First Date Trainwrecks - Help !

[The_Sea_Wolf]

Thanks everyone all great advice..glad I found this forum...



I have interest from a supermarket chick who is about 20/21 round the corner, but I thought that was pushing it in UK....you are seen as a pedo basically if its more than a 5-year age gap..you would not believe how stuck up prudish it is here vs even Europe never-mind Asia.
I have chatted twice to her vs number closing first time and she is all squirmy into me it seems so may just go for her whatsapp this weekend.

Got date with an Italian rocket scientist chick (!) coming up - so I need to absorb all these tips fast so I don't get stuck in warm fuzzy co-worker talk I ALWAYS DO...I kind of watch myself during the date thinking 'Why are you saying this lame **** again ? Show your intent."


I really desperately want to pivot to daygame but it feels so raw that pre-approach energy, that I get stuck in my head like a beta nerdboy.

Is why I have taken the easy route out last year using the barrier of a phone screen..but it has been anything but easy...chats dying for no reason, marriage interviews an every variant of it going off at an angle...and by them being on the dating app they are getting hit up by 100 guys a week or day, or whatever it is.

It sounds to me like you are getting over invested way too fast, you don't need one woman, you need like 15 to split your attention between until one stands out above the rest.

You are not viewing yourself as the prize.

 

[Daygame777]

It sounds to me like you are getting over invested way too fast, you don't need one woman, you need like 15 to split your attention between until one stands out above the rest.

You are not viewing yourself as the prize.

Yep, I had a chick over fastest lay so far last night - writer/ actress early 30s ,not the one that was in my building - straight off a dating app and she was the one all leaning in from start till leaving and I'm reverting to me leaning in too much now today by chat in the morning 2 of them lined up.

She actually contacted me on 2 previous apps and ghosted me as I could not progress things - so this time I pulled her up for ghosting me half way through a reply and then she was like a lapdog after that point.......she is a straight up nymphomaniac. Fool's mate - call it what you like but I suddenly totally lucked out..bypassed the coffee shops bars and 1/2 dates to lay....One minute I'm dry as it gets for chix, then she is over to my place within 2 hours after I batted away a ****tail bar meet request from her multiple times.

It's like every natural PUA step = I keep doing the opposite at the early days phase...I can keep chicks after this date phase in the far past but my anxiety at times/neediness is bleeding through. Basically whatever pops in my mind as 'next stage' I'll have to reverse it...it's my mode right now.

I need to go silent on the chat just now and pause before I say stuff...it's a turn off for them to be put on a pedestal as then you are a fan and she has fans as an actress already.

Such a trainwreck date on weekend with that 32 hot half-Ukrainian like I got a black hole in my head about the hook phase as its been so long in long-term relations...got blunt blunt on the first steps....safe 1st date 'co-worker flufftalk nice guy' is my (no)game right now.