everywomanshero said:
Dudes, why on earth would you want to live up to someone else's standard of "what being a man means". WHo gives a ****? If at the end of the day I am living up to my own personal values and beliefs, then I'm "being a man" in my own way. I really couldn't be bothered to care if I am "acting feminine" by eating some hot girl's snatch and telling her it tastes great when it really smells so bad I am about to gag.
So some guy who sits around jerking his pork sword to John Wayne is going to set the standard? Not for me! I think we should each live up to our own standards, it's fine to be inspired, but when one feels he has to live up to some external standards I think that is cause for concern.
Interesting question.
You're right, if one is looking for EXTERNAL Validation, that is the wrong road to choose.
yes, if you are full of Self Respect, Self Esteem, and are pursuing High Character as your Destiny, then YES, you are 'being a Man.'
If you have grown up with strong masculine men as mentors and role models, then you would find it easier to go in the right direction.
However, what about people who haven't experienced Self Esteem?
Who have no direction? Or guidance?
IF you have grown up
without any self limiting beliefs AT ALL, and
never suffered any emotional traumas, and experienced disconectedness from your masculinity, then you probably have a pretty good handle on the proper perspectives, ideas, actions and behavior, and mindset of a realized masculine man.
The weird thing is , that is not the
norm.
And the
reality is that vast numbers of males are
not experiencing this. They don't have values. They don't have directin. They don't have guidance. They lack self esteem and self respect. They don't have good role models, and they lack certin Rites of Passage that can help propel them into the correct productive, positive, and healthy masculine mind set.
For most people it's kind of like saying, "you should be able to go out and buy a million dollar home. What's wrong with you?"
It sounds
presumptious to believe that
everyone has plenty of money to go out and
buy a million dollar home.
Since this is obviously not the case, it then looks like an over simplification of a complex issue.