fuzzx said:
Girls as friends... boring... can you really explain to a girl your intense love of the m1a1 pulse rifle... or the super cool action sequence from the latest movie... or playing the latest game... I mean really? And if she is... then I would look at her like a dysfunctional girl. I don't really understand your motivation for keeping a relationship up with a girl 'friend' anyway... seems like alot of work for a little ROI.
I've seen a lot of responses like this..."How can I be friends with girls, they can't talk about lifting weights, MMA, shooting guns, etc". First off, you'd be surprised how many women are into UFC these days and like to work out. I was in the gym yesterday and heard this random guy and girl talking about different types of protein supplements and stuff. So that's not even completely true that women don't like stereotypically guys stuff. Some do. Many don't, but some do.
Secondly, if your only interests in things are stereotypically man stuff, maybe you should broaden your interest. I love outdoors activities. I like to mountain bike, go hiking, camping, rock climbing, that sort of stuff. Many women enjoy these activities too. I see lots of females mountain biking with their boyfriends when I hit the trails. I like photography, I like travel, I've taken trips abroad with female friends before and we still laugh and joke about stuff that happened. I like checking out live music, I'm huge into music, all types. Some female friends share some of those interests. Or going out to cool restaurants. There's plenty of stuff to talk about and do with girls other than testosterone-driven subjects. And there's some things I'd prefer doing with girls than guys. I can't call up one of my boys and be like, "hey, let's go to the museum this friday, or the philharmonic or a play." They'd look at me like I was nuts. I'd rather do something like that with a girlfriend, but I'm single right now, so I'd go turn to female friends if I wanted to do something really cultured. What if I'm single and there's that company Christmas party? You could always have one of your lady friends come with you. People won't know the difference and the girl certainly won't mind an evening of free drinks and meals. I think some of you guys just need to broaden your interests and realize that there are some situations where it's better to have lady friends to take.
On the issue of whether you can truly have lasting female friends, I have one female friend I think would truly stand the test of time. She used to like me for a long time, but she's not attractive at all. She's now married. It's totally cool, I can go over to her place and watch the UFC with her and her husband and it's chill. Or we can all go out to a restaurant and get caught up on what's going on. The rest of my female "friends" are not really friends in the true sense but more like acquaintances or activity partners. Our friendship is based on having something in common. I think if any of these girls got serious boyfriends, and that void was filled in their life, they'd have little use for me. If I were to move across the country, I wouldn't bet on their coming to visit me..unless I lived in a place like NYC where everyone wants to have a friend so they can crash at their pad rather than paying $200 a night for a room. So like someone else said, I think female friendships do tend to be a house of cards and probably won't last in the long term. I think they are using each other for opposite sex companionship to fill a void, and once that void had been filled by a genuine partner, you probably won't hear from that person much. There are exceptions of course.
Some of my female friends I would never want to bang. A few would if they made it easy and I didn't have to put in any work, and one just drives me wild. In fact I have pretty strong feelings for her, but I'm deep in the friendzone so it's pretty frustrating to say the least. Thing is, I didn't use to be attracted to her at all earlier on, so being in the friendzone was fine, but at a certain point she changed herself, sort of blossomed into an incredibly sexy woman, and now I lust for her but can't have her. It makes it terribly tough because I have so much in common with her and she is basically everything I am looking for in someone, plus having the foundation of friendship and mutual respect, and thinking she's incredibly sexy on top of it all.
