Found out my girlfriend of 5 months had had sex with 30-40 men

[Alexandar]

umm no, sorry but you cant generilize like that, it doesnt affect all women the same.

and that is sort of besides the point.

the point should be, it is stupid to ask this question because it shows you to be insecure, and because you will almost never get the truth out of someone, so its absolutely ridiculous.

i have Never felt the need to ask a woman this, it shows a huge lack of personal. security and a woman thatll admit to sleeping with that many men is 1)slightly braindead and thus very rare and 2)kind of commendable for having the balls to admit it knowing most guyz are insecure kids who will be like wtf omg wh0re, peace

dont you realize almost all girls youve been with have been with this many men? lol dont kid yourselves.
if anything it makes them better in bed, dont worry about it, and dont ask this question. its phucking pointless and stupid.

 

[usernamedox11]

umm no, sorry but you cant generilize like that, it doesnt affect all women the same. and that is sort of besides the point.

the point should be, it is stupid to ask this question because it shows you to be insecure, and because you will almost never get the truth out of someone, so its absolutely ridiculous.

i have Never felt the need to ask a woman this, it shows a huge lack of personal. security and a woman thatll admit to sleeping with that many men is 1)slightly braindead and thus very rare and 2)kind of commendable for having the balls to admit it knowing most guyz are insecure kids who will be like wtf omg wh0re, peace

dont you realize almost all girls youve been with have been with this many men? lol dont kid yourselves.
if anything it makes them better in bed, dont worry about it, and dont ask this question. its phucking pointless and stupid.

No one said it did affect all women all the same, but it is a red flag. There's nothing wrong with generalizing to try and gauge a person at first without much information at hand.

I don't think you need to ask. You know kind of just know if a woman has a high partner count or not by the way she carries herself, usually. If she does, chances are she is not a suitable partner in the long run. If you ask because you are trying to see if you should take her seriously or plate her, who cares?

http://socialpathology.blogspot.com/2010/09/sexual-partner-divorce-risk.html

Read that link above. Like I said, you can find exceptions, but chances are the person is not a suitable partner.

If you don't believe this information because it doesn't align with your idealogical belief system of the world, that's fine. Statistics and studies tend to back up what I think of women with high partner counts.

 

[HoneyHitter]

The way this is going, by the next generation of 25 y/o women will average a 100... and still be considered marriage material. Why? Because men reward undesirable behavior.

 

[usernamedox11]

The number of partners a woman has impacts her ability to pairbond. OP you know this but many here do not seem to have that knowledge yet.

Yes there are many girls at that age who have not sucked every **** on the way to the parking lot.

Let's say she is 25 and has had 45 c0cks in her. The first thing we can surmise is that she is a risk taker, Certainly not conducive to a long-term relationship. Secondly we can conclude she does not make wise decisions, again not conducive to a relationship.

Now, if we assume she lost her virginity at 18, that means she has fvked 6-7 new guys every year. How do you feel about buying that cow when all of the others got it for free? Do you deserve better? Or is this what you're worth?

The problem is even when you throw the studies at guys here, they are still in denial acting like it doesn't matter.

They think if they have enough game, status and whatever they can keep these girls committed. The problem is these girls are usually nuts and have unpredictable behavior. Game can only work for so long on damaged women, doesn't matter how perfect you are.

Look at Floyd Mayweather, he dates crazy wh0res, status, money, alpha, has tons of side pieces, everything, and he can't even keep these crazy b1tches tamed.

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

She has multiple HPV strains and herpes most probably.

 

[badboyjmm]

No, it's not hypocritical because it is a different situation. Sexual partner count affects women psychologically much more than it affects men, studies back this up.

I agree with you about the psychological part, but then again, I cannot expect to met girls that are virgins or girls that are not lying about their numbers.

So living where I won't trust any girls at all because they are all undercover s!uts and or not able to be good in relationship makes no sense. That would be like not stepping out my apartment because I got a chance to die.

The main thing with girls is being able to handle their ridiculous behaviors when it happens or being willing to walk away. Since I have that ability, a girl's number is the least of my concern.

