5 Fingaz,
Oh f#ck me, I have to say something here about the women being all powerful nonsense.
To paraphrase everything that I've learned from Pook's posts --- Masculinity is the expression of a Man's strength and power, tempered with discipline. This expression is in ALL aspects of a Man's life.
Men act, women react. That's why guys approach and why women are approached.
Men want and desire, women are wanted and desired. Women complain about being treated as sex objects but what's worse for them is NOT being treated as a sex object. Why do you think that is?
Men take, women want to be taken. How many men fantasize about a strong, feminine woman taking them by "force"? Probably only the girly men. How many women fantasize about a strapping, masculine man taking them by "force"? Plenty.
Men possess, women want to be possessed. See above.
Men are dominant, women are yielding. Ever read "Taming of the Shrew" by Shakespeare? When the woman yields, she finds her true femininity. It's not just in literature. I had one girl, who said at my first mention of spanking her, that no man would ever lay his hands on her in that way. When the time came she was yelling to me to spank her harder! She was really happy getting her buns toasted.
Men are will, women are willing. How many women say that they want a weak, vacillating, spineless man? Not many I think.
Men's identity is singular, women's identity is plural. Men define themselves, women are defined by the relations they have with others. That's why men don't need women to complete them but the opposite is true. Men certainly want women to complement their lives, to add to them but not define them. The opposite is true of women. How many single men are lamenting that they want to get out of the corporate rat race to settle down and have a family? I'd wager not too many. How many women are voicing this aspiration? Plenty.
Take a look at all the guys that you know that are successful with women. I'm not talking about the players, whose sole purpose is to chase and bed as many women as possible. I'm talking about the DJ's.
Are they strong? Meaning that those DJ's exercise their will with discipline? Are they powerful? Meaning that those DJ's have a direction in life and are pursuing their own goals and aims, which exclude chasing women.
That's why women crave men like that and not vice versa.
You're a Man. Know it. Feel it. Live it.
Cheers,
Mav