For you guys who still live at home.....

[So Many Ways]

I moved out for good a week before my 26th birthday. I'm glad I lived at home as long as I did because it enabled me to get a degree without going deep into debt and I was able to save enough money to buy a condo. I'm definitely better off now because of it.

Living at home does screw up your social life, no doubt about it. When I was at home, my parents were always there, they never left, not even on weekends, so I rarely ever took girls home, unless I knew for a fact that they took an occasional weekend off. It's even worse when a girl calls you and your mom answers. That's just embarassing, when you're in your early - mid 20's.

As with anything, it's a tradeoff, move out while still in school, rack up $$$$$ in student loan and credit card debt and have the freedom associated with being on your own or live at home, save your money, be more financially stable but have a sh!tty social life.

Those are your alternatives.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Julian
What about those of us who are interested in pursuing more then just the average 9 to 5?

Im stuck wondering if i should stay at home and focus on my music or if i should integrate with every other sucka and go to college.

Im itching to get back out of my parents place because it blows, but the last thing i wanna fall into is the rat race. **** that noise.

I hear what you're saying. Running in the rat race isn't going to make anyone a fortune other than the person you're working for. That's what people don't get.

Consider finding out how you can make money doing what you enjoy and get educated in that. Don't waste your time going to college just for the sake of going. It's not going to do you any good without going for a specific purpose (which isn't a diploma).

The problem with these guys is that they got an education and don't know what to do with it. They didn't watch employment trends while in school to determine whether there would be jobs available for them once they got out. And then there's the question why they didn't get jobs in their chosen fields WHILE they were in school, who knows.

Whatever they did it didn't work out for them and it's everyone else's fault except their own. Not everyone makes the right choices but successful people don't make excuses and give up, they keep changing and adjusting until they get on track.

 

[dietzcoi]

I did not realise this board had so many adult men still leeching from thier parents. Why the parents allow it, I cannot say. They think they are "helping" thier kids, but by giving them "help" they are holding them back from being forced to take action in thier lives. Sad

Dietzcoi

 

[SeldomSeen]

RE:

adult men still leeching from thier parents

explain leeching and relate that to age for us a bit please.

 

[Broham]

Originally posted by dietzcoi
I did not realise this board had so many adult men still leeching from thier parents. Why the parents allow it, I cannot say. They think they are "helping" thier kids, but by giving them "help" they are holding them back from being forced to take action in thier lives. Sad

Dietzcoi

fyi- I do not leech, mooch or any other term relating to living off my parents' money. Yes, I pay them rent. I pay for probably half of the food I eat (I eat more than my parents combined btw).

I agree with Francisco and others who have mentioned the fact that alot of ppl have the degree but don't know what to do with it. I would say that's only part of the problem for most ppl. Alot of grads just don't have the experience needed for the positions they are interviewing for. My situation is different. I'm in the boat where I wish I went to school in a field entirely different than which what I grad with. I came out of HS with no real passions, so I went to decent college I could get into and a popular field of study. Now I'm finally realizing my true passions but I only have a self-education on these subjects and no proper schooling/experience. I just don't see the point in starting a career in something you have no interest in. To make matters worse, I suffer from Adult ADHD. I don't like to use it as an excuse, but it almost got me fired at my last job since I kept making the same mistakes on excel spreadsheets.

 

[No Escape]

Re: RE:

Seldomseen, pay no attention..this guys either clearly a moron, or he's trying to rile us up, which by the way isn't working too well.

 

[Centaurion]

I moved out (from norway to australia) 2 weeks after i turned 20, with only a suitcase and a backpack, going to university. Now I'm sharing a large 5bedroom apartment right on campus with some real cool people. Since I've literally moved to the other side of the world, I don't have anyone to rely on besides me, that means that I have to haul ass if I want to do/achieve something. It makes me stay compettive, and makes me want to improve myself.

