For the college guys who want to meet women

[mostwantedbabyfather]

I wish i found this thread earlier. Has anyone got any succesful stories this semester.

 

[MooseGod]

How the heck do you go from, "Hi, how was your weekend/what did you do" to "careful with your teeth"?

I small talk with a few girls at the beginning of class 3 times a week and I don't know how to go any farther.

The only thing I can think of and maybe pull off is suggesting that we go to the math lab (class requirement certain # of hours) together and do our homework. And maybe suggest lunch after that. But even then I'd probably be too nervous to even bring it up...

Throw a kegger. Invite her. Done deal.

 

[moto]

Everyone ready for Spring Semester?

 

[meitenesrigas]

sweet. Next year finally normal college for me!!! no more home studying. Psycology baby, 70% chicks.

Why don't you learn to spell your field of study first. Geez. 70% chicks and more than half of them will be fat! The other half will wear flip-flops to class every single day. Sounds like an invitation to hell if you ask me.

 

[Mad Manic]

I don't get to meet any girls because 75% of my uni is male and the other 25% are doing medicine, biology etc. which is seperated from my department. Plus science uni = geeks = little going out. Which means great excuses for celibacy. I can always say 'if ...'

MM

 

[moto]

The first week of school is crucial.

 

[Colin O'Brien]

I've still got a semester left of high school, but next year I'm going to New York University. If you don't know, NYU is a huge school with tons of students, and it's right in the heart of Manhattan, IE no campus (the campus is the city).

Will the seemingly ingenious advice given in this thread apply in such an atypical college environment? I'll basically be living in New York City but taking classes.

 

[stand]

I wish i found this thread earlier. Has anyone got any succesful stories this semester.

About 8.

This post is really good.

I have had a ton of success in my first semester in college and I agree with everyone thing the OP has said.

I'd also advise everyone to be patient with class room game. There is no rush. You basically have a date with the girl every week. I pick out my targets early in the semester and about half way or a little after go for # closes - depending on the IOIs.

EDIT: I went 8/9 this semester with targets in my classes. I go to a community college so it's harder and the environment is totally different.

 

[moto]

About 8.

This post is really good.

I have had a ton of success in my first semester in college and I agree with everyone thing the OP has said.

I'd also advise everyone to be patient with class room game. There is no rush. You basically have a date with the girl every week. I pick out my targets early in the semester and about half way or a little after go for # closes - depending on the IOIs.

EDIT: I went 8/9 this semester with targets in my classes. I go to a community college so it's harder and the environment is totally different.

Since community college is smaller environment i guess its harder, but do you have and tips on what you did this semester especially first week of school or for number closes?

 

[snowdog]

Why don't you learn to spell your field of study first. Geez. 70% chicks and more than half of them will be fat! The other half will wear flip-flops to class every single day. Sounds like an invitation to hell if you ask me.

Says enough about you that you that you try to get some validation by pointing out spelling errors.

 

[stand]

Since community college is smaller environment i guess its harder, but do you have and tips on what you did this semester especially first week of school or for number closes?

Well, IMO the community college is different, because no one wants to be there. Classes are also a ton smaller and there is really no on campus activity at all.

#1 - Be patient : Like, I said, you basically have a date with this girl every class. Do not try number closing right away; let her get comfortable with you. I couldn't imagine a more uncomfortable situation then going in for a number close right away - getting blown out and having to sit through an entire semester with a girl.

#2 - Flirt with EVERYONE : I flirted with all the decent looking chicks in the class and would joke around with them all.

#3 - Befriend another guy in the class : You will become more comfortable in the class having another guy there to just joke around with and converse with.

#4 - Make sure the teacher doesn't hate your guts : I am ****y as hell, but also very humorous. Joke around with the teacher, make sure he/she likes you. For example, I had a teacher this semester where we would constantly bust each others balls during the class. The last day of the class I was the first one done with the final, he starts laughing when he sees me get up and says "Get your ass up here! I cannot wait to grade this one!". This guy was a pimp and noticed I was gaming about 4 of his students and would just shake his head and laugh at me when he would hear me run game. I know he appreciated it - I am taking another class with him this semester and I guarantee he will do nothing but help with my game.

