If you are looking for a quick lay or are not serious about finding a woman for a serious relationship than this advice will be useless to you. If you are looking for the type of woman you could fall in love with than this advice will help you.
I always notice guys on here complaining about the lack of quality women out there. I think that is crap. There are many beautiful, amazing, intelligent, faithful, in short quality women out there. My girlfriend and ex-girlfriend have both been amazing women that any man would be lucky to be with. (The ex is an ex for external reasons, timing was just bad).
So how does a mature man find a quality woman in this day and age?????? Well let me start by breaking a few myths . . .
I see alot of people talking about sexual state on here and I think it is kind of ridiculous. You are a man, she is a woman, if you are interested in her just let it happen. Don't be afraid to try and get her excited, don't afraid to be sensual. Don't be afraid to up the sexual tension in any way. If she rejects your advances then she is not interested and you need to move on.
1) All the good ones are taken . . . False, yes some of the good ones are taken but many of the good ones are not. In fact often they are not, the reason is that the good ones DON’T NEED A RELATIONSHIP. That’s right a quality woman does not need the validation from being in a relationship and can actually be resistant to the idea of being in a relationship.
2) If a good one refuses your advances you should move on . . . again false, in fact to find and date a quality woman you need sincerity. If she finds you attractive or charming in any way she is going to have you pegged as a player. Also related to #1, quality women have other things going on in their lives and may want to hold off dating until their goals are met. Quality women will even hold off dating you because they like you so much and thus think you must be a player.
3) You can’t be a DJ and sincere at the same time . . . false, A DJ can and in fact should let a woman know he is interested, how does this vibe with challenge, you qualify that interest. Let her know that if that interest is not reciprocated you will walk. Have other goals in your life (we all know this right). Be an amazing person, this is the single best piece of advice anyone can give, be someone that other people admire and you will have the tools to make a quality woman interested in you.
First take your time when you are newly single or in a new situation. Build your circle of friends including men and women. Include women whom you find attractive in this building of a circle of friends. You are not really looking to date anybody right now. You are building a social network. Get her number or email with the intention of including her in your social network.
Like I said when you meet a woman you find attractive simply insert her into your circle of friends. Start by including an invitation to her when you send mass email invitations to your friends. If there is a party going on you should invite her to come. Watch how she interacts with other people and with other women. A quality woman is one who interacts well with others, especially other women, an attractive woman who can make other women feel at ease is a gold-mine.
See if you like her personality, see if you two can vibe and make each
other laugh. Chances are she is not the only woman you are interested in and that is a good place to be. You won’t get so concerned with just her. Don’t spend your time just gaming the girls you are interested in. You have to be social.
Before you can date a quality woman she has to be attracted to you. Very attracted to you. If you are not sure whether she is attracted to you the she probably isn’t. By the time you have reached this age you should be able to tell when a woman you know is attracted to you. If you have decided you want to date her, just ask her out, make sure she understands that this is not a “group thing” and that it is not a “friend thing”. This starts the real fun. She will resist dating you. The reason she resists you is because she doesn’t trust you. Just keep working at it as long as the attraction is there or she hasn’t told you to leave her alone. This resistance is just likely to cause internal conflict because she wants to date you. She is just worried about countless things, foremost is that she is scared that you can break her heart.
Chances are she has seen you interact with a lot of different attractive women. She has deemed you a “player”, this is where sincerity comes into play. A quality woman will not settle for sharing you with other women (if she does she is not a quality woman in my book). You have to let her know that yes while you may have many female “friends” that’s all they are. She will sense that at least a couple of these “friends” have other plans but let her know that you are not interested in them. At the same time she knows that a heartbroken man is likely to sleep with the first attractive woman that crosses his path and you should have many attractive women crossing your path.
The “friend zone” it may happen that a quality woman will try and place you in the “friend zone”, well that is unacceptable. She may be in your “social circle” but not everyone in your social circle is your friend. You two are not friends, and you could never be friends. The reason you can not be friends is that a true friendship is without agenda and you have an agenda, to be more than friends. You can even say that if you want, it has broken me out of the “friend zone” I saw myself being placed in.
Jealousy, after you begin dating you may find that other men are hitting on her constantly, it’s ok to be a little jealous. What I do is in a very matter of fact way I tell her after the fact if a situation made me a little jealous or uncomfortable. This reassures her that you are in fact serious about her. When dating a quality woman you need to temper the DJ with a little bit of AFC. Women are attracted to the DJ, but afterwards the AFC needs to be there in order for her to allow herself to fall in love with you.
