Galaxy71's 100 Approach Journal

[galaxy71]

I just finished a MM comprenhensive bootcamp about a month ago. Ever since I read the game, I decided I had to blast away my shyness and improve my social skills. It is obvious that I need to set clear goals for myself in order to improve.

As a result, I decided to start my own approach journal. The idea for the journal came yesterday when I read this extremely long journal. It was just plain fascinating as the guy who started the journal reminded me a lot of myself. The guy would give detailed accounts of what happened when he approached girls while other guys in the forum would provide him feedback about what he was doing right and wrong with the girl.

For me, I realized that I have some extremely severe inner game issues. Everytime I see a girl, I believe that I will fail miserably. Approach anxiety is killing me. Now, I need to do something about it. This journal will be dedicated to improving my confidence around women. Instead of worrying about the outcome, I will just go to up girl and socialize with her. I'm going to be a fun, social, playful guy!! Wish me luck.

 

[SamePendo]

Great! Welcome! Looking forward to it.

Check this out. I've got many ideas there that can help you anywhere you are at.

 

[galaxy71]

I had a pretty good night, even though I didn't close any HBs. Instead of going there for the sole purpose of picking up girls, I tried to talk to as many people as possible. It didn't matter whether they were male or female. I just wanted to be the cool, social guy.

When I first entered the building, I opened the first person to the left. For a couple of minutes, I fluffed with this hb7. I wasn't to terribly interested in her. Dynamic, a Mystery Method instructor, recommends that you automatically open the first set to the left in order to get yourself in a social mood. It is just a warmup set. It does not matter if the first set to the left is a set of UGs or a set of guys, you are supposed to open the first set to the left. When I sat down to eat dinner with my wingmen, I started talking to this hb6. She complained about the high housing prices.

My wingman unintentionally broke shy hb6.5's ***** shield by telling this story regarding fake mustaches. Unfortunately, he didn't have the courage to continue talking to hb6.5. Later on in the night, I opened this two set of hb6 and this AFC. I told him about my encounter with a bear in Yellowstone. She got hooked into the story, but she had to leave.

Then I made a major mistake. I opened this lonewolf hb7. She was by herself, while her friend was talking to this one AFC. I used the famous jealous girlfriend opener. Then I told her my bear story. She listened to the story, and then blew me off.

Finally, I entered this last set of hb7, and her two AFC companions. I stacked several stories on her. I also used the ESP routine and the C shaped smiles vs. the U shaped smiles. Luckily for me I guessed 7 correctly. Then for some reason, she asked me to do the ESP test on her AFC friend. From there, the set went downhill fast.

 

[galaxy71]

Sticking Points-more kinoing of target
-isolating the target way too early which makes me show too
much interest in the girl
-not enough negging.

5 approachs

 

[galaxy71]

Approach #6 Talked to hb7 at a beach party. It was basic fluff. Nothing interesting came out of it.

#7 At a church social, I opened this mixed set. This AFC was trying to attract this girl. I tried to befriend the guy. That night, I tried the C vs U smiles routine and the ESP routine. Every time I used the routines, the AFC would make some smart alleck remark. "We need to find someone who has a U-shaped smile". He also said "7 appears a lot in the bible". His comments affected my confidence to the point that I stalled. AFC tried to talk about charismatic Christianity with the girl. I responded by AMOGging him.

Galaxyo they speak in tounges?

AFC:Yes.

Galaxy: Do they speak in Klingon?

I amogged the guy, bht that didn't stop the girl from ejecting.

#8 Later that night, I gamed an hb7. After using the C vs U smiles routine, I found out that she had a boyfriend. As a result, I ejected.

 

[galaxy71]

Approach #9 I opened a two set(hb8 and b6) with the jealous girlfriend opener. After the opener, I used the smiles routine, and this handshake routine. Once I used the handshake routine, I started doing a reading of her job by looking at her hand. The kino worked. It increased her buying temperature. Eventually, she started touching me. When I tried some push-pull on her at A3, she got offended. "It's awesome that you like music. I can't talk to you". She took offense to the last statement. As a result, she and her friend ejected. Although things turned sour, it was good that my AFC wingman had the sense to engage the obstacle, while I was talking to the target.

