Female matchmaker's rant @ females about their unrealistic standards

[RangerMIke]

This is like watching a video of someone complaining about the fact the sky is blue rather than yellow.

This is how women are... they naturally will ALWAYS want their best available option, this is biology. Add to that a liberal democracy, mass media and our commercial culture encourages unrealistic standards. Our economy is driven by the fact that women can be emotionally compelled to buy into something they otherwise can not afford. If our nation relied on men spending money.... LOL!!! on things OTHER than trying to impress women we would fall into a great depression.

She isn't going to help ANYONE... She MIGHT get through to a few chicks that re-think their approach and marry dudes that are right for them... but those marriages will end badly, or two people will live in misery as they grow to hate each other... staying together out of habit. Or... you might get lucky and be one of the 15% of couples that are happy. That's like playing reverse Russian Roulette. Let's put 5 bullets in a 6-shooter and PLAY!

You can convince a chick to 'settle', but she WILL soon resent her decision and bring misery to the poor SOB that legally tied himself to a women that will go out a fvck the hot dude... who is already fvcking her friends... Trust me... I KNOW, I see this all the freaking time. Right off the top of my head there are 4 married women that if I called them over... would be here in a heart beat. They are ALL married to great guys... One dude is a college professor, one is a software engineer that took his wife out of a hell hole in Guadalajara, one dude is a well known brain surgeon (they are on vacation in SF in a high rise Penthouse apt, last night she sent me a selfie asking "How does my @ss look in this dress!), the last is married to a guy with that completely supports all his wife's decisions... and the crazy stupid @ss companies she starts and gets bored with...

The last one I saw just last week... she's starting a 'new' business, and wanted to hire me to help her get the certifications she was going to need. I turned her down saying I would just be taking her money for no purpose. She has a pile of money her husband gave her but I told her off... basically telling her to save her time and money and recommended a couple of other business options that might work better... So here I am basically telling her she was stupid and that I wanted nothing to do with her. She then starts giving me this "take me" and "kiss me" body language.

Women NEVER appreciate what they have. This actually does not make me angry... this is just how they have evolved. Getting a women to 'settle' is HORRIBLE advice. People make fun of single older 'cat ladies' but these single chicks with cats are MUCH happier than chicks married to dudes that just dry them up.

 

[Von]

This is like watching a video of someone complaining about the fact the sky is blue rather than yellow.

This is how women are... they naturally will ALWAYS want their best available option, this is biology. Add to that a liberal democracy, mass media and our commercial culture encourages unrealistic standards. Our economy is driven by the fact that women can be emotionally compelled to buy into something they otherwise can not afford. If our nation relied on men spending money.... LOL!!! on things OTHER than trying to impress women we would fall into a great depression.

She isn't going to help ANYONE... She MIGHT get through to a few chicks that re-think their approach and marry dudes that are right for them... but those marriages will end badly, or two people will live in misery as they grow to hate each other... staying together out of habit. Or... you might get lucky and be one of the 15% of couples that are happy. That's like playing reverse Russian Roulette. Let's put 5 bullets in a 6-shooter and PLAY!

You can convince a chick to 'settle', but she WILL soon resent her decision and bring misery to the poor SOB that legally tied himself to a women that will go out a fvck the hot dude... who is already fvcking her friends... Trust me... I KNOW, I see this all the freaking time. Right off the top of my head there are 4 married women that if I called them over... would be here in a heart beat. They are ALL married to great guys... One dude is a college professor, one is a software engineer that took his wife out of a hell hole in Guadalajara, one dude is a well known brain surgeon (they are on vacation in SF in a high rise Penthouse apt, last night she sent me a selfie asking "How does my @ss look in this dress!), the last is married to a guy with that completely supports all his wife's decisions... and the crazy stupid @ss companies she starts and gets bored with...

The last one I saw just last week... she's starting a 'new' business, and wanted to hire me to help her get the certifications she was going to need. I turned her down saying I would just be taking her money for no purpose. She has a pile of money her husband gave her but I told her off... basically telling her to save her time and money and recommended a couple of other business options that might work better... So here I am basically telling her she was stupid and that I wanted nothing to do with her. She then starts giving me this "take me" and "kiss me" body language.

