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[betablaster]

This right here is a great way to walk away and don't look back.


Respect.



Did she ever text you again after you said to throw away the shirts?

no i tired calling and texting her the next morning. for my stuff back cause i was drunk at the time. and i havent herd anything from her. i even drove over to her house... i was going to knock on the door but i said **** it and left. she does know i was there that morning. i asked my mom to try and talk her into giving me my stuff back.

 

[betablaster]

This is a dangerous game, friend, because you will soon realize that 99% of the time, unless you want to raise a family, there is no reason to put up with all the BS without the sex.

i really wanted a family with her. i had invested alot into our relationship. guess that's not going to happen.

 

[betablaster]

And that right there ruined it.

ruined what? its over.

 

[DonJuanabe]

"This is a dangerous game, friend, because you will soon realize that 99% of the time, unless you want to raise a family, there is no reason to put up with all the BS without the sex."

Yep, and I don't want to have children. But your point is well taken and means making a grand bargain: having children in exchange for a potential lifetime of BS. And who knows, like thousands of men out there, I could very well end up with little or no sex + BS and aggravation + children, thus potentially divorced. Not worth it to me.

 

[Harvey_Poon]

Quite frankly, I'm surprised at some of the comments on this thread in a DJ forum. They are not very DJ like at all. Some of these guys need to rethink their ink.

When a woman disrespects you this much, as this woman did to this man, you don't relegate her to a fvck buddy status (because she disrespects him so much that she won't be having sex with him), you relegate her out the door to the fvcking curb. That is what you do to women who behave in this manner to you.

No pvssy in the world is worth keeping around for you to take disrespect and humiliation from.

You can always find some new pvssy. There is no need to keep a chick around that disrespects you this much, just for the sake of saying you have some pvssy, while you turn into a pvssy yourself.

Thai is not worth it, and you are not being a man.

Now...on to the problem at hand.


This is a inside joke between the woman and the other man at the expense of betablaster.

girlfriend had one of her guy friends text her asking if she knew anyone who needed a roomate,

Meaning that he will be her new roommate after she beaks up with betablaster.

dude eventally stated if she found something for him he would eat her out.

Meaning he will be eating her out soon when they are broken up

she "if she were single she would be all over it and would be having his kbuff green eyed kids"

Meaning she will be single soon and she will be banging his brains out once she gets rid of betablaster

this really upset me. and quite honestly i'm disgusted. i dont know what to do.

Well, you should be by the whole thing. I'm sure it was quite a surprise to you. What you do is kick her a$$ to the curb and get rid of the hoe and don't look back. That is what you should do.

i feel disrepected that she didnt tell him that was inappropriate. so what do i do from here? help quick

You should feel disrespected because she disrespected you. Why would she tell him that it was inappropriate? She feels it is appropriate. She was playing right along with him with the sexual banter. She wants to be with him and she wants you gone. That is what she wants. You get rid of her. That is what you do.

she sent me a text, saying "im sorry"

She is not sorry and this was her way of ending things with you.

she called and i asked her to explain herself. she couldn't. all she said was "im sorry" not even one of those frantic sorry's like hey i really ****ed up. she tired to say she it was a joke... im not buying it... if it was a joke she could have said that fbefore i walked out on her. i left the conversation with i need some time to think. she said im not going to wait for you bs and i told her fine then i'm done. she quickly changed her tune. she said i will give you some space. and that's where i am now.

The joke was at your expense but she wasn't joking with the guy. Women that respect their men and love them, don't have sexual banter with guys they don't want to be with. She had nothing to say because there is nothing to say. She wanted your relationship over and for you to break up with her. She turned on you in your conversation when she is the one who is guilty. She is giving you the space. She wants it to be over. So take the hint, save the small amount of dignity and pride that you still have left and move on. This relationship is not salvageable and you need to find some greener pastures.

a few things that are bothering me is the fact that she doesn't really seem that upset about this situation. and i could even sense a bit of hostility in her voice.