#5 - Be FUNNY, but not over the top - If you're not funny; do not try to be. Be humorous, but never go over the top. DO NOT be the class clown, but be one of the funny people.

#6 - Make sure you study and do decent in the class - No girl wants to date an idiot.. If you show you're somewhat intelligent it can only help. And you're in class to do well anyway.

Those are some basic tips on why I feel I was successful.

As for number closes, if she is telegraphing interest be direct with her. For example, after class walk with her and talk to her. I don't really have any good lines to use, but as long as you're confident it won't matter.

On 4 of these girls I just flat out asked for her phone # by saying "Give me your number".

I can't remember 2 of the number closes, but on the others I used "So, when are we going out?" Maybe lame, but again if you show confidence it won't matter.

GL - I can't wait until Monday

 

[BLebowski]

Wow college, damn that brings back memories. Sex, beer and good times ayeaye. I just had to respond as an oldtimer reminiscing the pvssy.

Good tips all around. I don't really know how different US college culture is from my own country's college culture (no colleges except 1 in Holland have campuses for example) so it might be different....

Most important thing to remember on day 1 is that you're all in the same boat. Pretty much everyone there is new and alone (or maybe with 1 or 2 people they know from high school but it ain't likely) and looking for familiarity. Excellent opportunity to be friendly, just strike up a convo and meet new people.

If you're there with someone you know from high school....don't stick together all the time.

Even if you're an engineering or compsci nerd and have nearly no women in class (or you have but they're warpigs), there are likely to be parties everywhere, every day of the week. Get to know the right crowd. I did CompSci myself and made sure to befriend a lot of people with different majors by joining clubs, doing sports and participate in stuff like vacations, field/excursion trips or other events.

As for joining a frat...the jury's still out on this one. Some people hate it, others love it. I joined one, and the friends I made there are still friends. Those friendships last a lifetime, so yeah I would recommend finding a frat that suits you. What's even more fun are the alumni nights; mine regularly organizes alumni nights once in a while and you see people from all walks of life: good for networking, a drink, some fun and dare I say it, pvssy (the classy dressed richer older guy . A good frat isn't only useful in college but also afterwards. When you're going to a school without a campus, finding a frat or society is crucial imo. At least try to move to the city where your college is, so you've gotta come out of your comfort zone. Otherwise, ít'll be just like highschool.

Also...be sure to enjoy this time. Tuition is pretty expensive in the US so I had it easier (~2.5k tuition *a year*, and when I went on for my PhD I actually got paid as if I were a regular employee) but if you're enjoying yourself, you're opening up and work on yourself and your social skills, adding a year because of failing classes isn't the end of the world (unless of course, you can't pay for it), whatever everyone else might think or say. Consider that year a year of self-discovery which needs investing into as well.

Lastly, if you can't pickup chicks in college, there's no hope for you. Seriously, it's that easy. You only have to smile and say hi.

If you thought it's hard...wait until you get out of college and marry. The wrong one who turns you into an AFC again with all its consequences. I'll stop before I'll start sounding like Al Bundy. :crackup:

Wow long post....have fun guys!

 

[Mad Manic]

Even if you're an engineering or compsci nerd and have nearly no women in class (or you have but they're warpigs), there are likely to be parties everywhere, every day of the week. Get to know the right crowd. I did CompSci myself and made sure to befriend a lot of people with different majors by joining clubs, doing sports and participate in stuff like vacations, field/excursion trips or other events.

IME social groups are based primarily on subject choice and hall, it's very difficult to penetrate certain groups if you're not with them regularly.

Lastly, if you can't pickup chicks in college, there's no hope for you. Seriously, it's that easy. You only have to smile and say hi.

This logically makes sense though being at a uni with 3/4 males and by doing physics it's hard to pinpoint reasons. Part of my fear is even if I went to a normal uni I'd have got nothing and I'd have no excuses. As for smiling and saying hi, that works well but there seems to be a lot more involved to sexing a girl/making her your gf. That works fine for chit chat and doing class work though.

