Hello All.
This is my first post, and I wanted to put it in this thread because I too have had a life changing experience because of sosuave.com, and especially the writings of Pook.
I have been in a LTR for 7 years. For the past year or so the relationship has not been going well. I have been depressed and angry. Like most of you I was a total AFC, even using "Men Are from Mars..." when I was wooing my girlfriend. I did everything I could to win her, and it worked. When the relationship started straining I again turned to "Men" to help me once more, convinced I had forgotten the wisdom there, and that I needed to brush up. But a funny thing happened. The more I tried to use the techniques again, the angrier and more depressed I became. I didn't know what else to do, so I started thinking that maybe If I opened myself up to the possibility of having an affair that I would somehow find what I was missing. I quickly found myself with a raging crush on another woman.
I started doing preparation work. I had studied body language in the past, trying in desperation to figure out a way to get dates, and whether some girl liked me or not. I decided to polish up on my body language reading skills. Somehow I ended up here.
I began to read the articles, devouring the information. "At last" I said to myself, "Now I can have the skills to seduce any woman I want". I went to fastseduction.com to figure out what all the abbreviations meant here, and found even more information on seduction techniques. After I had read all of the articles, and decided that I was going to turn myself into one "lean mean cheating machine" I decided to just check out the forums to see what people were talking about. During a search for something I came across something that caught my eye, "Kill That Desperation!" by some guy named Pook. Well I was pretty desperate for this other woman, so I started to read. What I found was that instead of finding a site just about how to score women, I had found a lot more. I had found a philosophy for living ones life as a Man, instead of as a boy.
I began to read everything by Pook and many others, realizing that the problems I was having were because of me, and not the people in my life. I realized I was never going to change them, I could only change myself. I was shocked to discover that even though I have been through a lot in my life, the kind of stuff that should "make a man of you" I wasn't even close.
After living my whole life as a scared, shy AFC, I knew what the answer was; it was right in front of me. I am now a proud RAFC. In the short time I have been here my confidence level has risen tremendously. When I walk into a room, women check me out now. I was at a party recently and really tried to put my new skills to the test. I was funny, outgoing and confident. At one point one of the women I was talking to told me something I said to her was such a GUY thing, and she meant it as a compliment. She was seeing me as a MAN, not a doorstop.
I chose my member name to remind myself what I aspire to. I have a long way to go before I am a DJ, but at least I am on the right path. I just want to thank everyone who contributes to this forum, whether their aim is to get more women, or to improve their lives. To me it is all good, and I get valuable tips, advice, and inspiration from both camps. Thank you all so much, and especially Pook...wherever you are.