So far, moving out has been the smartest move I've ever done. Living on my own and adjusting to it was not really a big deal for me, since i was in the army for a year right after high school.

So, grab your balls and just jump right into it, you'll either learn to swim in the real world or drown like the sorry ass you are.

 

[Julian]

I hear what you're saying. Running in the rat race isn't going to make anyone a fortune other than the person you're working for. That's what people don't get.

Well im glad someone does know what im saying...

Consider finding out how you can make money doing what you enjoy and get educated in that. Don't waste your time going to college just for the sake of going. It's not going to do you any good without going for a specific purpose (which isn't a diploma).

This is good advice, i was going to go to college just for the sake of going... but now i think i will find out about some music engineering schools instead.

 

[No Escape]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
I bet you're proof of it too because you sound like a bitter @ss SOB. Who the hell did you piss off that karma's kicking your @ss so badly?

I'm proof of nothing other than a good, down-to-earth human being. You on the other hand, can learn a thing or two in that area. If anything pisses me off, it's your ignorance and stupidity, but ya know what, i don't really give a rat's a** what you think about all of us still living at home...you're insignificant opinions mean absolutely nothing to me, and i hope everyone else feels the same way. My advice to everyone is, don't give a f**k what people think of you. As long as you're leading a good life and you know that you're trying, that's all that counts. It's nobody's business what you do. That's what gets me about a lot of people, why is someone else's life the topic of their concern?? I never understood this. Are their lives that boring that they must resort to focusing on and criticizing others lives??

 

[AverageFC]

I'm 20, and I go to college out of state, so I'm only home on holidays. This is my sophomore year at college. Last summer I thought it would be smart to come home.

Boy was I ****ing wrong. I'll never come home again except for Christmas. The freedom is too damn precious to lose.

After I graduate I will be getting my own place in another damn state.

 

[dietzcoi]

Good for you, AverageFC

These other guys could learn but spend too much time defending themselves

The ones who pay rent, good. The ones who just take, take, take from their parents... shame on you

Why do you think your parents still have to cook, clean and do chores for you when you are 23+?

Where did you get this entitlement mentality from?

Dietzcoi

 

[J.C.]

Paying rent to your parents is the most retarded thing I'v ever heard. i'm not refering to those that have to pay but to their parents. Like, wtf, what do they do with the money? Go in vacations, add to their pension funds, what?

We come from a rather poor country where it is absolutely normal for parents to save for many years in order to buy their kids a house/apartment. It is also very normal for married people to take their parents into said homes when they get too old and *gasp* take care of them!
I guess the american way is to send them to an asylum.

I mean, I will buy myself a house anyday now, but why can I do that?
Because my parents paid for my college, they supported me through my master's degree, through ****ty jobs, and now that I earn more than both of them I have zero credit and a sizeable savings account (I'm 25).

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Re: RE:

Originally posted by SeldomSeen
NO ESCAPE is just venting at those who think someone at 25 living at home is a loser or a bum and thats not the truth. If you arent trying to do anything in your life or you're freeloading then you are a loser or a bum but if you're busting your butt and still having a hard time then its nothing to be ashamed of. When I was at home at 25 I paid my mother RENT! I bought my own groceries, washed my own laundry etc. Its just at the time I couldnt afford rent and had no one to move in with until a year later.

This is very interesting. I wonder how many of the young bucks out there feel it is a strange to be an adult and have to pay rent if you live with your parents. And buying your own groceries and doing your own laundry too??!!! Why do you feel that their parents should still be doing their chores at their age? Why don't they feel that they need to contribute to the family?

I had been working for a few months by my 16th birthday and my mother told me that I should contribute since I had some income. I agreed without hesitation because back then men did that sort of thing. After a couple of weeks I realized I was paying rent TO LIVE WITH MY MOM!!! Hell, if I was paying rent I might as well get my own apartment! Three weeks later my buds were helping me move into a one bedroom apartment.

