He's probably spending the time he could be spending with you with someone who is having sex with him. I know you probably don't want to hear that...but it's most likely true.Originally posted by XtremeRacingDiva
yes he wants to have sex with me yes he has pressed the issue..
I dunno if he is getting it from someone else...
We been to a few other places but not like a date...we went bike shopping together...I came up to his job a few times to check on the status of my bike and we went out to like diary queen or something to get a bite to eat...
maybe I am over reacting
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frivolousz21
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why havent you had sex??
you are an adult..next time yoiu see him...let him have it
you are an adult..next time yoiu see him...let him have it
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To me Sex is like riding a motorcycle... first you have to pick your motorcycle make sure its right for you...make sure you can flat foot it and the suspension is good. If it doesnt fit ya right find another bike that will.....
Cant just go and jump on any bike...
Plus if having sex with him is going to make the relationship work then its not worth it.. A relationship based on sex is not a good one.
frivolousz21
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a relationship has to have a great sex life or it will FAIL!...human desire for lust..will eventually cause one partner or both to cheat!
period!
period!
tmpgstx
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My advice would be to MOVE ON! This is IS NOT making time for like he should, especially in the beginning of a new relationship. I would make time for someone i wanted to keep dating.
So why can't he spend time with you in the evening then .. with his daughter? Why can't you he and his daughter spend time together in the evening after work?
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XtremeRacingDiva
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I am guessing that since we only been together for 2 months maybe its a little early to be meeting her.
or he could be a lying sac of sh1t and is spending time with another girl nstead of me...
who knows
tmpgstx
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He would definitely want to include you, especially with yourself already knowing he has a daughter.
A Friday night to boot! Tread carefully.
A Friday night to boot! Tread carefully.
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I have decided when we go out Monday to let him know that I am unhappy and think we should be friends.
So I can go on dating other people.
So I can go on dating other people.
Don Juanabbe
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Great. You guys just helped this game player game one of our own. Two months and no sex? No wonder he ain't interested in seeing you much.
XtremeRacingDiva
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lol
If sex was all he was interested in then why would I be interested? :cheer:
Rollo Tomassi
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Bingo.Originally posted by XtremeRacingDiva
I have thought about this too but we havent had sex yet
Recipe for a break up:
2 months in and no sex. Started out as 'friends'.
If I were this guy I'd do exactly-the-same-thing. Why would he want to spend more time with you when he knows you wont be putting out anytime soon? What's his motivation? If you're wondering if he's looking into better prospects with other women, you are correct.
Let me break things down a bit here for you since no one seems to have taught you this yet - guys have sex with you and THEN decide if they want to have a relationship with you. You are still 'friends' and this guy doesn't get off the hook either since, from your description, he's still been entertaining your idea that you even have a relationship for 2 months without getting after it.
Guys don't want friendship first, we want passion and desire first; freindship, compatibility, and all of the good stuff women would have us believe they place such lofty priorities on - that comes afterwards (if at all). And all the cutesy little motorcycle anecdotes you can come up with for sex isn't going to change this fact.
And BTW, this is not meant to be a flame, but 125lbs. is pushing maximum density at 5'1".
XtremeRacingDiva
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you got to be kiddin me!!! lol
Rollo Tomassi
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Amazing! You're really this naive? Let me guess, you're still a virgin, right?Originally posted by XtremeRacingDiva
If sex was all he was interested in then why would I be interested? :cheer:
Heh,..If sex was all he was interested in you'd still want him because you've successfully deluded yourself into thinking that you're entitled to all the benefits of a boyfriend without reciprocating any intimacy.
You poor dear, relationships don't start from 'friendships', they start from physical, chemical, sexual attractions.
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so this is suppose to mean I go out a fvck every guy I am attracted to???
I am sorry but I have enough respect for myself who NOT sleep with any man that makes me his girlfriend....
You got things wrong... good relationships start as friendships bad ones start on sexual attraction...
Do you know the difference between lust and love??!?!?!?!?
frivolousz21
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no you have it wrong..this is why u sit and wonder why u cant get a man to want you like you see them into other women
XtremeRacingDiva
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lol
do you have a girlfriend?
frivolousz21
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My personal bussiness inst important..but im not single
Rollo Tomassi
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Look, you wanted to have a better understanding of why this guy is blowing you off. I'm telling you why. This is how guys work, we produce 50 times the amount of testosterone you do - sex for us is like taking a p!ss and a wall will do just as well as the bathroom of the finest hotel. If he's come to the conclusion that you are more effort than you're worth to get that satisfaction he'll simply find a better opportunity elsewhere. My guess is that he's already done so. Yet you're presuming that he should introduce you to his daughter, he should want to include you in his life more and he should spend more time with you. All I'm saying is why? What's the point? After 2 months you're no longer worth the effort. You want all of the rights and priviliges of having a boyfriend with this guy with none of the reciprocation of intimacy. Would you buy a car you could only sit in and look at, but could never drive anywhere? You are all show and no go, this guy's figured it out and you're p!ssed off because he's phasing you out now.
