FR: Wing Number Grab

[Chow Mein]

I sat at the window seat in the plane, along comes a tall Hispanic stopping by our row and takes the middle seat. I open with what are you flying to or flying back?
We had conversations about mechanical design software because she’s and engineering manager and I’m in software sales. The plane was taxi’ing and had to come back to the gate, we were delayed inside the plane for 2 hours on a 1 hour flight.
Conversations were non-stop during the entire flight about traveling, family, food, astrology, Buddhism, manifesting. We were leaning against each other and brushing our legs up against each other.

One thing she mentioned was on here recent trip to Asia, where I was born, the hosting family got a chocolate gift and opened it with her. I was at a corporate dinner last night and they had a small single-piece chocolate box with a bow on top. After she finished her story, I took it out of my bag and said I would continue the tradition. Exchanged numbers an hour in and she said she would show me around her area which was cross border.

Pretty stoked on this 34 year old Latina.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Sounds good. Good luck!

 

[pipeman84]

First off, I think it's weird and a huge red flag to practically tell your life story to a total stranger, particularly if you're a woman.

Conversations were non-stop during the entire flight about traveling, family, food, astrology, Buddhism, manifesting. We were leaning against each other and brushing our legs up against each other.

Secondly, sounds like you got yourself a 'spiritual' (which nowadays generally means cuckoo) woman.

 

[Chow Mein]

First off, I think it's weird and a huge red flag to practically tell your life story to a total stranger, particularly if you're a woman.

Secondly, sounds like you got yourself a 'spiritual' (which nowadays generally means cuckoo) woman.

Who cares?

If you can make being in a delayed plane a pleasant experience, imagine what other things in life you can make pleasant

 

[Clockwerk50]

…and that’s how all the Hallmark movies and romantic novels start.

Joking aside, good for you. I don’t think I’d be able to have a conversation for more than 3 hours in close quarters like that without isolating. You may have better game than me. Kudos.

 

[Serenity]

First off, I think it's weird and a huge red flag to practically tell your life story to a total stranger, particularly if you're a woman.

If the conversation is pleasant it costs nothing to share it. Plenty of times women tell me things pretty early that they clearly don't share with everyone simply because I set up the vibe for it right away.

It becomes a red flag if you're the type of guy she shouldn't share that much with, but she still does it anyways. However, this is also the type of guy who wouldn't recognize it as a red flag to begin with because of his own issues.

I'll casually go into very personal parts of my own story within the first hour with a stranger if it becomes relevant to the conversation. It would be something else if I forced it in there for some reason of course. I can totally see the natural flow of a relaxed conversation venturing into such topics rather quickly though.

As such I wouldn't make a blanket statement calling it a huge red flag, it depends on context and the ability to recognize whether the context is reasonable or not.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

First off, I think it's weird and a huge red flag to practically tell your life story to a total stranger, particularly if you're a woman.

I guess you don't travel much. I met several lovers on travels where you have to spend time together and you just have conversations to kill the time (I mostly read when I have to wait, but people seem to like talking with me). And sometimes it's easier to talk to a stranger who you won't meet again, than to a familiar that might discuss your conversation with others in your social circle.

 

[pipeman84]

I guess you don't travel much. I met several lovers on travels where you have to spend time together and you just have conversations to kill the time (I mostly read when I have to wait, but people seem to like talking with me). And sometimes it's easier to talk to a stranger who you won't meet again, than to a familiar that might discuss your conversation with others in your social circle.

It's not that, it's the fact I come from a culture where the norm is that you don't talk to strangers, particularly if you're a female. Just as with spitting on the street or swearing, it looks much worse on the woman than on the man if one breaks the norm.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

It's not that, it's the fact I come from a culture where the norm is that you don't talk to strangers, particularly if you're a female. Just as with spitting on the street or swearing, it looks much worse on the woman than on the man if one breaks the norm.

So IN YOUR CULTURE it would be a red flag, but I'm from 'Europe' as well and IN MY CULTURE it's not uncommon for people to talk (more) with strangers.
Some things are red flags is certain cultures, certainly. However, just because everybody gets hysterical over an exposed ankle in Kabul doesn't mean all the short-skirted girls in Amsterdam are Satan's spawn.

Another thing is how inviting you are for people to talk to. I'm a non-judgmental friendly person who is easy to talk to, so I get a lot of women telling me things they confess not to speak about with other people.