 

[usernamedox11]

I agree with you about the psychological part, but then again, I cannot expect to met girls that are virgins or girls that are not lying about their numbers.

So living where I won't trust any girls at all because they are all undercover s!uts and or not able to be good in relationship makes no sense. That would be like not stepping out my apartment because I got a chance to die.

The main thing with girls is being able to handle their ridiculous behaviors when it happens or being willing to walk away. Since I have that ability, a girl's number is the least of my concern.

I agree that some of these girls can make decent relationships and handling them/walking away if issues arise, however, I still wouldn't take them seriously or get too attached.

 

[Jaylan]

Screen screen screen. If you know certain things bother you, always find out BEFORE committing. Id probably bail personally. Im ok with a woman having an average number of partners....but the few girls Ive known who've made it over 20 partners were usually rather slutty with low standards.

If your woman was like 45, and had a few fling periods during her single life, Id be more understanding...because her average partner per year wouldnt be high. But almost 40 partners at age 25 shows me she doesnt know how to stick with a guy and/or doesnt have control enough to go without sex for any period of time.

40 dudes for a chick who will "just turn 25" at the end of the month? The girl is loose as a goose. I CAN'T SEE HER AS ANYTHING MORE THAN A PLATE...

Bro, I grew up down in NYC myself...and have known some slutty women. Skanks are a dime a dozen in the big apple. Even the sluttiest female friend I have, kept her number from passing 30 befire the time she reached her early 30s. OPs girl is near 40 partners before reaching age 25, and lost count it seems....thats just....ugh.

 

[usernamedox11]

The other thing, oh man.

One girl I was dealing with was acting like a madonna, then I found out from a friend of hers she used to try and force guys to sleep with her in high school. High partner count, at least 25.

Don't be the chump that tries too hard to get in the pants of these girls when you know they gave it up to uglier men than you very easily.

 

[Trump]

I'm not too shocked...being red pill minded and all..just sucks. Worst part about it is I actually liked her but I must end it as I will never see her in the same light again. I didn't find out on accident or anything.. I asked herand she told me flat out but & she was hesitant because she was ashamed and knows how I feel.about women with high numbers and pair/bonding.

She is begging not to lose me and is really torn up about this. I'm pretty sure I'm the highest SMV man she's ever been with.

If she was so concerned about not losing you, why would she tell you she has have sex with 40 at 25 years old?

I'd be more concerned about her smarts, probably not the sharpest tool in the shed.

 

[pyros]

this discussion is damn stupid.

SHE'S A FVCKING WH-ORE and every guy here knows it deep inside of him, no matter how you look at it.

If you think she's not, you're too damn blue pill.

You cannot compare women to men because any girl can spread her legs and get sex in a split second, but if a guy wants to have multiple women he has to PUT DAMN EFFORT, RESOURCES, PERSONALITY, PHYSIC, etc to get them.
Besides women have evolved to choose the best partner so if she could not find him with 50 guys!!!, she is the damn problem.

You cannot turn a wh-ore into a housewife.

 

[Jaylan]

Mike nailed it.

Really stupid question to ask. At the end of the day, I care about what the girl can bring to the table in terms of personality, insight, love.

Besides, it's quite hypocritical that most of us here are inspiring to bang more and more girls but have a problem if a girl does that same with guys. I understand that a girl that sleep around isn't a skill by itself but we can't have our cake and eat it too.

I want to have sex with more women, but my number is still not near as high as OPs girlfriend...and Im in my late 20s.

I learned in my mid 20s that sleeping around wasnt really my thing. While I have casual sex, Im selective and I pace myself. And its not really my moral compass or anything. I just try to be safe regarding pregnancy, diseases, and keep my personal life drama low. And yes I use condoms...but anything can happen...so Im careful.

Plus Ive never really been one to bounce from chick to chick. I usually casually see a girl for a period of time, enjoy ourselves, and then move on.

So yeah, Im no hypocrite. I just prefer a woman whos like myself in that she enjoys sex, isnt a prude, but doesnt spread her legs for everyone. Im sure OPs girl can find a guy who wouldnt have an issue with her past and who has a similar past.