In fact, why do you even need any advice here? If you haven't slept with your 'boyfriend' in the 2 months you've been together it's pretty obvious that you don't have the passion or desire for him necessary to be in a relationship. It's laughable that you'd even be jealous at the prospect that he might want to see someone else. Why would you even care? You're not hot enough for him to want to fvck him. No, you'd rather make him the bad guy, the 'lying sack of sh!t' that's so much easier than putting your own motivations under the microscope and seeing where you've deluded yourself. The only thing this guy is guilty of is pandering to your idea of a relationship for 2 month while he's thinking you might actually come around and do him sooner or later. Well now it's later and no, you wont be meeting his daughter and no, he wont be taking you home to mom & dad and no, he wont be introducing you to his friends - you're simply more effort than you're worth.
And no, you don't go and fvck every guy you're attracted to, but definitely the ones you actually call your boyfriend if you expect them to be exclusive to you. You're a little girl who hasn't come to the understanding that no guy MAKES you his girlfriend, you decide that. So go respect yourself all you want, it wont make this guy want to spend any more time with you.
For a guy, lust, passion,desire always comes before love.
In fact, why do you even need any advice here? If you haven't slept with your 'boyfriend' in the 2 months you've been together it's pretty obvious that you don't have the passion or desire for him necessary to be in a relationship. It's laughable that you'd even be jealous at the prospect that he might want to see someone else. Why would you even care? You're not hot enough for him to want to fvck him. No, you'd rather make him the bad guy, the 'lying sack of sh!t' that's so much easier than putting your own motivations under the microscope and seeing where you've deluded yourself. The only thing this guy is guilty of is pandering to your idea of a relationship for 2 month while he's thinking you might actually come around and do him sooner or later. Well now it's later and no, you wont be meeting his daughter and no, he wont be taking you home to mom & dad and no, he wont be introducing you to his friends - you're simply more effort than you're worth.
And no, you don't go and fvck every guy you're attracted to, but definitely the ones you actually call your boyfriend if you expect them to be exclusive to you. You're a little girl who hasn't come to the understanding that no guy MAKES you his girlfriend, you decide that. So go respect yourself all you want, it wont make this guy want to spend any more time with you.
For a guy, lust, passion,desire always comes before love.
Hello racingdiva,
You sound JUST like my girlfriend used to sound when I was REALLY BUSY! I go to school and am in a really heavy program, so when it demands, IT DEMANDS~! She used to get all pissy because I wasn't making time for her. It was because I couldn't - I had other priorities. She recently understood and now we're happier.
This guy seems to have quite a full plate too, with a daughter and all. Additionally, at this site we teach that a man should NEVER abandon his friends for a woman. Your guy seems to have a lot of buddies. Also, from personal experience, it is usually a BAD idea to integrate your girlfriend into your group of friends. Its best to keep those parts of your life separate.
Your guy is basically following everything we tell guys who are unsuccessful with women( we call them AFCs). I think he has his priorities straight.
All this bullcrap about him getting sex somewhere else is crap. Do you know that for sure? If the answer is no, then stop speculating because:
1. You've only been dating him for 2 months. Your emotional connection shouldn't be so heavy that if you found out he was sleeping around you'd be crushed. Also, since this is the START of a relationship, introducing paranoia won't make the future any healthier.
2. You're not helping.
You're thinking like an AFC when you say "a relationship that starts with sex won't last". That is the complete opposite of the truth.
That is probably the single biggest misconception AFC's have about relationships. A relationship HAS to start with sexual desire. If that doesn't exist, then there is no reason to be in a relationship, no matter how nice or hot or whatnot the girl is.
When guys figure this out, they get girlfriends. Almost every guy on this site can attest to this.
Open yourself up to him, and he will open himself up to you.
You sound JUST like my girlfriend used to sound when I was REALLY BUSY! I go to school and am in a really heavy program, so when it demands, IT DEMANDS~! She used to get all pissy because I wasn't making time for her. It was because I couldn't - I had other priorities. She recently understood and now we're happier.
This guy seems to have quite a full plate too, with a daughter and all. Additionally, at this site we teach that a man should NEVER abandon his friends for a woman. Your guy seems to have a lot of buddies. Also, from personal experience, it is usually a BAD idea to integrate your girlfriend into your group of friends. Its best to keep those parts of your life separate.
Your guy is basically following everything we tell guys who are unsuccessful with women( we call them AFCs). I think he has his priorities straight.
All this bullcrap about him getting sex somewhere else is crap. Do you know that for sure? If the answer is no, then stop speculating because:
1. You've only been dating him for 2 months. Your emotional connection shouldn't be so heavy that if you found out he was sleeping around you'd be crushed. Also, since this is the START of a relationship, introducing paranoia won't make the future any healthier.
2. You're not helping.
You're thinking like an AFC when you say "a relationship that starts with sex won't last". That is the complete opposite of the truth.
That is probably the single biggest misconception AFC's have about relationships. A relationship HAS to start with sexual desire. If that doesn't exist, then there is no reason to be in a relationship, no matter how nice or hot or whatnot the girl is.
When guys figure this out, they get girlfriends. Almost every guy on this site can attest to this.
Open yourself up to him, and he will open himself up to you.
