Female acting weird

[5 Fingaz]

Ok. Ive been talking to/ seeing this chick for about a month. She texts me everyday and all that bs. Her interest level is high and was yesterday also...

I know actions speak louder than words. When I try to setup something with her or hang out the last few days she finds an excuse everytime.

So we were texting back and forth last night, i try to set something up and she does not respond. So I call her and try. I tell her I want to make some plans, she says she wants to go to sleep and blows me off. I say whatever bye.

I text her back tell her I like her and I want to get to know her better. But maybe we want two different things from each other. I say sorry for keeping you awake. (smart ass)

I know if she doesnt respond shes not worth my time or effort.
I think maybe shes afraid of commitment because she got out of a relationship three months ago.

I need some advice here guys, how would you handle this?

 

[sapphire]

A T T E N T I O N W H 0 R E......

 

[strong like bull]

her interest level is too low for you to invest any more of your time. if brad pitt called her, would she tell him she wants to go to sleep and flake? hell no! shed jump in her car and drive halfway across the states to hop in his bed.

thats the difference between high and low il. as sapphire said, shes trying to string you along. rather than outright reject you, she wants to keep you wrapped around her finger. she wants you to be her ***** and shower her with gifts and compliments, getting nothing in return. im sure if you bought her flowers or jewelry, shed call you a sweetheart and give you a kiss on the cheek, but still not go on a date.

no IL = no action. chalk it up to experience and let others take her place. id just ignore her. youve got better things to do.

-SLB

 

[Observe And Learn]

Originally posted by 5 Fingaz
Ok. Ive been talking to/ seeing this chick for about a month. She texts me everyday and all that bs. Her interest level is high and was yesterday also...

I know actions speak louder than words. When I try to setup something with her or hang out the last few days she finds an excuse everytime.

So we were texting back and forth last night, i try to set something up and she does not respond. So I call her and try. I tell her I want to make some plans, she says she wants to go to sleep and blows me off. I say whatever bye.

I text her back tell her I like her and I want to get to know her better. But maybe we want two different things from each other. I say sorry for keeping you awake. (smart ass)

I know if she doesnt respond shes not worth my time or effort.
I think maybe shes afraid of commitment because she got out of a relationship three months ago.

I need some advice here guys, how would you handle this?

Well, if you suspect that she's just firing excuses at you, then next time it happens, fire something like "Well, you're obviously a very busy young lady, instead of me busting a gut to set something up, why don't you let me know when you're free and I'll see if I can accomodate" back at her.

Then leave the ball in HER court. Walk away. That means don't pester her to see if she's made up her mind or indeed to see if she's emerged from under the shower of attention given to her by countless other dudes.

If she comes back to you to set something up, game on. If not, game over. I know which one I'd put money on.

Keep it simple. Never fails. Drop the attention and watch the reaction.

Edit: SLB beat me to it

 

[5 Fingaz]

I dont think shes trying to reject me, shes the one that contacts me. I never make first contact. Just two days ago we had plans but she called and said some bs happened with her sister.

So I told her "I guess ill talk to you tomorrow". The next day she texts me and says shes sorry and upset about me but she didnt want to leave her drunk sister all alone.

Shes a female im not even gonna try to undertsand whats going on. Bad thing is I really like this chick. I'll probably just move on and not waste my time.

 

[biker_gixxer]

I'll probably just move on and not waste my time.

Holly crap, I think he's got it.

 

[Blue Phoenix]

You dont have to waste your time with girls that try to disrespect you!

She could possibly say she was busy and disappear but this girl keeps coming back (even though she's not interested)! It's kind of nonsense but there're a lot of girls that do that!

Walk away, NOW!

 

[DJ_Dud]

Bad thing is I really like this chick. I'll probably just move on and not waste my time. [/B]

I know that all these people on this post are trying to say ditch her, have you ever thought that the problem is she has alot going on in her life. You might just be the problem. If she doesnt want to be that way with you, then deal, suck it up, but dont go blaming shyt on her for stuff that's equally your problem.