 

[galaxy71]

Approach #10: I approached hb9.5 at a church. Again, I tried teaching her this handshake. For some reason, there was no connection. After a few routines, and teasing, she left. I couldn't try much routines on her since she was wearing crutches.

Approach #11 I talked to a mixed set of AFC, hb7asian, and hb7 blond. For some reason, I wanted to take a break from gaming. Instead of talking like crazy, I asked the two girls questions a bunch of questions about themselves. It didn't go anywhere for myself. The AFC didn't have any luck either.

At the bar:

Approach #12 Talked with hb8. Flirted with her like crazy. Unfortunately, I used the Mystery kiss close too early. She said no. After that, I made the stupid mistake of commenting on how I was physically attracted to her. Stupid move. She and her friend would eject.

The next three approaches, I opened some two sets and a lonewolf. I did extremely poorly because I forgot to neg. Oh, I remember how I offended this girl when I told her that I liked her left eye.

Approach #16 I opened lonewolf near restroom. After the opener, she lost interest.

Approach #17 I opened this two set of asian hb7s. Again, the conversation died after the opener.

 

[Analytic]

The next three approaches, I opened some two sets and a lonewolf. I did extremely poorly because I forgot to neg. Oh, I remember how I offended this girl when I told her that I liked her left eye.

LOL that is funny, where did you learn that neg.

Good job on the approuches, I need to get my act together and continue with mine.

 

[galaxy71]

LOL that is funny, where did you learn that neg.

Good job on the approuches, I need to get my act together and continue with mine.

That neg is from Mystery. You could read about it from Mystery's ebook "Venusian Arts Handbook".

 

[skip2mylou781]

Approach #9 I opened a two set(hb8 and b6) with the jealous girlfriend opener. After the opener, I used the smiles routine, and this handshake routine. Once I used the handshake routine, I started doing a reading of her job by looking at her hand. The kino worked. It increased her buying temperature. Eventually, she started touching me. When I tried some push-pull on her at A3, she got offended. "It's awesome that you like music. I can't talk to you". She took offense to the last statement. As a result, she and her friend ejected. Although things turned sour, it was good that my AFC wingman had the sense to engage the obstacle, while I was talking to the target.

this is WAY too many techniques......wat are u a robot??? how bout just talk to her and be sexual, otherwise ull never get a girl!

 

[skip2mylou781]

but too add, u seem to be approaching every good looking girl u see, which is VERY VERY GOOD, so keep doing it, but instead of acting like u have a hidden agenda (which girls HATE), be straight up with them - go read Krassus's "30 seconds is all it takes" thread in the TIPS section

 

[galaxy71]

9/28 Field Report

#18 Opened two girls at a bar with too much energy. Girls looked nervous. They ended up blowing me out after my first A2 Routine

#19 I opened a two set of hb8s. The girls lost interest in me pretty quickly.

#20 This is an interesting set. I opened hb7, hb8, and hb10. These girls looked young. For some reason, my body language was off as I was enchanted by hb10s beauty. Since she was still pretty young(21 or 22), she didn't have much of a ***** shield compared to hbs who are more experienced than her. HB7 stacked negs on me while I was sarging hb10. The hb7 was the AFOG of the group. As HB10 was not showing me any interest, I started flirting with AFOG. AFOG wanted to give me some noogies. I told her she had to kiss me on the cheek first. The hb7 AFOG ignored me. A group of 3 AFCs then opened the set.

#21 I went direct on a young hb8. When I approached her, I told her she was beautiful. The hb8 giggled. Hb7 came in and said that hb8 has a boyfriend.

#22 I responded to hb7s intrusion by going indirect on her. She screamed "He said I have a U-shaped smile". Her boyfriend came in and had a talking with me.

 

[Cod3r]

Notes

Alot of rejection and a recurring theme... Opening -> Convo. dies

So let's look at possible reasons instead of just continuing along the same path eh ?? I believe you're talking too much, do you find yourself speaking moer than she is (on average)? ?

