el_perezoso
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Hi all,
There's a girl I've known for a few years now, and whom I've pretty much fancied since we met. She had a boyfriend at the time, and then afterwards I had a girlfriend, so I never really chased her proactively, though we've hung out on a few occasions for beers and stuff like that. For the record, though, there have been a few times where I got the feeling that she was kind of brushing me off, though I was careful to play it cool, and we've gone months without talking afterwards. I never brought up things like "I like you" or the topic of us dating, I always went for the friends angle with her, precisely because I like her. I was determined not to burn any bridges by blowing up her phone or turning into a little *****, as per the lessons I've learned on this site
Anyways, my girlfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago and, since she's single as well, I feel as though it's time to make a move with this girl (let's call her Helga).
I hung out with Helga last Friday, just a casual thing at a local bar, determined to play it slow and cool. I got a good impression following the end of the evening, and I waited until yesterday to message her again to see if she wanted to hang out next week, and when she was free. She took over a day to answer, and hit me late today with a "sorry I had fallen asleep, not too sure I'll get back to you" answer, which kind of smelled of B.S. to me. Basically, I want to know how you guys deal with these kinds of answers.
I want this girl very much, though not at any cost. Obviously I'm looking for a suave or clever answer to get the desired effect, but I don't want to simply say "OK" and have her never get back to me, it feels to me kind of like an overly-nice guy move. What kind of answer would you guys give in such situations?
There's a girl I've known for a few years now, and whom I've pretty much fancied since we met. She had a boyfriend at the time, and then afterwards I had a girlfriend, so I never really chased her proactively, though we've hung out on a few occasions for beers and stuff like that. For the record, though, there have been a few times where I got the feeling that she was kind of brushing me off, though I was careful to play it cool, and we've gone months without talking afterwards. I never brought up things like "I like you" or the topic of us dating, I always went for the friends angle with her, precisely because I like her. I was determined not to burn any bridges by blowing up her phone or turning into a little *****, as per the lessons I've learned on this site
Anyways, my girlfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago and, since she's single as well, I feel as though it's time to make a move with this girl (let's call her Helga).
I hung out with Helga last Friday, just a casual thing at a local bar, determined to play it slow and cool. I got a good impression following the end of the evening, and I waited until yesterday to message her again to see if she wanted to hang out next week, and when she was free. She took over a day to answer, and hit me late today with a "sorry I had fallen asleep, not too sure I'll get back to you" answer, which kind of smelled of B.S. to me. Basically, I want to know how you guys deal with these kinds of answers.
I want this girl very much, though not at any cost. Obviously I'm looking for a suave or clever answer to get the desired effect, but I don't want to simply say "OK" and have her never get back to me, it feels to me kind of like an overly-nice guy move. What kind of answer would you guys give in such situations?