 

[Cutiepiie]

Originally posted by biker_gixxer
I'll probably just move on and not waste my time.

Holly crap, I think he's got it.

lmmfaoooooooo!!

*dead*

females are kinda weird... Funny I do the same thing...

My reason is I have too many guys. I end up talking to one guy all night for that day and by the time I get off the phone with him im tired and want to go to bed then the other guy calls... and just blow him off cause I am tired.

*shrugs* maybe thats the reason

 

[DJDamage]

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My reason is I have too many guys. I end up talking to one guy all night for that day and by the time I get off the phone with him im tired and want to go to bed then the other guy calls... and just blow him off cause I am tired.
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That's why for our sanity sake we try to keep away from girls like you.

 

[Cutiepiie]

 

[DeathDealer]

Stop taking girls seriously, they're not all powerful. We're better than them and some men out there don't know that.

 

[DJ_Dud]

Originally posted by DeathDealer
Stop taking girls seriously, they're not all powerful. We're better than them and some men out there don't know that.

Girls are all powerfull, you want some, they decide. women know we need them, and they know how to use that to their advantage. A large majority of women can live without a guy for alot longer than we can live without them. Deal.

 

[Cutiepiie]

^55 dj_dud

 

[DJDamage]

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Girls are all powerfull, you want some, they decide. women know we need them, and they know how to use that to their advantage. A large majority of women can live without a guy for alot longer than we can live without them.
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That statment above is pathetic. If you are thinking like that, then there is no point of you learning from this forum, because its obviously you havent.

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Originally posted by DJ_Dud
Girls are all powerfull, you want some, they decide. women know we need them, and they know how to use that to their advantage. A large majority of women can live without a guy for alot longer than we can live without them. Deal.

ARE YOU F*CKING KIDDING ME?! You're on crack bro. Look around you...you're an AFC hanging around a pack of wolves. Wolves decide what we slaughter...a rabbit doesn't decide when it is going to be eaten.

Back to the subject:

FIRST OFF...stop with the text messages over the phone. This is one thing I hate about technology nowdays. It makes life impersonal. When she texts you saying "Hey hot guy...how are you doing?"...this could be sent to you and ten other guys on her cell phone list in an attempt to get attention.

Never, EVER, EVER EVER EVER set up a date via text message. Its just letters on a screen to her. Without your voice, how can she get EXCITED about you. Texting is laziness. Pick up the phone, call her, set up the date..sound excited..make it something SHE CAN'T say no to...and if she does, then she's missing out.

If she finds another excuse, NEXT her.

 

[5 Fingaz]

Thats the thing also she always wants to text instead of talking . I always make convos nice and short over the phone, I cant stand talking on the phone for longer than 15 minutes let alone texting back and forth its definetely impersonal..
I would reply to a few of her text messages then she would complain that I wasnt talking to her if I did not respond for a while.

 

[Kaine]

Mmmm can you smell the sweet stench of hypocrisy.

So we were texting back and forth last night, i try to set something up and she does not respond. So I call her and try. I tell her I want to make some plans, she says she wants to go to sleep and blows me off. I say whatever bye.

Yet she gets her knickers in a twist if you don't bend over backwards to priority one fedex a reply. If you STILL want to play games with this girl, tell her you're busy and take your sweet time to reply IF you choose to. If she complains tell her you're busy tapping a$$ etc

I text her back tell her I like her and I want to get to know her better. But maybe we want two different things from each other. I say sorry for keeping you awake. (smart ass)

As observed before by other posters. shes a attention wh0re. Don't tell her you like her or crap like that, she doesn't deserve it. She's just feeding of this dynamic like a heartless vacuum. If you want more of the same treatment keep it up.

****** slap to reality*

Bottom line, she has looooooow IL

Either next her or change gameplan

 

[5 Fingaz]

Well she hasnt even replied to my last message, so Im just gonna forget about her. Lesson learned. NEXT

 

[NatureGuy]

My reason is I have too many guys.

Ha ! It's unlikely a girl that was popular would spend time on this site. In fact, to me that sounds like a guy responding as if a female.