Duffdog she is not looking at your six pack, your full head of hair, or tipex smile.
she is looking at your behaviour
recognise this by taking your current 8 or 9 look and dumb it down to a 5 or 6 and go out for a few weeks, you will notice that the first few nights will SUCK! you will be ****, but soon enough as you get used to your new look you will get a great night and pull ass.
what a girl says and what she actually responds to are two completely different things. I want a guy that looks like prince charming and buys me flowers, yet the scrubby bald, fat bouncer takes her home that night. It's his behaviour
there are many un-attractive, non rich guys that have really hot girlfriends