Friend zoned akward. Done being an AFC. What to do now?

[Jack Wealthy]

Move. The ****. On.

Go sleep with other, hotter girls. This isn't fcuking working on your skills, that is a secondary/long term girl. Short term just approach and escalate. Once you can do that you're halfway there.

 

[Jack Wealthy]

Move. The ****. On. More than half the worlds population is female. Walk up to two hotter girls.

Also, working on your skills is a secondary goal. Go up to girls with the goal of spreading value.

 

[Mr. Suave]

Everyone told me a frezze out would work you know I"ll work on myself get ripped get girls then try in the future. Im going to forget about her for a year. Then come back aswome and give it another shot.

Okay fair enough if that's what you want to do... But I'm telling you the "freezing out" thing does nothing. What it comes down to is the improvement. It doesn't make ANY difference whether you continue speaking to her or not, at the end of the day the improvement is the only thing that matters...

Sure if you don't see her for ages then "come back" to her, it will be a bit more of a shock to see the improvement, but either way even if you stay in contact it's something she will notice.

And anyway don't you see her all the time anyway because of your best mate? If you're happy with what you're doing, then by all means go ahead that's the only thing that matters... But my advice is to not lose contact with her fully. And I also don't believe "no contact" in itself will do anything. Don't go on some little epic quest for years and years, I'm telling you, I reckon if you go for her after her "boyfriend" (who you reckon isn't actually interested in her) screws her up and ditches her you can for sure screw her.

Next time however ask her to hang out with you and do things physically instead of verbally, higher chance of success.

But anyway, it's up to you what plan of action you want to take.

 

[SharinganUser]

How long no contact? I also know what I did wrong even though she talks to alot of other guys I was different I had pua knowledge. She liked me and I did not make a move at all so I got friend zoned. I understand completely now. I am going to get her in the future. For now how long no contact? I will also go after other girls. Don't shoot me down anyone. Just show me how.

You go no contact for as long as it takes. It could be 2 weeks, it could be 2 years, could be never. Going no contact isn't really about getting her back, it's about moving on. The idea is that if she does contact you, the power will be back in your hands, and you can decide what you want to do.


The way you describe her makes it sounds like this situation is par for the course, seeing as she's done it to a bunch of other guys. Just be happy that you didn't drop money on a jacket for her.

Two cute girls came up to me on the street the other day and flat out asked me for an expensive meal. I pointed them to the $2 street vendor and walked away.

If she originally liked you, you aren't "friend zoned" because it doesn't exist in the real world. She's either into you or she's not and being friends doesn't make any difference. No guys have had close female friends fancy them? Because I certainly have, many times. Regardless of how I acted to them, one in particular I used to share all my problems with, and when I was feeling low I'd go off on one about how useless I am... I even went shopping with her (lol!) and yet she still really really liked me. If she says you're "just a friend" it's simply another way of saying "I'm not into you"... In the same way you'd tell your ugly female friend the exact same line.

Being friendzoned is a very real phenomenon. In fact what you just described is what most people would call being "friendzoned."

 

[SharinganUser]

Originally Posted by Mr. Suave
But my advice is to not lose contact with her fully. And I also don't believe "no contact" in itself will do anything. Don't go on some little epic quest for years and years

Going no contact keeps you from wasting time on women who aren't interested or only have a low IL. It also helps you move on to other women and shows woman that you aren't talking to that she isn't the centre of the universe. It can raise her IL, in which case you can sleep with her if you want. Or nothing changes and you just go about your business screwing other women.

 

[Djroids]

You go no contact for as long as it takes. It could be 2 weeks, it could be 2 years, could be never. Going no contact isn't really about getting her back, it's about moving on. The idea is that if she does contact you, the power will be back in your hands, and you can decide what you want to do.


The way you describe her makes it sounds like this situation is par for the course, seeing as she's done it to a bunch of other guys. Just be happy that you didn't drop money on a jacket for her.

Two cute girls came up to me on the street the other day and flat out asked me for an expensive meal. I pointed them to the $2 street vendor and walked away.



Being friendzoned is a very real phenomenon. In fact what you just described is what most people would call being "friendzoned."

Okay thanks. I know that there has to be a way to get her. Of course step one is to make major improvements in my life. Step to to get ripped. Step 3 start my djing and get amazing. Step 4 game alot of woman. I'm going to try to **** 10 more girls before trying this girl again. I know there has to be a way though like a way with a good chance. If she was once attracted she can be again. There is no doubt in my mind I can do this. All of my life I tried to accomplish something but the only problem is I could not stick to a plan of how. I need to make improvements. There is a solution to every problem. If I want her I can get her but NOT NOW. I will keep improving myself, to the point where I can get her or any other woman I want. This akward thing will pass between me and her go back to normal. I will get what I want. Honestly how many girls can pass up a ripped dj that's good with girls. Exactly tell me if this is a good mindset?

