I watched the entire video. He acknowledges that approaching strangers in person is likely better than swipe app use. This is more focused upon stranger approaching in non-bar venues than bars/nightclubs, though some of it is applicable to bars/nightclubs.
The three reasons he cites for not doing stranger approaches are....
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You are judged most on looks, 70% on looks and 30% on persona. Being a 6 or less will lead to a lot of rejection. I think I'm a 7 and I've taken a lot of rejections in non-bar approaching.
@momentomori took even more rejections as a guy with photos rated 8.5 on PhotoFeeler.
If you don't have looks, don't bother doing stranger approaches.
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Low return of return. I absolutely agree with this. Approaching strangers has a lot of rejection and a high failure rate. I don't understand why a lot of people don't draw the parallel between approaching strangers looking for dates/sex and cold calling for business sales.
@Jake_Gyllenhaal69 should understand this by working in a boiler room sales environment. I also worked in a boiler room sales environment for a short period after college graduation. I lasted 2 weeks. The rejections on cold calls for sales are ridiculous and the boiler room company I worked expected hundreds of cold calls per day. In 2005, it was amazing to me that companies were still asking sales reps to cold call because cold calling had been discredited as a business method by the early 1990s. Approaching strangers, especially in non-bar venues, is a lot like cold calling. The rejections I have taken in non-bar approaching haven't been as vicious as my boiler room sales job. That's probably because I am a 7. However, way too many of my conversations fizzle out in 60 seconds or less. This morning, I got in a decent approach on a woman in terms of exceeding the 60 second threshold. I might have made it to 3 minutes but the woman was likely 40+ and had at least one child. I ended up wasting 3 minutes on an unqualified prospect. Although I wasn't rejected per se, it wasn't a pleasant experience. I've just seen way too many conversation fizzle out before I can even ask for the date. I'd like to think a lot of those women aren't in the market for new penis, but I don't know. Either way, it is frustrating to do non-bar approaches. If you are approaching strangers at a bar, you do know that the women at the bar are in the market for new penis because females generally don't show up to bars unless they are seeking new penis.
Yes, it is possible to have success from it and I have. However, a lot of the feedback you will receive in approaching will be negative.
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Cold approach has negative effects on your self esteem. I agree and I have experienced this. I had to go to therapy for multiple years due to relational trauma as well as some childhood trauma. Failed romantic interactions, including cold approaches that went nowhere, were contributing factors to some of my mental traumas. I was evaluated for PTSD based upon my traumas, including failed cold approaches, failed relationships, and too many "one date, no sex, no second date" interactions from both online and real life sources. I've experience this and currently have a lifetime notch count that is above the notch count of most men's lifetime notch count. More of my rejections from stranger approaches have been soft nexts or conversations that go nowhere like the example from this morning. Those still hurt and do negatively affect self esteem.
Wheat Waffles is a black pill person. While I think the black pill has merit, I don't identify as a black pill person. Millennial men have embraced black pill more than red pill, whereas Gen X went more towards red pill than black pill, though even Roosh said he moved from red to black pill before ultimately having his religious conversion.