MM

 

[moto]

How to approach chicks that are not in your class?

such as hallways, library, computer lab, cafeteria, etc.

any specific openers/

 

[Mad Manic]

People forget uni approaching is not the same as cold approaching. There's more at stake because everyone is nosey and girls have a lot of social power with so many guys and girls in their reach. If you cold approach a uni girl and it goes wrong, IT could be toast. She tells people, by the next day you're classed as a creep who tries it on with girls. If you're gonna try it on with uni girls do it indirectly and with a get-out-clause. Make it seem like you're not hitting on her. That way if she doesn't dig you when you indirectly approach it doesn't matter as you never hit on her.

Stuational openers may well be your saviour in this type of environment. If you're clever enough to spot some that enable you to open without seeming weird, then it can be gold. I've done a few already and nearly closed, witty one liners etc. also work well. Just don't do what one guy did; he approached a girl he liked in the dark, said, 'Hi my name is x, I fancy you, erm would you like to go out for dinner with me sometime?'. BOOM.

MM

 

[moto]

People forget uni approaching is not the same as cold approaching. There's more at stake because everyone is nosey and girls have a lot of social power with so many guys and girls in their reach. If you cold approach a uni girl and it goes wrong, IT could be toast. She tells people, by the next day you're classed as a creep who tries it on with girls. If you're gonna try it on with uni girls do it indirectly and with a get-out-clause. Make it seem like you're not hitting on her. That way if she doesn't dig you when you indirectly approach it doesn't matter as you never hit on her.

Stuational openers may well be your saviour in this type of environment. If you're clever enough to spot some that enable you to open without seeming weird, then it can be gold. I've done a few already and nearly closed, witty one liners etc. also work well. Just don't do what one guy did; he approached a girl he liked in the dark, said, 'Hi my name is x, I fancy you, erm would you like to go out for dinner with me sometime?'. BOOM.

MM

Yea i was thinking indirectly.

You have any examples of the situational openers you have used or witty one lines?

 

[Mad Manic]

Yea i was thinking indirectly.

You have any examples of the situational openers you have used or witty one lines?

If you're holding doors open for a girl that's behind you, you can say 'I'd make a great door opening assistant ehh' then see how she reacts as to whether you can engage her in a convo. Or if you take the stairs and a girl comes out of the lift, you can say, "I just knew the stairs would be quicker haha". Or if you're talking to a girl about gym etc. you can say, "I do weights but not much cardio, I don't need to as the girls come round my flat each night to keep me busy *wink*". The last one works if you are good looking/built though.

MM

 

[James45]

fvcking fvcking amazing.


One question, once I've sat down next to the HB8+ and chit chat about the lecture, how do I escalate to a date if getting a coffee or something after the lecture is not an option?

Its hard enough to build enough rapport in 3-5 minutes (just before and after the lecture) to #close - but how do you guys do it?

I'm trying neural linguistic programming (NLP) and applying a few concepts like ask her what the most amazing thing she did today or yesterday - then repeat it, smile, open your body up and talk enthusiastically about it and then do something that will anchor the emotion of her amazing thing to you. e.g. smack the table as you make a certain, exciting point.

lol. as i've been writing this, I've just realised I've known how to build rapport all along, the only thing to stops me is thinking about it - when I'm with a male friend, I role off funny sh1t and generally have a good time without thinking about it. But, as it seems, once I think about approaching that chick and initiating convo and being funny it stops me. I need to fvcking get over thinking about it and just go over there and ENTERTAIN MYSELF and fulfill my genuine interest of having fun/interacting with chicks.

Damn, tomorrow is going to be a fcking badass day - I will report back!

 

[BMX]

I'm gonna use this at whatever school I transfer to, but as for now during community college, just work on #3.

 

[The Inside Man]

I miss college! going to grad school once a week but I don't have the same connection to my new campus as before. Live it up guys, some great advice on this thread. Most of my college hookups were through social circles, or meeting girls in class, and once in a while a ONS from a bar.