Personally to me, having fun with the girl is what's important. Worrying about what to say and all that crap will just make you nervous and overanalyze sh*t. I just say whatevers on my mind to women.
Getting arrested for talking to girls at the mall? Haha, I'm sure all cops think about is one guy going around the mall talking to girls. Meanwhile, there's a shooting and they ignore that because they're so worried about one guy approaching at the mall. Haha, you're a funny dude, but get your head out of your ass.
Retarded? It's not retarded. What's retarded is not approaching in a place full of women. Haha, that's probably you, you go to a place full of women and you say to your friends "Hell no man, do you know how retarded it is to approach in a grocery store?". You're the retarded one here.
Get whatever's making you ugly? Oh yeah, you fix your looks and chicks'll be all over you. WRONG. Looks have little to do with it.
Anyways, I'm off to the mall to get in some more approaches. Aiming for 10 approaches tonight.