Fair to reject women who didn't give you the time of the day in the past?

[Clash113]

Hello

Since I have been removed from highschool for years now, every now and then I'll encounter a girl from my class I went to highschool with. A lot of them back in the day thought they were too good for everyone and rejected guys like me. The other day I encountered one who used to piss me off constantly (not because she liked me) and she came up to me all happy and excited. I noticed she looked like hell and I found out she was a single mother. She gave me her telephone number without me asking and told me to call her.

I told her it would be best not to. She got pretty mad at this and asked why. I told her I have long since gotten over it, but back in the day when she was younger and more attractive she wouldn't of given me the time of day, but now that she's lost some of her charm she's being overly friendly with me. She tried to make me feel guilty by saying she was young and immature then (as lots of women say), but I don't buy it and I find that to be a convenient excuse for their past behavior. I think women know full well what their doing and reject decent guys when their young because they only want to be with all the star athletes and billy bad asses of the neighborhood. Then when they start to lose their looks and appeal they try sucking up to a more level headed guy they wouldn't of given the time of day to when they were younger. I think if women managed to keep their youth, they'd forever bang all the types of guys they claim not to "care about".

Thanks for reading and have a good one

 

[Knight's Cross]

Sort of along the same reasons I'm not doing the 20 year highschool reunion thing next month. I'm single, attractive, healthy, make good coin....you don't think that same chick who was too cool for me in highschool isn't rethinking at 37-38 years old with 1 bad marriage and single mommydom staring at her? I already heard about a couple that wanted to,"see how I've been/ reconnect/ get to know me again, etc. "

Barf on that I say, on to newer models~

Clash I think you did the right thing. You were being SHAMED for doing it. Common woman bluster for,"he's not playing my game". Since you rebuked her advances. She resorted to her game of shaming a guy for not wanting a single mommy. Wow, go figure.

KC

 

[Clash113]

Sort of along the same reasons I'm not doing the 20 year highschool reunion thing next month. I'm single, attractive, healthy, make good coin....you don't think that same chick who was too cool for me in highschool isn't rethinking at 37-38 years old with 1 bad marriage and single mommydom staring at her? I already heard about a couple that wanted to,"see how I've been/ reconnect/ get to know me again, etc. "

Barf on that I say, on to newer models~

Clash I think you did the right thing. You were being SHAMED for doing it. Common woman bluster for,"he's not playing my game". Since you rebuked her advances. She resorted to her game of shaming a guy for not wanting a single mommy. Wow, go figure.

KC

Thanks KC. It was nothing personal. SHe tried to make me feel bad for what I said, but I was only pointing out the truth. If the shoe was on the other foot, I know for a fact she wouldn't of spared my feelings, especially back in the day. Think she would've had mercy on me? Hell no..I didn't "matter" to her. I find women like her to be very arrogant...they criticize and run guys down when they younger and then expect that those same guys will recieve them open arms after they've hit rock bottom and have probably been with 500+ guys. And I realy don't have a problem with women enjoying sex, it's just the attitude I described above...the selfishness and entitlement.

It should also be pointed out....women have all the choice when their young. Men have the choice once they became old and established so they might aswell enjoy themselves with nice, young attractive women, just like the women their age enjoyed the company of older, established guys in their youth.

Good to know your life has turned out for the better KC. Hope things continue going well.

 

[DJDamage]

I told her it would be best not to. She got pretty mad at this and asked why. I told her I have long since gotten over it, but back in the day when she was younger and more attractive she wouldn't of given me the time of day, but now that she's lost some of her charm she's being overly friendly with me. She tried to make me feel guilty by saying she was young and immature then (as lots of women say), but I don't buy it and I find that to be a convenient excuse for their past behavior.

Don't let them know the reasons behind what you are doing.

This woman does not need to know the reasons as to why you are rejecting her, its pointless and it shows your bitter side to her. In every situation you are dealing with people, if you can be cool and smooth about it then do it. Lets face it, you were probably an AFC in highschool like majority of male teenagers, and she wasn't digging you because of that as opposed to captain of the football team. Recognise that the person you were in highschool is not the same person you are today. Therefore holding a hostile view/grudge today, towards the former hot chick who didn't pay attention to you in highschool is counterproductive.

You should have smiled when she gave you her number, wished her a good day and then as soon she was gone, you tear that piece of paper and throw it to the trash. End of story.

 

[STR8UP]

I would have grudge fukked her one time and never called her back....but that's just me.....

 

[NewMan]

I think women know full well what their doing and reject decent guys when their young because they only want to be with all the star athletes and billy bad asses of the neighborhood. Then when they start to lose their looks and appeal they try sucking up to a more level headed guy they wouldn't of given the time of day to when they were younger.

So? where you fvcking fatties back in high school? No? does that make you an A-hole because of it?

