FR: Neg-hit went bad

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I attempted my first neg-hit today, but it went bad.

I approached this girl who looked like she was a runner.

Me: Hey, do you run?
Her: Yeah, I did (some) marathon.
Me: cool, what kind of training did you do to prepare.
Her: well I'm in this group and we train together. We did blah blah and blah.
Me: Repeat what she says.
Me: So, do you run out in the sun a lot?
Her: yeah
Me: Yeah it looks like it
Her (with a different attitude): What do you mean?
Me: Well, your face looks like it's been out in the sun A LOT.
Her: In a good way or bad way?
Me: Well it looks like your starting to develop lines on your face.
Her: Well, thank you (very pissed off)

Now she turns away from me. I think she's holding back from crying.

Now I try to show her that I'm sorry.

Me: Well, the reason I ask is because I've read some articles on running and skin cancer is a common topic. Do you wear sunblock?
Her: Yeah
Me: Have you noticed any more moles since you started running?
Her: No
Turns away again
Me: So do you lift weights too or just run
Her: just run
Now she turns away more and takes a few steps away. I could tell that I really hurt her feelings.

I really wanted to apologize, but I thought that would just make it worse. Then I ended feeling bad about it the whole day.

What if I see her again?

And also comments about this?

I actually regret this.

But, I didn't lie. In fact, I did notice this right away.

One last note: My tone above might have made it sound like she bought the neg-hit and was testing to see if I'd supplicate. I am sure that this wasn't the case...my tone might make it sound like that though. She was really upstrot and hurt because of what I said.

I don't think she was the type of girl on a pedestal. Being an athlete and dressing in that kind of clothes kinda supports this guess since the pedestal girls usually dress up and have an attitude (often middle eastern girls HB5 and up).

 

[golf299]

that is hilarious! unfortunately, you need to review how/when to use neg hits...u messed up big time, bro.

 

[Best friends? NAY]

okay, neg hits, should have some humor with them. That sounded more of a WTF is wrong with you you ugly hag. Unchangable things are usualy not the best to go on for the first meeting, try more for what their wearing, if they do any wierd behavors (that arn't obvious real problems.) Those are ususaly better for starting.

 

[J-Man]

DAMN dude thats funny as hell! honestly i wish i had some kind of advice for you but to be honest, i make mistakes exactly like this ALL THE TIME.

well except one thing i did notice actually... you were too much ****y too fast. think about it dude. thats a lot of ****iness right away man. good luck in the future though

 

[mrExtreme]

Terrible. You're only supposed to neg-hit if the girl is being a ***** to you.

 

[CLOONEY]

aaaaahahahaahahahaaha. you fool!!!

Why do people always think a DJ is a JERK!! And neg hits are PAYOUTS!!

If you are talking to a girl, and u smell something bad, u say, what is that smell, and give her a cheeky look, that is a neghit. You are not directly insulting her, just making a joke of a situation involving her. Man, some of u guys just NEVER learn!!

 

[Evil-Rom]

Originally posted by mrExtreme
Terrible. You're only supposed to neg-hit if the girl is being a ***** to you.

You neg to knock a HB off her pedestal.

And what you did static was an INSULT, not a neg.

 

[wolfie]

"You must run a lot to get that fit! Careful you don't get lines from running in the sun though." would have been better.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Using neg hits does not give you a license to act like a @sshole. Determine if it's even necessary to use them with the women you talk to.

 

[gav]

well done for giving it a shot

that's the kind of failure that separates the djs from the crowd. well, maybe not quite the djs because it was so unbelievably bad, but it will give you and your m8s a good laugh for the rest of the year.

imo, stay clear of neghits, unless the girl is stuck up. use more c&f instead

 

[xblitz44x]

The whole concept is retarded. You're going to offend people, even if you do it 'right'. And healthy people don't appreciate being offended. It doesn't make you look "cool" or "confident" or that you "aren't kissing her ass"...it makes you look like you're offensive and that you don't understand how to hold a normal healthy conversation.

It was designed by a person who has huge insecurities himself. He felt aware of them when he was in the presenece of a 'hot' woman, so in order to balance or shift the power (as if the power was ever shifted or there was ever even a struggle to begin with), he decided to make HER feel the same way as he was feeling and make her aware of her own insecurities.

I say cut the shyt, figure out why you perceive there to be a need for a 'power struggle' to begin with....try to understand why it is you feel so insecure in her presence and handle it.