Use this information with integrity. Quality women are a treasure and if you meet one you will be happy.
I always notice guys on here complaining about the lack of quality women out there. I think that is crap. There are many beautiful, amazing, intelligent, faithful, in short quality women out there. My girlfriend and ex-girlfriend have both been amazing women that any man would be lucky to be with. (The ex is an ex for external reasons, timing was just bad).
So how does a mature man find a quality woman in this day and age?????? Well let me start by breaking a few myths . . .
I see alot of people talking about sexual state on here and I think it is kind of ridiculous. You are a man, she is a woman, if you are interested in her just let it happen. Don't be afraid to try and get her excited, don't afraid to be sensual. Don't be afraid to up the sexual tension in any way. If she rejects your advances then she is not interested and you need to move on.
1) All the good ones are taken . . . False, yes some of the good ones are taken but many of the good ones are not. In fact often they are not, the reason is that the good ones DON’T NEED A RELATIONSHIP. That’s right a quality woman does not need the validation from being in a relationship and can actually be resistant to the idea of being in a relationship.
2) If a good one refuses your advances you should move on . . . again false, in fact to find and date a quality woman you need sincerity. If she finds you attractive or charming in any way she is going to have you pegged as a player. Also related to #1, quality women have other things going on in their lives and may want to hold off dating until their goals are met. Quality women will even hold off dating you because they like you so much and thus think you must be a player.
3) You can’t be a DJ and sincere at the same time . . . false, A DJ can and in fact should let a woman know he is interested, how does this vibe with challenge, you qualify that interest. Let her know that if that interest is not reciprocated you will walk. Have other goals in your life (we all know this right). Be an amazing person, this is the single best piece of advice anyone can give, be someone that other people admire and you will have the tools to make a quality woman interested in you.
First take your time when you are newly single or in a new situation. Build your circle of friends including men and women. Include women whom you find attractive in this building of a circle of friends. You are not really looking to date anybody right now. You are building a social network. Get her number or email with the intention of including her in your social network.
Like I said when you meet a woman you find attractive simply insert her into your circle of friends. Start by including an invitation to her when you send mass email invitations to your friends. If there is a party going on you should invite her to come. Watch how she interacts with other people and with other women. A quality woman is one who interacts well with others, especially other women, an attractive woman who can make other women feel at ease is a gold-mine.
See if you like her personality, see if you two can vibe and make each
other laugh. Chances are she is not the only woman you are interested in and that is a good place to be. You won’t get so concerned with just her. Don’t spend your time just gaming the girls you are interested in. You have to be social.
Before you can date a quality woman she has to be attracted to you. Very attracted to you. If you are not sure whether she is attracted to you the she probably isn’t. By the time you have reached this age you should be able to tell when a woman you know is attracted to you. If you have decided you want to date her, just ask her out, make sure she understands that this is not a “group thing” and that it is not a “friend thing”. This starts the real fun. She will resist dating you. The reason she resists you is because she doesn’t trust you. Just keep working at it as long as the attraction is there or she hasn’t told you to leave her alone. This resistance is just likely to cause internal conflict because she wants to date you. She is just worried about countless things, foremost is that she is scared that you can break her heart.
Chances are she has seen you interact with a lot of different attractive women. She has deemed you a “player”, this is where sincerity comes into play. A quality woman will not settle for sharing you with other women (if she does she is not a quality woman in my book). You have to let her know that yes while you may have many female “friends” that’s all they are. She will sense that at least a couple of these “friends” have other plans but let her know that you are not interested in them. At the same time she knows that a heartbroken man is likely to sleep with the first attractive woman that crosses his path and you should have many attractive women crossing your path.
The “friend zone” it may happen that a quality woman will try and place you in the “friend zone”, well that is unacceptable. She may be in your “social circle” but not everyone in your social circle is your friend. You two are not friends, and you could never be friends. The reason you can not be friends is that a true friendship is without agenda and you have an agenda, to be more than friends. You can even say that if you want, it has broken me out of the “friend zone” I saw myself being placed in.
Jealousy, after you begin dating you may find that other men are hitting on her constantly, it’s ok to be a little jealous. What I do is in a very matter of fact way I tell her after the fact if a situation made me a little jealous or uncomfortable. This reassures her that you are in fact serious about her. When dating a quality woman you need to temper the DJ with a little bit of AFC. Women are attracted to the DJ, but afterwards the AFC needs to be there in order for her to allow herself to fall in love with you.
Use this information with integrity. Quality women are a treasure and if you meet one you will be happy.