Why the hell would she be upset? She got what she wanted. She wanted you gone and to be with the other man. She wouldn't be telling him that she would be having sex with him when she is single. Now she is so she can She has the hostility because she has lost respect for you.

i did explain to her that she needs to contact dude and inform him he needs to stop this bs or i will do it myself.
she agreed she would tell him he needs to back off.

i feel like i'm not getting any remorse from her...

so at this point i don't know what to do. i don't know how i'm going to trust her. please give me your wisdom!

You are totally blind to the whole situation here and you're just digging yourself a deeper hole with this. You are making yourself look more weak in her eyes every minute.

C'mon man, do you actually think for one minute that she is going to stop talking with this guy after she already expressed her sexual desires for him just because you tell her to? She isn't going to listen to you. She wants you gone so she can start banging him. And why would you still want to be with a chick who treats you this way? Of course you're not getting any remorse from her. Why would you? She wants you gone and she wants to bang him. Don't you get it? Like I said before, you can't trust a lying hoe, kick her to the curb and be done with it. Quit making more of a fool out of yourself by holding on to this. She is talking to him about you and they are both laughing at you. So please do the right thing and cut all contact with her.

So if i decide to keep this relationship and i tell her if it happens again she will be dropped. also i plan on asking her to remove him as a friend on facebook, text him that he is not to contact her for any reason and to delete his number

What some guys will go through just to say they have a girlfriend.

Why the hell do you want to keep her for? A woman who disrespects you and wants to be with another man. Not to mention she already has showed you that she doesn't want to be with you anymore. You are wasting your time and she will not listen to you. She will not delete him from facebook or delete his number. The more you demand her to delete this guy the more she will want to be with him and you are making yourself look more weak and pathetic in her eyes. It's just a matter of time before she tells you she doesn't want to be with you anymore and will dump you for good. Save yourself from that humiliation and end things now.

Next time don't hang on to a dead relationship when a woman disrespects you. Don't make demands to woman to cut ties with a man she wants to be with. Be a man and kick her a$$ to the curb and don't take any bullsh!t from them.

May your days be filled with much greatness and plenty of poon

Dr. Harvey Poon

 

[Romjuan]

Oh man, I would expect more from a 29 year old. First, you should know by now, based on the other thread you created about her back in december when you broke up the first time it wasnt going to work out. This chick is NOT ready for what you want. Shes still in "party" "getting attention from guys" stage in her life. Eventually after couple more years when she gets this attention stage out of her system she could possibly want a relationship.

Move on. Shes not going to be faithful to you and once you broke up the first time, the worst thing you can do is try and convince her to get back with you, which is what you did on the other thread.

 

[betablaster]

Update, so tomorrow it will be 2 weeks of NC with this chick, 1 week after a met up with a childhood friend of mine i havent seen in over 20 years. we go out, and we run into his friend who is a playboy model, anyways i made sure to take a bunch a pictures and posted them on my FB.

a few days later she texts me "i see you're moving on just fine without me" i didn't respond.

Valentines day: she tired to call me and i didn't answer. and hour later she sends me a text about how i was cheating on her and how i'm a liar. ( pretty sure she thinks i was cheating on her with the girl from the pictures). again no response from me.

Tonight she send me another text "i wish you would come **** my brains out one last time." again no response.

i really dont get this chick shes starting to sound desperate.

 

[Die Hard]

Tonight she send me another text "i wish you would come **** my brains out one last time."

I wouldn't be surprised if you went and did it, she "accidentally" becomes pregnant...

 

[betablaster]

I wouldn't be surprised if you went and did it, she "accidentally" becomes pregnant...

a small part of me wants to do it. but if i did i would regret it. and it would make it that much harder for me to move on.

 

[betheman]

Update, so tomorrow it will be 2 weeks of NC with this chick, 1 week after a met up with a childhood friend of mine i havent seen in over 20 years. we go out, and we run into his friend who is a playboy model, anyways i made sure to take a bunch a pictures and posted them on my FB.

a few days later she texts me "i see you're moving on just fine without me" i didn't respond.

