Feelings Are For Females

[SayWhat]

Now, I do feel sorry for the guys who are both fit AND successful and somehow still can’t get girls. I can’t explain that one. It makes no sense to me. But on some level those guys always give off a needy and supplicating vibe.

This part struck me quite hard. I am quite fit (can always be better, but am far above the average guy) and am somewhat succesful (I earn 3 times the average of my country). But I can't get any girls because I'm very needy.

Short story to elaborate, met this girl a couple of weeks back at work (not working together, she's just there for half a year for some audit but we have to work together quite often that time). These lasts weeks I felt quite ok (not confident), but ok enough to send her a text about a mutual interest. Not much chit chatting (mainly because I don't respond or only after a couple of hours, and at work I try to avoid her because I'm scared of the rejection). Last week she sended me a text out of the blue about something she could have told me at work the day before, but she chose to do it by text. Some teasing happened after that (but not much as, again, I only reply after too much minutes have passed).

Of course this week has been disastrous for me. Why doesn't she text me anymore? Why did she like that guys post? Yes, extremely pathetic I know, but I feel like I can't do anything about it. I don't even feel like sending her something as I feel I would come across too needy and she probably has more interesting stuff going on. Although when I sended her those couple of first texts, I just did it without thinking about that stuff and I guess it payed off in some way. But now stuff like "I've waited too long, she lost all interest,..." is going on in my mind. I've become emotionally attached because she's in my mind constantly. I know why I do and don't do stuff, but the 'don't doing' stuff is holding me back way too much as my emotions play too much a role.

And of course I don't have this with other girls, couple weeks back a waitress just gave me her number without me or her saying anything, with other girls at work I just act 'normal' (put it in brackets because there are still some restraints going on). But with this girl, god f*cking damn, but then again it's with every girl I have the slightest interest in.

If you care to elaborate or guide me in the right direction, feel free to post it here or pm me, it would be greatly appreciated.

 

[SayWhat]

The purpose has to be something great. Something that adds value to the world.

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Only then will your needy vibe disappear and you become normalized.

I absolutely believe you have to have a purpose, but I can't seem to find any in my life. I have a great career, one I absolutely love, I've basically made my hobby into my career. I want to pick up an extreme sport, but then again it's a sport you can only do in good weather conditions and not in the winter. What do I do then in the winter? Go to a shooting club? This does not add value to the world, as doesn't that extreme sport... And I'm someone who feels good about making value, something I get out of my work, but I don't know what else I could do in my spare time.

About the needy vibe, isn't texting/teasing/talking to a girl always something needy? Why would you do those things if in the end you don't want to hit that? That first text I sended that girl, of course I did it because I want her and I know somewhere she knows, but there's this fine line of where it's acceptable and where it shows the neediness and currently I'm just acting on my feelings. I perhaps believe too much in them, but when I feel good and don't care I seem to get more and better results. When I feel emotionally in a very bad place, it shows in the responses I get. In all fairness, when I feel emotionally bad, I barely send texts or say anything, but I know the sub communication would show it. And when you feel good, it all comes more naturally and you're more fun/in the moment. Something I want all the time but never have on the right moments.

 

[Serenity]

Constantly remind yourself "FEELINGS ARE FOR FEMALES"

While I get what you're saying, this is a dangerous path to go down. This message will encourage some men to suppress or keep suppressing their feelings. I just want to point out that there's a huge difference between ignoring feelings and handling them competently in a rational way.

Even though I get what you're really getting at, I know the guys who need to understand the most will only take harm as they misunderstand it completely.

 

[CaptainNotSoObvious]

Anyone can do this experiment. Listen to love songs and try to make yourself emotional. And then go out and every single woman will try to cuck you. The first thing they will do when they see you is flirt with the nearest loser to make you jealous.

That made zero sens.