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Master Don Juan
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If you got a good girl, you can have the best of both worlds.
Then you are a dirt bag. You are the ones that cause the rest of us to have to listen to the women complain that "All men are like that". You are the reason that Family Court is so hostile to men. Guys like you are the justification that the Lawyers and Judges use against the rest of us. If she was my sister or other family member I'd come lookin' for ya.Bros- I have to do it.
I have a current great LTR- great career, 8/10, cooks, cleans, does whatever I say. A great life-partner for getting through it.
no- I’m it going to break up with her, I don’t care about the “moral” things we’ve all been conditioned to believe.
we’re animals. I’m in my early 30’s, life is short and I want to have these experiences while I still have my youth.
A person of your caliber is not my "bro." Clearly, we are not cut from the same cloth.Bros- I have to do it.
There are men in their early 30's that have gone through combat, worked hard to raise a family etc.. Meanwhile, you are claiming that you're still in your youth? Judging by your character, I'm now thinking that they need to raise the voting age to 40.I’m in my early 30’s, life is short and I want to have these experiences while I still have my youth.
Societal constructs such as "love" are placed on us by both women and weak men , my question has always been how the hell is it possible to legitimately commit yourself to one woman for the rest of your life when you still find other women attractive !?!
Love is supposed to conquer all ..... haha no will power and societal shaming does
Any guy in a relationship who says he doesn't find other girls attractive is a liar or a simp
Men are naturally designed to procreate with as many women as possible, your girlfriend should actually be pleased other women want to sleep with you it should reassure her she is with an alpha male
all the guilt shaming and moral wrongdoing is literally placed on you by society , the movies , TV , the media
it's utter nonsense
go and smash that ***** whilst you still can.
This is the response! Any who says else is a brainwashed white knight shill- who thinks “doing the right thing” even exists.Societal constructs such as "love" are placed on us by both women and weak men , my question has always been how the hell is it possible to legitimately commit yourself to one woman for the rest of your life when you still find other women attractive !?!
Love is supposed to conquer all ..... haha no will power and societal shaming does
Any guy in a relationship who says he doesn't find other girls attractive is a liar or a simp
Men are naturally designed to procreate with as many women as possible, your girlfriend should actually be pleased other women want to sleep with you it should reassure her she is with an alpha male
all the guilt shaming and moral wrongdoing is literally placed on you by society , the movies , TV , the media
it's utter nonsense
go and smash that ***** whilst you still can.
bro yes, it’s the hunt! I love it..I say go for it. You want the thrill of the hunt. You're probably experienced enough to handle it right.
exactly, I’ve been with a lot of women of all different backgrounds, experience and it’s so exciting meeting a new woman who has new interest, new stories.Is this "right relationship" out there though? Lets be real....... the quest for the "right(perfect?) relationship" is ONEITIS mindset.
After you have been with a certain number of women there is no such thing as the perfect woman or the perfect relationship. There is always that chick in the past that banged you better, the other that stired more emotions in you and the one that was the better housewife ..... etc.etc.
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
I can see this as a risk assessment proposition, however you are NOT factoring in opportunity cost.Here is my experience and initial thoughts:
I'm on the spectrum of sociopathy and I believe morals are subjective & often socially conditioned. As you could imagine, this has had an effect on my behaviour in many aspects of my life.
Of course, part of stating that is just me rationalizing my past behaviour, as I am guilty of cheating before when I was younger. Each time I cheated, I never got caught, it never weighed heavily on my conscience, and I never had to directly lie to my LTR's face about it (interestingly, I think lying directly to a girlfriend's face and/or also giving a girlfriend an STD would bother me by weighing heavily on my conscience, especially the latter).
I have a different opinion on cheating than a lot of people, in that I think it can actually be an experience that can be useful (that doesn't mean you should do it nor that it's justified). I say this because I cheated on two different LTRs when I was younger. The first relationship I cheated, I was cheated on first, and after I cheated too, I realized that I didn't really like my LTR, but neither of us had the courage to end it. Cheating made me realize there are other girls out there that I'm more compatible with sexually and had better chemistry with in general.
The second relationship I cheated, I realized that I actually really liked my LTR, and realized what I had with her, and resolved to never cheat on her again & (ironically) cheating made me appreciate her more. This relationship lasted another year before we amicably split, mostly because we were attending different schools in different cities.
In both relationships, what I found interesting was immediately after the act I felt I "came to my senses" as they say. I acted purely out of lust. Once I busted my nut, I had this feeling of doing something not necessarily wrong, but more so this sense that what I did was needless and unnecessary, in that I jeopardized so much just to experience a few moments of pleasure.
