Friends turning on me

[redbyte]

Hey all.
Over the past week or two something strange has happened. All my friends (male) have turned on me. Suddenly they realised they can tease me and get away with it. Talking to an individual friend is fine, but when that friend is with others its like a big contest to see who can make fun of me the most.
At first I thought 'ok, its not too bad, they're just kidding'. But now its persistent, and half the lunchtime is spent dissing me.
Today I was with two friends afterschool and they were saying how weak I am, and "not able to defend yourself" and calling me pu55y etc.
My question is. How do you deal with a situation like this? Punch them when they tease me? Ignore them? What?

Thanks for the help.

 

[08aisaac]

Well this happened to my best friend and basically he found knew friends. They were horribley mean to him and **** and he really didn't know how to stick up for himself so basically he found knew friends. I also got knew friends becaus I realized what pricks they were. But yeah he got a gf so they all started making fun of him because she wasn't cool. lol.

 

[twiiist_CH]

hey man. i'm a dude from switzerland, just cheaking in.

look, i live with a certain principe, a principe that u should always look as ur past as a "success story" as a winner.

so in every decision you make, u must look at it as u where kinda like a hero ( extrem winner)

a winner altitude

in your case, you are probably not the most strongst so it wouldn't help you by starting a fight.

maybe you can, but fighting is only the weapons of the weak "non-educated people"

say to them "maybe i'm weak but i'v got enough self-estem to walk away"

leave and find new friends.

 

[08aisaac]

oh wow I love the accent. ^ Yeah he hit the nail on the head.

 

[Phat]

Just tell them to stop or find new friends. Would they care if you left? U can answere that one.

 

[strams4ever]

I could be like a soccermom and say "violence is not the answer' but if you open up a can of WHOOPASS!! on one of them, chances are they will stop. These sound like loser friends who have nothing better to do than make fun of you... find some new guys to run with.

 

[dannowillbookem]

ah i have this problem too. bugs the **** out of me. i mean they're friends and all but what can i do? tell them leave me alone or i'll find new friends? let them know it gets to me? *******s.

 

[HHloser2]

Just walk away and dont speak to them again.

 

[dannowillbookem]

then where the hell am i gonna get new friends? i'm with kinda cool but kinda not (punk kids) and it'd be nice to get in with the preps and ****. any advice?

 

[08aisaac]

Umm join some new clubs and stuff like that because htat's the best way to meet people at schhol. Look around and you will find different people. Like at one time I was hanging with all the computer techies and stuff and the next I was with the popular preps and stuff.
Then there were the goth chicks and the emo and the gamers. The gamers are probaly my personal fav since I am a hardcore gamer.

But you have to hang with people that have something in common with you and stuff like that.

 

[Kidd]

They rip on you because you LET them. Stand up for yourself man. Next time they talk ****, think of a witty comeback to say.

People will only take advantage of you as much as you let them.

 

[Nexxus]

why the hell do you hang out with guys who diss you, obviously you can't fight back because if you do then they'll gang up on you and after that everybody who knows will be dissing you

just get new friends, and cooler ones how hard can it be?

 

[dannowillbookem]

Originally posted by Kidd
They rip on you because you LET them. Stand up for yourself man. Next time they talk ****, think of a witty comeback to say.

People will only take advantage of you as much as you let them.

thats a good idea. i unfortunately made out a couple times with a girl named ali (5.5) and at a party my friend jake yelled something out like "no wonder the only chick who digs u is ali" which is idiotic cause i have 400x the chicks he does and he was just dumped by an ugly chick a grade below. man if i just shouted out "oh yeah i forgot u have lauren...no wait. she dumped you." man that would have been nice.

lol sitting around thinking about what i could have said. o well live and learn.

 

[barra088]

i had this exact same problem earlier this summer. one night it got really REALLY bad to the point where i just left. i started hangin out with the people from my soccer team cuz they were all cool and werent pricks like my old friends, i almost never hang out with my old group anymore. even if i do they really arent that mean to me anymore probably cuz i gave them some time to grow out of it. time fixes everything, remember that. so i think you should just say to hell with you and find new friends or at least not hang out with them for about a month.

 

[undesputable]

when this happens, it usually means that you only serve for entertainment purposes to your friends... im my group of friends weve always had 1 or 2 of these guys to make fun of so theres never a boring moment..... However these are true fags who say the stupidest **** you will ever hear, and will never stand up for themselves...we actually try to teach them to stand up for themselves, but they just dont, they take it and take it until they just stop chilling with us....they

In my opinion, the best way to deal with this is to stand up for yourself no matter what...they will act like they want to beat you up, but they wont....and stop saying stupid **** if you do, become respectable and youll be good.

 

[S-lemond]

Originally posted by Kidd
They rip on you because you LET them. Stand up for yourself man. Next time they talk ****, think of a witty comeback to say.

People will only take advantage of you as much as you let them.

exactly.......i had the same problem last year as a freshman...........not gonna happen again!

 

[redbyte]

Originally posted by undesputable
we actually try to teach them to stand up for themselves, but they just dont, they take it and take it until they just stop chilling with us....they

You sound like my friends. They try to "toughen me up" by punching me and pushing me around. Doesn't help.
I've got two sisters and no brothers so I'm not the toughest guy you've ever met. But I'm not a softy either. I just don't fight much thats all.

If I stopped hanging out with them, I'd be kind of lost. Also my formal date is friends with them. So I go chill with her every lunch, and all my friends do as well. Also one of my friends is in the locker next to mine, so I'd see him before school, recess, lunch and afterschool.

Ok. Heres a common scenario:
My two so called "friends" are dissing me telling me how weak I am, "ya pu55y you don't stick up for yourself." meanwhile they are walking towards punching saying "we're doing this for your own good". They of course brush it off as light hearted "just messing" humour. I'd walk away but I've got a reputation I'd like to keep. So what do I do? Snap and lay into them?
One thing thats kinda bad is that the main guy is really tall has 4 brothers and is really strong. So when I return the punches he laughs.
Also you say, 'witty comebacks', I'm really good at making stuff up on the spot. Got any for the scenario above?
Thanks

 

[Juan_Man]

Don't fight. Don't say anything. Don't make any type of provocation. Just walk away. Not having friends is better than having fake ones.

 

[jenzos]

Originally posted by Juan_Man
Don't fight. Don't say anything. Don't make any type of provocation. Just walk away. Not having friends is better than having fake ones.

it seems since I am the biggest in my "group" but I am the most chill laid back they think they can talk **** every once in a while. So i have to keep them in line by giving them a little violence.

 

[08aisaac]

^ I think that he means break, dude. Or maybe his school has some kind of excercise thing. Like the government seems to realize that everyone is becoming obese so they are slowly trying to get us lazy ass americans into shape.