Women NEVER appreciate what they have. This actually does not make me angry... this is just how they have evolved. Getting a women to 'settle' is HORRIBLE advice. People make fun of single older 'cat ladies' but these single chicks with cats are MUCH happier than chicks married to dudes that just dry them up.

Interestingly, I do find man to have a easier time "settling"

Once he gets à career.. he will settle

Some guys lack ambition. Ambition was the motor or version of the man "dating up or wanting more" ?

So if the guy has no more ambition (like your software, like your surgeon example).. what has hé left to impress the lady?

The lady wanna date up all the time, she's bombarded of "suitors", has better social skills by nature etc...

You right, even in the old days and even now, not all married couples make the "happy"

There is alot of fake.

No point in talkings about others.

But how can you have someone to build à life with and be truly happy, mutually?

I've never believed in dating down, but dating à girl who turn you on physically and stimulate you intellectually, Yes... (even if she's lower hb than your plate or ex)...but never settle for less than perfection in your eyes lol

You really have to take time to build à link, find someone they can "admire" etc..

Not easy, but worth it... nothing worth it is easy like they say.

Still, when you get what you want.... often the magic dissapear... you find out Disney is just magic.

 

[RangerMIke]

I've never believed in dating down, but dating à girl who turn you on physically and stimulate you intellectually, Yes... (even if she's lower hb than your plate or ex)...but never settle for less than perfection in your eyes lol.

Someone once said that if you are going to try and settle into a relationship, a man should only get with a chick that is just hot enough to turn him on... anything more than that will get you nothing but trouble.

It isn't advice I would give, but there is an element of truth to that.

The truth is that no matter where a woman comes from, or what her condition USED to be, like the chick I mentioned from Guadalajara. Her husband took her out a a miserable sh!t hole... you would think she would be grateful and loyal... but that isn't how the chick brain works. Any social condition she finds herself in becomes the norm... they are very much creatures that live in the present. She's not the poor girl from the slums anymore. She is an upper middle-class homemaker, whose husband has gotten a bit too complacent and comfortable, and she wants more.

Don't get mad at chicks, they can't help it. You just have to understand that if you plan to get into a relationship with a chick (God help you!) you best be prepared to ALWAYS NEVER stop trying to be better. Don't let yourself go... even if she does. Always stand up for yourself, don't TRY to make her happy. MAKE her be a legitimate partner and hold up her end of the bargain... whatever your deal is. Don't be mean... but also have an edge... Don't put up with sh!t. Chicks over time will try and break you down.... if they have you in a relationship. The first kink she finds in the armor... she will work it until she break through.

I'm not saying be an uncompromising pr!ck. But don't settle.

This is the exact opposite advice I give for someone that is just dating. As soon a chick is no fun when you are dating, you just walk away and plug in a new one. But once you are married, she has you by the balls... and if you walk away you are walking away from all your sh!t, and your kids. So you relationship dudes have it rough, you are Indiana Jones in a pit of snakes... no room for error or complacency.

 

[Solomon]

This is like watching a video of someone complaining about the fact the sky is blue rather than yellow.

This is how women are... they naturally will ALWAYS want their best available option, this is biology. Add to that a liberal democracy, mass media and our commercial culture encourages unrealistic standards. Our economy is driven by the fact that women can be emotionally compelled to buy into something they otherwise can not afford. If our nation relied on men spending money.... LOL!!! on things OTHER than trying to impress women we would fall into a great depression.

She isn't going to help ANYONE... She MIGHT get through to a few chicks that re-think their approach and marry dudes that are right for them... but those marriages will end badly, or two people will live in misery as they grow to hate each other... staying together out of habit. Or... you might get lucky and be one of the 15% of couples that are happy. That's like playing reverse Russian Roulette. Let's put 5 bullets in a 6-shooter and PLAY!