You also don't have to be a 'court-jester' and entertain her for hours on end, don't be a trained monkey. Those tests and cool tricks that you call routines are to be used for rewards, if ever. If she relates to you in cool way or says something you like you give her reward, other than that let her work for you

Try opening with a situational opener instead of opinon or canned routine. If you see a girl sitting at a bar with her friends and she is running the group, approach the quieter ones and say something like, "does she ever let you guys talk ?? or do you have to ask for permission??" Don't have to be super-high energy (emulate the BL of the group) but you need to be upbeat and smiling, just relax... too much energy shows lack of confidence

Also, stop stacking routines if you are day-sarging. This is Speed Seduction and works only for quick lays in atmospheres such as clubs so the girl does not have time to realize what you are doing or what's going on, she feels swept up...

Finally, if you are approaching group of friends don't approach anyone individually (social dynamics) you must be accepted by the 'friends' before you can go for target. Best to open the average ones first and get them laughing and on your side then make joke on the good looking one, they'll be glad to laugh at the alpha-female with you, trust me.

Keep up the good work, but don't repeat same mistakes bro...


-Cod3r

 

[Microphone Fiend]

lol, you guys that follow the "rules and regulations" have so much to remember. Try winging it once or twice I say.

 

[galaxy71]

10/05/2006 Field Report

I was at a bar that night. That night, I opened 5 sets. In the fourth set, I used a direct opener at smartgirl hb7. For some reason, the direct opener didn't work. I thought that direct openers work much better on hb7s than hb8s or hb9s!!!!

Immediately, I pumped her BT by teaching her a handshake. The hb7 got distracted when her friend started talking to her. I should have won over the group before isolating the target. Unfortunately, I felt umcomfortable opening the group because two guys were talking to hb7 and her friends.

In the next to last set of the night, I was talking to the obstacle, while ignoring hb8.5. For most of the night, this Fabio clone and his wingmen were gaming the group with the goal of getting Fabio hooked up with brunette hb8.5. When I talked to the obstacle, Fabio's wingman amogged me. By the time I realized what had happened, the girls had walked away.

The last set of the night, I opened an Irish 4 set. I ended up looking like a stupid dancing monkey. I was so frustrasted that I used Mehow's line of "7+3=81".

5 approaches for the night
27 total approaches

 

[galaxy71]

Class reunion

I attended the class reunion party at this nightclub with my wingman. Girls were not friendly. They would talk to you for 20 seconds before they walked away. I was able to hook this two set of hb7s before they walked away when the obstacle got a cell phone call.

5 sets that night
32 apporaches overall

 

[galaxy71]

Routineless field report

Since a lot of you guys requested that I approach girls without routines, I decided to have a night free of routines earlier this week at this large bar.

I saw a two set of hb8s. The opinion opener did not hook. So I asked Argentinian girl about herself. The girl remained cold and standoffish.

A few minutes later, I opened this 4 set with the amazing line "Hi, my name is..". The 4 set completely blew me off.

Two different lonewolves blew me off when I asked them if they were waiting for someone. The girls did not like it when I asked them "Are you having fun?".

The worst set of the night came when I opened a seated three set of hb6s. This one Asian hb6 game me these short one word answers. When I told her that I got the feeling she didn't want to talk to me, she nodded her head.

11 approaches that night
43 approaches total

 

[galaxy71]

Betrayal

I went to this bar that was full of young hbs. Unfortunately, the guys were fierce. They didn't have any problems interrupting my conversations.
Something terrible happened.

When I was gaming this two set of hb7s, my friend I met at the bar told me about some booze at this other table. I asked him if the hb9.5 was still at the table. He said yes. So I started walking toward that table when I realized that nobody was there. My "friend" ended up stealing the two set as he was able to make the girls laugh. I got betrayed!!

 

[JesterX]

If that had of happened to me i wouldve went and bought a drink for myself and the guy and go back into the group to have a laugh about it, to show that it didnt phase me. And then picked up were you left of with the ladies.

 

[AlekNovi]

I used a direct opener at smartgirl hb7. For some reason, the direct opener didn't work. I thought that direct openers work much better on hb7s than hb8s or hb9s!!!!

That's actually not true. It's the opposite.

Direct openers ONLY work when you are absolutely blown away by the girl and are smitten by her. I did direct exclusively for over a year.

The rule we have over in the direct camp is... unless she makes your heart beat out of your chess... don't go direct on her.

UGs can feel it that you're not attracted to them, and feel it is an insult to them, they almost feel mocked.