I was looking over some threads, and this one caught my eye.
As you may know I am very motivated to help males realzie their Masculinity, their masculine strength.
With so many males growing up identifying with women, and not strong masculine role models, there is a serious almost epidemic like poplulation of males whom are strangely disconnected to their nature maleness, their inherent Masculinity.
As more and more men grow up NEEDING approval from women to be themeselves, and hope they are 'liked' by repeating actions, like doing favors for mom, we have huge numbers of men not acting masculine.
Being ashamed of oneself is bad. Being ashamed of one's identity is bad.
Being ashamed and shamed for being a man, and masculine is what we are facing. And people, WOMEN INCLUDED , NEED to know what is going on here.
Men are in a situation that they aren't even realizing. But some are. After all the failures, rejection, negative feedback loops, and unhappiness, and strangely unfulfilling lives, as some men are looking outside the matrix
This site is proof that something is wrong within the Matrix.
I would like everyone to realize that there is a strangely COMMON theme in this board, and in most 'nice guys".
That of EXPECTATIONS.
"If I do this, then I should be getting THAT. I expect people to treat me this way. I expect getting this."
What they are hinting is that there is a sense of something missing.
Men are feeling like they are OWED something.
Something that is intrinsic, a part of them, something they FEEL they should HAVE.
"What is wrong with me? Why do I feel this way? Why don't women respond to me? Why don't I get appreciation and love and affection? Why aren't women attracted to me? Why don't I know who I am? Why don't I have passions? Why do I lack ambition and drive? Why do I not care about goals? Why do I not have a Directon in Life? Why do I have a hard time identifying with men, and masculinity? Why do I identify with women? And since I identify with women, why can't I get them to like me? Who am I?"
That 'something' is MASCULINITY, and the EXPEREINCES of being in the presence of STRONG, MASCULINE Realized Role Models.
This is the reality. And a lot of women do not realize this has happened.
Here is what Robert Glover explains in his book "No More Mr. Nice Guy":
But after years of working with countless men, I am convinced that a unique combination of social dynamics over the last five decades has produced a plethora of Nice Guys in historically unprecedented numbers.
To truly understand the current phenomena of the Nice Guy Syndrome, we have to take into account a series of significant social changes that began around the turn of the century and accelerated following World War II. These social dynamics included:
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The transition from an agrarian to an industrial economy.
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The movement of families from rural areas to urban areas.
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The absence of fathers from the home.
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The increase in divorce, single parent homes, and homes headed by women.
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An educational system dominated by women.
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Women's liberation and feminism.
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The Vietnam War.
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The sexual revolution.
These events combined to have a major impact on American boys growing up in this era. These social changes created three profound dynamics that contributed to the wide spread phenomena of the Nice Guy Syndrome in the baby boom generation.
1) Boys were separated from their fathers and other significant male role models. As a result, men became disconnected from other men in general and confused as to what it meant to be male.
2) Boys were left to be raised by women. The job of turning boys into men was left to mothers and a school system dominated by women. As a result, men became comfortable being defined by women and became dependent on the approval of women.
3) Radical feminism implied that men were bad and/or unnecessary. The messages of radical feminism furthered the belief of many men that if they wanted to be loved and get their needs met, they had to become what they believed women wanted them to be. For many men, this meant trying to hide any traits that might cause them to be labeled as "bad" men.