You can convince a chick to 'settle', but she WILL soon resent her decision and bring misery to the poor SOB that legally tied himself to a women that will go out a fvck the hot dude... who is already fvcking her friends... Trust me... I KNOW, I see this all the freaking time. Right off the top of my head there are 4 married women that if I called them over... would be here in a heart beat. They are ALL married to great guys... One dude is a college professor, one is a software engineer that took his wife out of a hell hole in Guadalajara, one dude is a well known brain surgeon (they are on vacation in SF in a high rise Penthouse apt, last night she sent me a selfie asking "How does my @ss look in this dress!), the last is married to a guy with that completely supports all his wife's decisions... and the crazy stupid @ss companies she starts and gets bored with...

The last one I saw just last week... she's starting a 'new' business, and wanted to hire me to help her get the certifications she was going to need. I turned her down saying I would just be taking her money for no purpose. She has a pile of money her husband gave her but I told her off... basically telling her to save her time and money and recommended a couple of other business options that might work better... So here I am basically telling her she was stupid and that I wanted nothing to do with her. She then starts giving me this "take me" and "kiss me" body language.

Women NEVER appreciate what they have. This actually does not make me angry... this is just how they have evolved. Getting a women to 'settle' is HORRIBLE advice. People make fun of single older 'cat ladies' but these single chicks with cats are MUCH happier than chicks married to dudes that just dry them up.

You bring up a great point however, no biology can make up for a girl who is a 4 who thinks that she deservers chad thundercock as a husband

This is the problem with women now a days they confuse their sexual market value(SMV) with their marriage market value (MMV)

It sounds like your social circle is upper middle class, Do you think the reason why so many married are throwing themselves at you is cause their bored? think about that for a second

 

[RangerMIke]

It sounds like your social circle is upper middle class, Do you think the reason why so many married are throwing themselves at you is cause their bored? think about that for a second

In a word... yes. But it also is a combined with the husband's thinking they don't have to put any work into the relationship, and they stop dating and courting their wives. Women have to know that the men in their lives find them physically attractive. It isn't enough to just 'love' a chick, you have to make her believe that you want to fvck her.... all the time. Otherwise she does not feel comfortable in the relationship... married dudes sort of get sexually bored with the same chick... day in and day out. That's why lots of married dudes need Viagra.

That is just my demeanor. I have been told many times by chicks that I date that the impression I gave them when I first met them was that I just wanted to throw them down and fvck them. It's not anything I do, that is just how I come off. I put out the vibe I am interested to ALL chicks, even if I'm not. It's a problem for me because I end up attracting women I am not interested in.

If you meet a woman's standard of physical attractiveness, and she picks up on an indication that you just want to fvck her... believe it or not, that is very powerful.

 

[MatureDJ]

I usually don't like listening to black women talk because they typically have this "sassy' attitude, but I liked this one.

In the first few minutes she discussed the idea of women wanting the husband to have the same attributes of the men that she termed "boy toys". This is nothing more than the idea that we all know - i.e., that for a casual fling, a man will "settle" for a woman of lower Sexual Market Value than he would settle for for a serious relationship, and that this behavior skews women's perception of their own Sexual Market Value as they figure that they can find just as desirable a man to marry when they are ready to marry as the man they find that will want to have sex with them. I think she explained this very well for her female audience.

 

[MatureDJ]

Women have to know that the men in their lives find them physically attractive. It isn't enough to just 'love' a chick, you have to make her believe that you want to fvck her.... all the time. Otherwise she does not feel comfortable in the relationship... married dudes sort of get sexually bored with the same chick... day in and day out. That's why lots of married dudes need Viagra.

The problem is that such women degrade to the point that the men in their lives do not find them physically attractive. It's not "boredom"; it's blubber!

 

[ubercat]

Hey I m a known 7 procurer. I don't do 5s. I doubt many here do unless they are very young and are looking to get their numbers up for the experience. Guru I respect the way you inspire and motivate the young guys here. However I believe there should be support here also for the average Joe who may never be a rockstar but he's on his way up. Now I know American culture is all about the pitch and always being on. There is this place called the world and self-deprecation and being realistic about your value or place in the world is not always regarded as weakness. I've got several UK mates who are smart guys and always pushing themselves but they can certainly have a laugh at themselves too and realistically evaluate their weaknesses as well as their strengths

You provide the view of the summit, some of us provide the huts and supply caches along the way

 

[guru1000]

Uber, you'll notice based on the pics posted that one's 9 can be another's 6 (e.g. BigNeil's girls). Those were BigNeil's 9, but Guru's 6.