I don't think everyone who cheats is automatically a piece of sh!t, I just ultimately don't see it as worth the risk, and so I wouldn't recommend it. Even as someone who never got caught, I still feel cheating wasn't worth the risk. Having matured and learned from my experiences, I decided that I will never cheat again.
I'll elaborate why on my next post...
All good points, but only STDs is the one that is applicable here- there is no damage to her if she never knows.Despite what I said in my previous post, I wouldn't advocate cheating for the following reasons:
(1) There is a very high probability it will change your behaviour, so high that it's practically guaranteed you will become more secretive. You will act differently around your girlfriend. She may or may not pick up on it -- doesn't matter. The point being is that if you cheat, you now have something to hide. In order to hide it, you have to act with deceit. You will have to create and maintain the illusion that she is in a relationship with a loyal man -- this the deceit, because you are NOT a loyal man. Deception is the opposite of the integrity. If you cheat, you are sacrificing integrity & loyalty for a few moments of pleasure due in large part to your lack of self-restraint regarding lust.
(2) There is also a chance she finds out that you've cheated and confronts you. Do you then lie to her face, or do you tell her to the truth? Do you go all-in on the deception at this point, or do you come clean? Do you expect her to dump you, or do you expect her to stay with you? If she dumps you, are you okay with that? If she stays, are you okay with being with a doormat who has low self-esteem and can you look her in the eye knowing what you are putting her through? If you cheat, are you prepared at any given point to have the relationship with your girlfriend end permanently? Are you prepared to deal with the life changes that will occur and the social backlash you will receive? The implications of these questions can be completely avoided if you choose not act on your lust.
(3) STDs & pregnancy. Having sex with someone ALWAYS includes the risk of pregnancy or getting an STD from that person. You may be okay with cheating, but would you be okay with giving your girlfriend a permanent STD? Are you okay with knocking up a chick outside of your relationship and attempting to navigate through that in secret behind your girlfriend's back? How would you feel or react if you were loyal to your girlfriend and suddenly you contracted herpes, chlamydia, warts, or HIV seemingly out of the blue?
(4) Hypocrisy. Self-explanatory. You wouldn't be okay with your girlfriend cheating on you, or if you found out she's been cheating on you the entire relationship. Yes, there's a double-standard in the manosphere that suggests men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you "don't care" about moral things, then you logically also wouldn't care about the moral implications of this double-standard.
(5) Conscience. Can your conscience carry the burden of the act? Morals play a role in this, as does identity. This involves the reputation you have with yourself. By cheating, you are changing the reputation you have with yourself. How will you reconcile the fact that by cheating behind your girlfriend's back, you are explicitly demonstrating that you are a disloyal man who lacks integrity? Maybe you will be able to self-rationalize yourself out of feeling guilt, just the way you are self-rationalizing yourself into cheating. Perhaps you're on the spectrum of sociopathy (such as myself) or psychopathy, and are incapable of feeling such guilt, or at least do not feel it as strongly as most people. You may think you know how you will feel after cheating before you cheat, but you will ultimately find out for certain once the deed is done and irreversible.
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TL;DR
When you cheat, whether you are discovered or not, you violate your partner's trust. You needlessly expose yourself, your girlfriend, and the relationship to unnecessary risks. You sacrifice your loyalty and integrity for a fleeting desire of lust. Cheating also demonstrates a lack of restraint, questionable priorities, poor judgement, and it reveals countless other negative qualities about yourself.
Moral arguments aside, cheating is just not a sensible act. It's not a wise decision from a rational point of view.
I recommend not cheating.
Nothing in this is equal to anyone playing to win. It is more like "Sociopaths Gone Wild" or "When NarcissistsSome men are playing to win, just like women do.
Well, I am going to have to agree with @RickTheToad here. You have a good situation. You said it yourself, great career, HB8, cooks and cleans, and submissive. If she finds out, and trust me, she will at some point, say bah bah to all of that, and good luck finding a quality woman like that in modern times filled with low-hanging fruit.Bros- I have to do it.
I have a current great LTR- great career, 8/10, cooks, cleans, does whatever I say. A great life-partner for getting through it.
no- I’m it going to break up with her, I don’t care about the “moral” things we’ve all been conditioned to believe.
we’re animals. I’m in my early 30’s, life is short and I want to have these experiences while I still have my youth.
I’ve already been getting nudes from various girls and my drive to want to slam them is insane.
I’ve yet to pull the trigger yet though.
what are your stories, experiences?
It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.