most of it falls short when hes actually on a date, as he tries to think back to what "Coach X" or "*****Slayer2481" said on "HowtoGetbit.ches Forum" . And if its not bull****, the content he does retain that is helpful, without the experience and social skills, its hard for him to apply it.. Thus, experience trumps all always becomes the paradigm. Thankfully for this man, he has some of what it takes to continue learning through variety of means.
-Man who is learning online because they're practically desperate/hopeless. These guys are already in a f-ed up place. We don't know how they got there, nor do we care. What we do hope for them (at least the good ones of us), is that they make it out. These men easily fall for scorned philosophies and develop a scorn and hatred for women without realizing its detriments. Yet they wonder why it becomes harder and harder for them, as they continue tot alk about the faults of women, and join other men to do so.
-Man who is learning to further his game because he has the goal of being somewhat of a player/DJ: Now, these are the type of guys I wish there were more of. However, the sad thing about these guys is its easy for them to fall into the "ego" mind and still develop the wrong ideas about women, because they can't help but be surrounded by all the nonsense of the first 2 categories. Regardless, these dudes will have the most success because they are inclined to taking action steps to gain more experience and focused on learning more and more, even if they nee to weed out alot of nonsense before they get there.
But how do we really help these categories if they are all intrinsically different? Now some of you maybe asking "why do we even help them?" Is it to pad our egos? or is it because we just feel we're more experienced, judging by what we see being said? It's neither. The reason we help them is maybe because we been where they've been, but more so because we all want the same or similar things - women, sex, pleasure, comfort, joy, happiness, confidence, status.
But who's really helping? We look at the nature of the content we find online in forums and this is what we see:
1) Post complaining about women
2) Post complaining about a man's behavior
3) Question about a woman that doesn't even have a place in the OP's life
4) Question about a woman who is apart of OP's life
5) Basic Ass Obvious Statement about women or men or "what men need to do to get women"
So where did we go wrong? We didn't. Men who got it going on don't spend that much time online anymore in these type of venues. Unless they're PUA's selling a course, trying to look for clients to coach, or trying to promote themselves.
So what does that leave? A big mix of men who want to accomplish more in their lives when it comes to dating and women. A severely bad mix. I would say if this was a Chex Mix, it would be full of pretzels.
It's tough to read some of the content online but, thankfully.. Not everyone needs to be apart of the communities as there are great content on websites in the form of articles and videos.
But as the paradigm goes, Experience trumps all. Go out there and make it happen. Whether Online, Offline, grocery stores, malls, parks, college campuses, concerts, sporting events.. Meet women, take action, plant seeds, secure numbers, etc. and if you're still struggling, maybe address other things in your life. It makes no sense to prioritize women if you have no job, or you lack social skills, or you got weiner issues.
Once again, EXPERIENCE is everything. But, for now, let's stop focusing on the problems of women, or why women are bad or evil. Let's focus on empowering our fellow man, and thinking more Proactive. I believe this forum can see a lot of great change. Afterall, there are some great gems on this forum in the form of insightful and meaningful posts.