Valentines day: she tired to call me and i didn't answer. and hour later she sends me a text about how i was cheating on her and how i'm a liar. ( pretty sure she thinks i was cheating on her with the girl from the pictures). again no response from me.

Tonight she send me another text "i wish you would come **** my brains out one last time." again no response.

i really dont get this chick shes starting to sound desperate.

round of applause!!!!
she wants to have a hold on you, control, like a marrionette, she doesnt want to keep hold of you, subtle difference.

in her attempts you have listed, she has tried a lot of strategy to get a response out of you, thats all it is

 

[BeDJ]

Tonight she send me another text "i wish you would come **** my brains out one last time." again no response.

i really dont get this chick shes starting to sound desperate.

Beta bait. Don't bite.

 

[Atom Smasher]

a small part of me wants to do it. but if i did i would regret it. and it would make it that much harder for me to move on.

betablaster, I just want to encourage you to stay strong and don't contact her under any circumstance.

You are being severely tested right now and you will cause yourself great harm if you contact her. Ultimately you two are going to be apart. There is nothing to save except your own dignity. You have recovered the upper hand, and this is your only shot at walking away with self-respect.

Stay strong brother. NC is essential.

 

[synergy1]

i really wanted a family with her. i had invested alot into our relationship. guess that's not going to happen.

I was going to respond with two possibilities:

1- Casual Relationship - This one is easy. She is dangling the carrot around other guys, as someone in a "relationship" women will be easier to get with. They sense this. leverage it. She is.

2- Real relationship - This is obviously a bit more involved. The fact she is looking for another cack to ride speaks volumes for the respect she has for you, which by my estimation is little to none. There is a lot of "talk" here about how to keep the frame, alpha BS etc, but all the actions point towards people actually being very much the opposite. It all starts with self respect, and having their women BLATENTLY disrespect them like this shows that the individual has no self respect at all.

I'll use my experiences as an example. I went the Rollo Tamasi route, and continued to improve myself, be social and have a life outside my girlfriend. She was very well aware that women were into me, and that if she fvcked up, that I had very little hesitation to move on. As such, she wouldn't even think about pulling the kind of crap I see a good number of folks complain that their "girlfriends" pull. Because of this, i was explicitly truth worthy of her actions. Of course I would never cheat on a longer term relationship because I felt my gf was a good quality person, the option was always there. She knew this, and it really worked wonders with the whole trust thing.

My recommendation to folks who have their "gf" do these type of things, make it apparent that other women will gobble you up. This will whip their **** into line so fast. keep the competition anxiety there ( and read RTs blog about this), because its a very real and very strong dynamic that virtually no men utilize to their advantage.

Edit: This is NOT to be confused with spinning plates. While this is probably a good idea for early dating, when I have a gf, I am content simply talking only to her. unlike 99% of people, I don't abandon my social circles when I have a gf.

 

[betablaster]

round of applause!!!!
she wants to have a hold on you, control, like a marrionette, she doesnt want to keep hold of you, subtle difference.

in her attempts you have listed, she has tried a lot of strategy to get a response out of you, thats all it is

I agree shes only trying to get me to to respond. Shes playing games. If she really cared there would be action. Not going to lie im tempted to respond but I need to stay strong.

 

[betablaster]

I'm going to keep no contact. **** her

 

[Reyaj]

Good job betablaster! You are scoring some points for the male gender by not going back to her!

 

[speed dawg]

Quite frankly, I'm surprised at some of the comments on this thread in a DJ forum. They are not very DJ like at all. Some of these guys need to rethink their ink.

Real easy for your ass to say, on the 3rd page of the thread, after we get all the details.

 

[lifeislearning]

OP: If you feel weak in this NC (and you will, as we all have) simply look at the first page of this thread and remember that feeling. Is that feeling worth one last romp?

Stay strong! Nothing other than moving on can sooth the pain. If you find your mind saying anything different, come back on here for some harsh (albiet necessary) correction