Ive known guys who simply have a "I dont give a fvk whos shes banged as long as she isnt a cheater or a homewrecker" attitude. OP doesnt seem like that kinda guy.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

It coulda been some party girl years. Racking up 6-7 guys a year for everal years is not that big a deal for a female. They could rack up that many every week without trying if they were a bigger slut.

Fact is some people go thru ho periods, and "not give a f attitude". It's up to you to discern whether she is in a ho phase with you or not.

A "ho" has several qualities which means it will be problemsome to try to tie down:

1. Needs excessive attention
2. Wants what it wants and doesn't care about repurcusssions
3. Will always put self first usually unless it benefits itself.

So she can see a "new" attractive guy as a "ho" and just want to try it out, and this continues on as long as there are "new" guys.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

It's up to you man. You have the right to choose any girl you please. I wouldn't recommend marrying her though lol.

 

[johntab67]

Women underestimate the number of partners they've had, i.e., bj's, finger bangs, vacation sex, drunk sex, anal, etc., don't count as real sex.

 

[skinnyguy]

Consider yourself lucky. She probably fvcks like a pornstar!

 

[Boxer00]

The number of partners a woman has impacts her ability to pairbond. OP you know this but many here do not seem to have that knowledge yet.

Yes there are many girls at that age who have not sucked every **** on the way to the parking lot.

Let's say she is 25 and has had 45 c0cks in her. The first thing we can surmise is that she is a risk taker, Certainly not conducive to a long-term relationship. Secondly we can conclude she does not make wise decisions, again not conducive to a relationship.

Now, if we assume she lost her virginity at 18, that means she has fvked 6-7 new guys every year. How do you feel about buying that cow when all of the others got it for free? Do you deserve better? Or is this what you're worth?

Says the guy who has no idea how many men his gf has fvcked assuming it's a low number. It could be 40 too. Lots of chicks act like 25 is low.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

Women underestimate the number of partners they've had, i.e., bj's, finger bangs, vacation sex, drunk sex, anal, etc., don't count as real sex.

Many of them do not count "one night stands" as part of their sex count... Now what if most of their conjugations were one night stands and it was in the hundreds?

Men are concerned about the amount of different penetrations that a female has taken out because it does seem women with higher c0ck counts are "crazier" and less prone to form attachments and more prone to cheat.

if they just had several boyfriends they pounded a few hundred times each, great. But a woman with several hundred ****s, laying down with several hundred different men all those bodily fluids, connecting mentally, etc... At some point it does make problems in someone who is interested in LTR.

If all you want is a plate to bang, then it's probably better.

 

[Johnny1986]

Hey guys, I want to specify and clarify on a few things due to the amount of debate. First off I appreciate all the advice and input. Here are the facts: her and I have been dating for 5 months. She is by far the most loyal and attached a woman has ever been to me. Perhaps it's due to me being a good guy, perhaps she has problems. Either way she has been there for me 100% of the time any time I needed her and does not deny me anything. I ask her to jump and it's an immediate how high. This isn't her just talking either...it's proven on a regular basis with her actions. She seems genuine in her feelings and I hate to admit I have grown somewhat attached despite my red pill knowledge.
Since my first post she actually texted me expressing her feelings then actually drove back to the hotel we were staying at telling me how much I meant to her and how she doesn't want to lose me and will do anything to prove it and blah blah blah. Obviously I know how women act so I am skeptical about everything from the get go but as stated this has been a strictly red pill relationship and I have led while she has been my first mate and a damn good one despite her past.

Just to clarify: she lost her virginity when she was 14 and she said I was her 29th guy. I said "30 to 40" because I know women downplay it. She has never lied to me before though, that I know of. I am kind of pissed at myself for even being on the fence right now. As of now we are not together and she is really heartbroken and claiming she does not want to throw it away, etc.

 

[Desdinova]

I generally don't ask. If she's a wh0re, it will eventually become evident through her behaviour, her knowledge of sex, bondage, fetishes, and everything else under the sun. Her number of male orbiters is also a good indicator.