 

[salthepal]

LOL .. that was funny !!!

honestly, that wasn't a neg-hit ..

i agree it was closer to an insult .. one sure fire way to piss off a girl is to criticize her looks .. on the other hand, you can't go wrong by telling her that she's looking good/dressed nice if she really is, otherwise she'll know you're sucking up and she'll run so fast you'll get dizzy ..

try to think of a neg-hit as a way to bring down a REALLY hot chick down to human status again.. e.g, she got a mole somewhere, a hair sprouting out of her cheek, hell even if she has sweaty armpits (i can't really make up my mind if that's a turn-on or a turn-off ) .. if you subtly send that message to her showing her you don't worship her, and that you're just as good as she is, even better . that could break down the b!tch shield she's raising ( BY THE WAY THAT"S THE ONLY SITUATION TO USE NEG-HITS ... hot chicks who are too *****y to talk properly to you .. i'm sure everyone knows the type) ..

other than that, after you gain rapport, become comfortable to joking with her and she joking back, then funny comments about her go under the c+f (i don't like this exprssion, but apparently it's DJ jargon, and i don't don't like the expression DJ either, but what to do ) ... there's one girl i know who's really short and small , and i always tease her about that .. e.g "come on , you can eat all you want, you need to grow " or when she went to a cartoon expo and was telling me about it , i replied " i guess you felt right at home there " she did get pissed off a bit for a second, but gave me a great comeback "yeah, i saw all your buddies " i laughed my ass off, then she laughed her ass off and all was cool .. actually i'm trying to get into her pants, the only catch is we work together, but i don't think that's too much of an obstacle ...

cheers everyone, and remember ...... YOU'RE FUN PEOPLE TO BE WITH, you make nice jokes, people enjoy being around you .. NOT BIG FAT @SSHOLES who people gossip about and say "what a jerk, good riddance !" when you're gone !!!

 

[blienk]

Most hilarious post ever.

 

[Vigilante7]

Originally posted by Best friends? NAY
okay, neg hits, should have some humor with them. That sounded more of a WTF is wrong with you you ugly hag. Unchangable things are usualy not the best to go on for the first meeting, try more for what their wearing, if they do any wierd behavors (that arn't obvious real problems.) Those are ususaly better for starting.

LOL ye,

I pissed my chances with HB10 in my school cause i said she was 'overweight' ina playful way with no humour attached LOL!

 

[gav]

a girl was in my flat and ate most of the chips

me: look who ate all the chips *sn iggers*
her: what, do you think i'm fat
me: no, i think you're nice and thin
her for the second time: no really am i fat
me: no, you're medium

i'd say that's a semi neg-hit. funny as fvck at the time with her reaction

 

[macknetikcharm]

A) You should only give a girl that kind of treatment to put her azz in check not ""juz cuz""

B) Don't ever talk to women you wanna stab about negative-azzed sh*t like "cancer"-------> TOTALLY KILLZ THA MOOD

C) If you do tease a broad and she hasn't done anything to deserve your malice SMILE and tell her you're juz kiddin'

 

[Best friends? NAY]

I link to think neg hits more as teasting/flirting, something that gets their interest and keep things FUN.

 

[Ice Cold]

ROFLMAO

A neg would be something like:

Wow, nice tan.
Thanks
You almost have a crust, kinda like a bun. You like buns (changing topic)
Yeah
See - we have so much in common

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by xblitz44x
The whole concept is retarded. You're going to offend people, even if you do it 'right'. And healthy people don't appreciate being offended. It doesn't make you look "cool" or "confident" or that you "aren't kissing her ass"...it makes you look like you're offensive and that you don't understand how to hold a normal healthy conversation.

It was designed by a person who has huge insecurities himself. He felt aware of them when he was in the presenece of a 'hot' woman, so in order to balance or shift the power (as if the power was ever shifted or there was ever even a struggle to begin with), he decided to make HER feel the same way as he was feeling and make her aware of her own insecurities.

I say cut the shyt, figure out why you perceive there to be a need for a 'power struggle' to begin with....try to understand why it is you feel so insecure in her presence and handle it.

WOW, blitz, what r u talking about dude? Negs are not insulting or derogative. It was designed by a person who liked to play with the girl, tease her, flirt with her and have a little fun. It has NOTHING to do with a confidence issue. You are going WAYYYY off track here. And while you are having fun with her, it shows her that you are not uptight and serious, in other words, you dont feel she is above u. Dont know what got into your head in that post......

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by CLOONEY Dont know what got into your head in that post...... [/B]

I think it was destini