 

[Djroids]

Guys I'm sorry for over reacting. I found out the truth for me I like her she doesn't like me back RIGHT NOW. I have to get other girls and have to pursue my dreams all day yesterday I felt down over this looking up how to get out of the friend zone. Well you know what they all had in common. GET OTHER GIRLS AND IMPROVE YOURSELF. Then once that's done come back and finish the job of getting her. Once I have met those requirements I can have her and any other girl I want. I'm listening to Anthony robbins now to help better my life. Thanks guys.

 

[LearningSlowly]

Okay cleary I'm going to be gaming other girls. I only asked how can I get out of the friend zone. There HAS to be a way. IF THERE'S A WILL THERE'S A WAY. And if I try again in a year I will have a ton more experience I'm turning 18 in less than 2 months. I'm gonna go clubbing whenever I can. Atleast 2 times a week. I'm going to work on my djing skills when. Get my stuff for my birthday. I'm going to freeze her out. I"ll still talk to her brother and he would let mr get with her. In a year I will be massively chained more muscle, djing, more confident and a ton better with girls. If all that is down this girl can't say no in the future cause by then I"ll be out of the friend zone. Don't shoot me down help and support me. Clearly I'm going to go after alot of other girls.

Hey guys, in like a week, I'm gonna be SO COOL. You hear me? Listen to how cool I'm gonna be.

You want DJing to increase your social value? Take it up as your life's passion. Approach it more seriously than anything else you've ever done in your life. Passion attracts passion. You don't get to choose who you're going to be in 5 years, you get to create it.

 

[Amo]

Asking the question no one else has:

Why the f*ck is this girl so damn important?

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Asking the question no one else has:

Why the f*ck is this girl so damn important?

She showed interest in him for a bit and he got hooked. You should use the same technique on girls instead of wasting time on her.

 

[SharinganUser]

Okay thanks. I know that there has to be a way to get her. Of course step one is to make major improvements in my life. Step to to get ripped. Step 3 start my djing and get amazing. Step 4 game alot of woman. I'm going to try to **** 10 more girls before trying this girl again. I know there has to be a way though like a way with a good chance. If she was once attracted she can be again. There is no doubt in my mind I can do this. All of my life I tried to accomplish something but the only problem is I could not stick to a plan of how. I need to make improvements. There is a solution to every problem. If I want her I can get her but NOT NOW. I will keep improving myself, to the point where I can get her or any other woman I want. This akward thing will pass between me and her go back to normal. I will get what I want. Honestly how many girls can pass up a ripped dj that's good with girls. Exactly tell me if this is a good mindset?

That is not a good mindset to have because it means that you are still giving women to much control over your life. You should be doing those things anyway, not because you think it will get some chick to like you.

Life is to short to worry about getting girls, just do what you enjoy and have fun.

 

[Mr. Suave]

Being friendzoned is a very real phenomenon. In fact what you just described is what most people would call being "friendzoned."

No, the "phenomenon" is called "she's not interested". Girls who turn you down for "being a friend" likely would've turned you down even if you weren't friends.

 

[Jack Wealthy]

^Thats true.

Another phenomena I see a lot of lately is mental masturbation. Especially on this thread.

Go out, go find other girls OP. Escalate and persist, you're being lame. That means this girl has friendzoned you because she doesn't see you sexually. Solution? Embrace your sexuality.

WITH OTHER GIRLS. MOVE. ON.

 

[SharinganUser]

No, the "phenomenon" is called "she's not interested". Girls who turn you down for "being a friend" likely would've turned you down even if you weren't friends.

No **** sherlock. If a woman isn't interested, she isn't interested, I don't know where I said otherwise.

I was simply saying that there are a lot of people out there who have a dynamic in their "friendship" where one is interested in something more and the other isn't.

That's what being in the friendzone means. You want to bang her, but she thinks of you as a friend(or a free therapist, shopping partner, ect). Are you guys seriously trying to tell me that that never happens to anyone?

 

[LearningSlowly]

Sounds like we all agree. Being a friend to a girl won't hurt your chances. If she isn't interested in you, that will hurt your chances. Some choose to refer to an uninterested but friendly girl as putting you in a "friend-zone." This simply means that a girl sees a guy as a nonsexual friend, despite what the guy does (whether or not you can change her level of interest after this classification is another issue).

Good discussion guys.

 

[fertileTurtle]

I read the OP but not the whole thread. Just off of that you should tell her u really dont like her like u thought and dont really want to be her friend anymore because she cares too much what her brother thinks. She may qualify and show interest.

 

[fertileTurtle]

You can then be slowly won over by her by qualifying her and lightly teasing. When she is trying to win you over its time for isolation and kino. Challange her. You can also tell her how hot her friends are or other jealousy ploys. Dont ignore her just yet

 

[fertileTurtle]

You dont need to improve yourself to get this girl, but you do have to be a sly effer. Who cares if you are a dj or have muscles, you still a puss who cant impose jedi mind tricks on hot btches.

 

[Djroids]

Sorry guys for the delay in response my grandma died .The day she said no I got sick and my grandma died that day . Then there was a romour going around that I was crying at home cause she said no to me cause I was gone all week. How can I deal with this I don't want her and people thinking I'm a *****?

 

[Jack Wealthy]

@you fucjing don't. Seriously, don't care what people think. ****. ****. Just move on. ****.