RUN AWAY
RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN TO THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION
Trust me, in the longrun there is absolutly no good that can come out of this situtation
Been there done that
My old oneitis, actually I made a post about it on this site about 6 months ago has had... daddy issues for as long as I have known her, about 5 years
well I didn't find out what thoose daddy issues were until last year
dad used to come home drunk every other night, pulled a gun on the girl before, I dont' think he actaully ever HIT her but he put the wood on her mom a few times I know of
So she called me one day, I mean, we talked pretty often, and She is like 'well, my mom is out of town tonight, and I dont' want to stay at home with my dad alone, so can I come stay with you tonight?"
This wasn't the first time, even when I had a GF, It was clear that if that she always had a spot over my place if she didn't feel comfortable around her dad when her mom wasn't there, which was pretty often, because regrdless of what any girl i am talking to thinks, that's some serious ****... she used to have a BF so she didn't always take me up on that offer, but it was there nevertheless
So I say sure, but I'm not going to be there, I'm going out, I'll be back later on that night"
So she doesn't come over, which I don't care, not a big deal, she goes and kicks it with actually my ex GF
So I get a call the night day, she is going to pick her mom up from the airport, and she is sobbing on the phone about something her dad did, I didn't get the entire conversation then but it sounded pretty serious...
So That was friday.. it's sunday night and I haven't heard from her.. I called her house phone, off the hook, and it's a business line, I called her cell phone, no answer.. I even called her mom's cell phone (her and I did b usiness together from time to time) no answer.. for 3 days
so I say you know what.. her dad is a whino that hits up on his wife and possibly this girl, ovbsiously something happened, they have had to call the police before on him.. **** it.. so I call the police and just have them literarly drive by to make sure everythnig is okay..
plus I have an alaskian huskey that's over there
So her mom calls me like the next morning and tears me a new one... which at the time I can kinda understand, and in retropspect it wasn't my place to but in their family affairs, no matter how ****ed up they are.
So my old onieits can't "talk on the phone to me anymore" (she's 22, going to be 23 this year).. I mean, we talk anyway but I don't call her... and eventually we get around to talking abuot what happened, and she says "I know why you did what you did, but my parents are mad at me"
I'm like "well... leave.. you are grown"
To shorten this up, all she was doing was throwing herself her own damn pitty party... she would call me at least once a month, and whine about how bad her life was but never wanted to do anything about it... doesn't want to get a job, get her own car (22 and has never had her own car, and her family is upper-middle class) own place, nothing.
It's not that you don't want to help... it's that you can't help anyone that doesn' twant to be helped
In actuality, her issues now help me paint a clearer picture of her and I am starting to understand why she is the way she is... but we don't really talk anymore, and I have never felt better, I used to literarly have to deal with my problems and help her deal with hers