The point is that we attribute ratings not so much on actual appearance but rather where on the scale of what we previously attracted, they fall. If a DJ has been attracting actual 3s all his life, he will probably attribute them as 5s or 6s, and when an actual 6 comes alone, he just found a 10!

Accordingly, it's not that I try to inspire men to date my 9s, but rather to improve themselves to the degree where they can attract their 9s.

Next question, as @Reykhel created a thread about this topic, is why is that so important to Guru?

 

[ubercat]

Fair call eye of the beholder and all. Anyway getting back to the original post. I thought it was hilarious that she was talking about what she had to settle down for in her husband and there was zero contemplation of his side of the deal. She's not the most beautiful woman in the world she looks like a natural 6 to me who s presentation takes her to a 7. The wall is coming. And she talks like she is on cocaine. I think I hubby has had to do a bit of settling too.

 

[guru1000]

I give the girl in the OP a 4.

Here is my 6.5:

http://s682.photobucket.com/user/guru1000/media/Girl 3_zpso5zqlscx.jpg.html?o=5

My 7.5

http://s682.photobucket.com/user/guru1000/media/Girl 2_zps7cgdwqwz.jpg.html?o=6

My 8-8.5s

http://s682.photobucket.com/user/guru1000/media/IMG_0138_zps99qys0wi.png.html?o=2

http://s682.photobucket.com/user/guru1000/media/p17hyqlzptgtccgw_zpsmazwpdby.jpg.html?o=9

A 10 (random photo taken from the internet, likely photoshopped to the max)

http://s682.photobucket.com/user/guru1000/media/IMG_7425_zps9tkxyjzt.jpeg.html?o=4

 

[icantgetlaid]

I usually don't like listening to black women talk because they typically have this "sassy' attitude, but I liked this one.

In the first few minutes she discussed the idea of women wanting the husband to have the same attributes of the men that she termed "boy toys". This is nothing more than the idea that we all know - i.e., that for a casual fling, a man will "settle" for a woman of lower Sexual Market Value than he would settle for for a serious relationship, and that this behavior skews women's perception of their own Sexual Market Value as they figure that they can find just as desirable a man to marry when they are ready to marry as the man they find that will want to have sex with them. I think she explained this very well for her female audience.

underrated post

when drunk/horny i will lower my expectations if nothing else is available .. but by no means would i ever wife these girls

 

[ubercat]

A ho is no matter how pretty. She isn't going to change her behaviour

 

[PeasantPlayer]

God no wonder so many of you guys rate bl0wjobs so highly. It's the only way you can get the American woman to shut up.

Blow Job are criminally overrated

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Women need to get off their high horses, cause once the make up comes off, points start dropping, its just the nature of the beast sorry

 

[SOCOWBOY]

women are ****s. end of

 

[MatureDJ]

I give the girl in the OP a 4.

Here is my 6.5:

http://s682.photobucket.com/user/guru1000/media/Girl 3_zpso5zqlscx.jpg.html?o=5

My 7.5

http://s682.photobucket.com/user/guru1000/media/Girl 2_zps7cgdwqwz.jpg.html?o=6

My 8-8.5s

http://s682.photobucket.com/user/guru1000/media/IMG_0138_zps99qys0wi.png.html?o=2

http://s682.photobucket.com/user/guru1000/media/p17hyqlzptgtccgw_zpsmazwpdby.jpg.html?o=9

A 10 (random photo taken from the internet, likely photoshopped to the max)

http://s682.photobucket.com/user/guru1000/media/IMG_7425_zps9tkxyjzt.jpeg.html?o=4

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I recommend using Flickr.

 

[dustmuffin]

There is an old song titled if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, make an ugly woman your wife. Lot's of truth in that.

 

[Lynx nkaf]

lol, build-a-bear

OMG this video is the BOMB! It should be required viewing for every woman over age 18. It needs to go viral.

Bottom line is women--especially the hot ones--cannot get out of their own f*ucking way if their lives depended on it.

 

[Mike32ct]

It’s over for 2017cels.