Fck bpds I do not feel sorry for them

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I see bpd thrown around here loosely...well this one I have been dealing with for 4 months is the real deal comorbid with npd... on meds, has psych she sees, highly sensitive, super entitled, rage attacks, abusive, manipulative etc you name it.. let's put it this way she has a guy that bought her a 250k house and pays all the monthly bills on it.

Long story short we fd hung out slept together everynight kissed held hands cuddled etc..but I know she is delusional and would place me as a bf in her mind then switch to we are just dating then swtich to just friends then switch back to dating etc..i was giving her rides to where she needed to be and got the food..got away pretty cheap overall considering how many dudes wanna fk here and be with her. I even told her the other day I would never marry her. But nonetheless we do enjoy being around each other and we like each other and have both expressed that.

She is a predator and I have dealt with someone like her before for a long time so i was ready. She even told me one night that she thought I have npd...i don't have it in a strong pathological sense but its up there. Maybe a 7.5-8 out of 10.

We end up fighting 3 days ago..the day before I was in the salon with her for literally 7 hours when she said it would be 2. She paid for her own so i was there just chilling. The next day we go to get her botox which she also paid for. Later on I sat I'm going bowling with my friend come with me and u can just chill for an hr...all the sudden she says she sick this that and even says she might have munchaseum syndrome lol...i was like you do have that..she then said go do your thing today (like she's giving me the day off from her lol)..then i said i was with u in the salon for hours and u can't even come with me for an hour? She says i didn't have to be there and that I was lucky that I was there with her lololol...she was having a hard time putting that sentence out because it's a falsehood and she knows it lol.

She then proceeds to start hurling insults and says I need her more than she needs me which is not true considering she gets foods and rides and affection from me while she only provides me with someone to be annoyed at. She says she can get this guy that guy i say go ahead do it I don't care...then i say she likes hanging out with weak pvssys like so and so amd she kind of agrees with me lol..then calls me cheap then i say of course I'm gonna be cheap with a fake person why wouldn't I be amd ask how much she has (she's broke) ..then i go on to say I know she's fake and projects a false persona and I say I'm fake like she is with me...she says leave..i say ok...i go to the kitchen grab the $60 of food i just got grab and walk out flash her about 2k in cash to shut her up mind u after she shoved me from behind with her weakness lol..i then dump the food in her trash bin..leave text her i dumped the food she says I'm disgusting. I then say she's abusive I'm done forever say she can go with whomever, fighting over bowling and salon is nonsense etc etc..then nothing for the last 3 days between me and her.

I honestly have things I have to do..she is a piece of sh1t...peoole always say oh it's not personal she is messed up..idgaf it's personal and people with bpd and npd can go f themselves becausee they are cowards and slimeballs..atleast I'm a self aware narc so I realize things..she doesn't and i don't care what trauma etc she had been thru bpds are the worst people and they deserve to be depressed and miserable f em.
 

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One of the three regrets I have was not calling my ex out on all her BS. Instead, I became a puzzy that was afraid to speak up in fear she would leave me. She was giving me lots of sex, paying fro things, let me stay at her place for free. Best you leave this one be and go about your life. Its easier said than done of course as the push pull with them is like heroin. I had no idea what was going on,her constant crying kept throwing me off, even though I saw the red flags. Now that I look back, Im a moron for taking her back numerous times believing her lies, only to be hurt even worse each time. Having shame in myself for taking the abuse for long has been almost impossible to overcome. Im stuck in the twilight zone realizing all the stuff I was too blind to see due to lack of knowledge on Cluster B's.

This women are scum of the earth who feed off the good people in the world while laughing the whole time. Being you have a good amount of narc traits, you two will only fight more as time goes on. Only the pvuzzy boys stick around to take the abuse. Narc or Alphas know better than to take them seriously. To add, I felt sorry for her at first at she moved. But after I educated myself for months on how they work, I no longer feel that way. The only ones I feel sorry for are the victims that fall for their con.
 

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Nope never feel sorry for them, be angry at their parents that phucked up their daughters or son's life. The girl I was with is smart she's educated, she's attractive. If it wasn't for her father that wasn't a good figure in her life she would be the perfect woman. She's screwed for the rest of her life she will never live a normal life. The worst problem the doctors got her on pills she's on SRRI meds it screws her up it was tough seeing her suffer from the side effects of the drugs.
 

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And, I might add...use your expirience to carefully screen future prospects.
BPD: Hiiiiiii!!!!! Omg. Isn't the sunset beautiful? Wait. No. I'm still f'n' pissed at you, Matt! I don't even want to talk to you right now.
NPD: Hey, have you followed me on Instagram yet? How come you didn't comment on my FB status update?? I got literally 50 comments already on that selfie. Did you see my snap? Have you read any of my last 5 text messages???

DJ response:
 

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You guys seriously need to let go of the past.
Yup.

Reason you are both mad is that you didn't learn from your mistakes YET.

You are grown men, take some personal responsibility, you phucked up and got played by a crazy, i've been there, done that and you know what

I ain't mad.

Stop being a "victim" at the end of the day you went along with their chit because you wanted to get your **** wet and you wanted them to love you, you needed it.

So stop acting like it wasn't transactional you were after something so was she, she won.

Figure out why you needed her so badly and take care of that.

Cos she's gone onto the next sap and she ain't thinking about you no more.

Apologies for being harsh but codependents need smashing out of their dillusion, HARD.
 

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BPD: Hiiiiiii!!!!! Omg. Isn't the sunset beautiful? Wait. No. I'm still f'n' pissed at you, Matt! I don't even want to talk to you right now.
NPD: Hey, have you followed me on Instagram yet? How come you didn't comment on my FB status update?? I got literally 50 comments already on that selfie. Did you see my snap? Have you read any of my last 5 text messages???

DJ response:
Is funnyz! Lolz! !!:p
 

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Don't care who messed them up they're on meds etc they are all pos...i have strong narc traits I use to go off on people like she did on me but I don't anymore so I know it could be helped. I haven't texted or anything since the day of the fight..fck that disturbed weirdo
 

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Yup.

Reason you are both mad is that you didn't learn from your mistakes YET.

You are grown men, take some personal responsibility, you phucked up and got played by a crazy, i've been there, done that and you know what

I ain't mad.

Stop being a "victim" at the end of the day you went along with their chit because you wanted to get your **** wet and you wanted them to love you, you needed it.

So stop acting like it wasn't transactional you were after something so was she, she won.

Figure out why you needed her so badly and take care of that.

Cos she's gone onto the next sap and she ain't thinking about you no more.

Apologies for being harsh but codependents need smashing out of their dillusion, HARD.

Some of us are empaths, not codependents. Either way, most of you fail to ever mention the psychological damage they cause. While we tried to get out, their gas-lighting and manipulation have impacted our psyche to the point where it could take years, if not a lifetime to get over. Couple that with some of us who suffer from our own mental issues. Just because you and some others were somewhat immune to their mind games, or got over it quickly, there is a group who suffer more than you can possibly imagine.

Ask any therapist or psychiatrist about the psychological damage that is caused by being a VICTIM of one these creatures or how many suffer from PTSD as a result. Not to mention, so many men and women who have no clue whats going on at the time, till its over. Have you not seen how many commit suicide after dating/marrying one? How they continue to suffer mental issues for years from the shame,guilt, confusion, betrayal, kinky sex, gas-lighting, manipulation? Don't be so quick to act like its that easy.
 

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