I'm not saying that all teenagers have the means or the know how to move out on their own but if you are old enough to vote, drink or join the armed forces, you should be able to do many other things too.

 

[sexual_intellectual]

2 ways of thinking I've seen here:

1) save money by living at home, when you move out, you'll be better off, and in the mean time, why blow money on rent.
2) move out and get a house for the freedom of it.

sort out what your priorities are in life. set goals. when you know what you want to do, you'll know whether its more important in the short term to save, or whether you can afford to "buy your freedom."

Personally, I'm at Uni now, my last year. When I graduate, I'm gonna move into a house with a couple of friends and rent. In two more years I'll probably get a mortgage.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

lmao.

You dudes must be crazy to be telling these kids that it's ok to live like a bum for a few years and be independant then live at home with some restrictions.

 

[DjDreamer]

Ok to live like a bum? Nah... they should get a job BUT save money in the process...

 

[No Escape]

Re: RE:

Originally posted by SeldomSeen
NO ESCAPE is just venting at those who think someone at 25 living at home is a loser or a bum and thats not the truth. If you arent trying to do anything in your life or you're freeloading then you are a loser or a bum but if you're busting your butt and still having a hard time then its nothing to be ashamed of. When I was at home at 25 I paid my mother RENT! I bought my own groceries, washed my own laundry etc. Its just at the time I couldnt afford rent and had no one to move in with until a year later.

On the same note (kinda funny) this guy I worked with at this warehouse years ago was 42!!! and lived at home. He didnt have a car and one night asked me to take him home and I said where do you live and I drove him home to his parents house. He was an alcoholic who couldnt keep a job and had 7 DUI's and his drivers license taken away. Needless to say he never got any ass either.

Did he not get a** because he didn't wanna bring chicks home because he had no privacy, or because chicks were turned off that he was still living with his parents?

 

[Legend]

This is a really good thread, that hits home for a lot of dj's. Im 21 and cant afford to live on my own. I have like 3-4 more semesters of college and then i'm going to have a BA in chemistry and a BBA in business. When i graduate im going away to medical school, so i'm going to be forced to move out.

Hell things living home is great, i have one cook meal everyday and clean nice place to live and relax. A couple of dogs that i really enjoy and its not costing me a dime.

My situation is different then most people, I live with my mom and bro..my dad recently pass away due to cancer. So i would almost feel bad about leaving my mom alone is a time like this. I'm glad im not graduating college next semester because she's going to be heart broken when my bro and I both move out of the nest.

It almost like three friends living with each other, we all get along very well and all can come and go as we please. My brother has a gf that he bangs in the house, and mom knows but she doesnt seem to mind. I on the other hand am a single college guy, when i do hook up its normally at the girls dorms or at a park and ride. My room is right next to my moms so its harding for me to get laid in my room then it is for my brother.

I'm not worrying about it, if the girl cant handle that i live at home, i dont need that type of girl in my life.

Renting is the biggest waste of money first of all...you have nothing to show for it. During medical school im going to be living off loans and will be forced to rent, but things will turn around once im an MD hppefully.

So I say, stay at home all long as you please providing your rents want you there. Do what you want im sure some parents are related. Also better yourself while you are living at home. Take college courses or do something. I'm broke as fvck now, but i know this isnt going to stay this way forever. I'm gaining knowledge and getting degrees.

Plus its cool not having my own place i can spend my money on cool things i normally wouldnt be able to if i had my own place.

So if you live at home, enjoy it was along as you can...because things arent going to always be so easy.

 

[DjDreamer]

Originally posted by Legend
I'm not worrying about it, if the girl cant handle that i live at home, i dont need that type of girl in my life.

Good point...

 

[No Escape]

Originally posted by DjDreamer
Good point...

RIGHT ON to Legend for that one! I was thinking of pointing that out to. If a chick can't accept something about you, then f**k her, she's no good anyway.