Just because you were not a 'Jock' in high school and not getting any form the cheer leaders - well thats your problem.

If she's looks used now, just move on and ignore her. Your just pi55ed because of the realty of who you were.

 

[DarkShade]

So? where you fvcking fatties back in high school? No? does that make you an A-hole because of it?

Just because you were not a 'Jock' in high school and not getting any form the cheer leaders - well thats your problem.

If she's looks used now, just move on and ignore her. Your just pi55ed because of the realty of who you were.

No, that's her problem, now she's paying the price for being stupid. I don't see the OP with any problem other than deciding on whether to be friendly or not.

 

[MaTuA]

Fair enough. But whats fair in you're view, is not the way this woman will see it.

 

[STR8UP]

Remember....

All is fair in love and war

 

[The Bat]

Props to the OP for telling that girl the truth. The OP may or may not be bitter about her rejecting him back in the days. The point is whether or not you should reject a woman from the past and how you should do it.

We're going to have people like Str8up who are going to say, "Just screw her once". I'd agree with this IF the girl doesn't look THAT bad....obviously, in OP's case, I wouldn't because she "looked like hell".

Then we'll have people like Newman who're going to call OP bitter and tell him what a loser he was back in the past.

In my opinion, OP did the right thing by telling her off. She *did* force herself on him (i.e. gave him the number and told him to call her...like some sort of command) to which he politely said no. And of course, she's going to get mad because women don't like getting rejected, especially from guys who were "losers" back in the days.

And who cares whether or not OP would come off bitter to that woman? OP is never going to see that woman again in his life (except for reunions).

I guess the real question is: Is OP really bitter?

I doubt it though. I think he tells it like it is. Straight shooter!

 

[DJDamage]

And who cares whether or not OP would come off bitter to that woman?

It is not so much as to the woman as it is to the OP himself. Why have bad feelings towards those women who are now nice to him? its not like they were mean to him in the past its just that he couldn't get them when he was younger. If I see a woman from my past who I couldn't get due to AFCness and really didn't do anything wrong, and is now nice to me, I wouldn't be really be upset about it. I am living in the now not in the past.

I guess the real question is: Is OP really bitter?

every now and then I'll encounter a girl from my class I went to highschool with. A lot of them back in the day thought they were too good for everyone and rejected guys like me.

a little bit.....

 

[The Bat]

It is not so much as to the woman as it is to the OP himself. Why have bad feelings towards those women who are now nice to him? its not like they were mean to him in the past its just that he couldn't get them when he was younger. If I see a woman from my past who I couldn't get due to AFCness and really didn't do anything wrong, and is now nice to me, I wouldn't be really be upset about it. I am living in the now not in the past.

Good point, and I agree.

However, the women, like the one OP is describing, who are selfish and feel entitled to any guy they want, do need to get a good verbal ass kicking if they are trying to command a guy to like her (she *did* force herself on him).

The best thing to do would be to just ignore them if they aren't attractive enough. If they ARE attractive, then proceed with caution (and a rubber). That's just how I would go about it though.

 

[asid76]

Great post. I used to get TONS of girls in highschool but I still remember the ones I couldn't get. I remember how snotty and arrogant they would be about it too. I remember walking by girls like this and how they would tell their girlfriends I wanted them and how they would all laugh at me together. It left me feeling bitter, of course, but I kind of see myself and the OP as the "Count of Monte Cristo" in a sense.

I have done what you have done Clash and it felt f**king great! I don't care if someone says I was "bitter" or "living in the past" - I don't even care a bit. It was so rewarding to point out to these women what snobs they WERE while they are currently trying to be all cute and nice. They come up with every excuse in the book, but they know whats what. They remember every loser that hit on them and they probably laughed about you to their friends at the time. But when the star quarterback leaves them on their own with two babies to take care of who's turn is it to laugh?
I will ALWAYS point out to the chick how she rejected me and how I felt. Although, like STR8up, I would definitely f**k her -for old times sake.

Its nice when, like the Count of Monte Cristo, you can go away and come back and be ten times better than you were before. This is happening to me currently. I am becoming AWESOME. I feel like the monk who goes into the cave and stares at the wall until his eyes burn holes in the wall and he comes out and he has reached enlightenment. I am still in the cave, so to speak and still learning, but whenever I go out I see that my dedication to my goal has not been in vain. And when people from my past see me they notice this as well which is a nice reminder that I am on the right path. But I am getting off-topic.

My main point is that you should always be moving forward and spiralling out and when you see a former-***** of a woman from high school who has completely let herself go, then you should "next" her as Clash did or f**k her once or twice and move on as STR8UP suggested. It's ok to be bitter, it's normal, but don't let the bitterness rule you.

 

[SharpGame]

What was your intention by calling her out? Was it to hurt her? If so, well... two wrongs don't make a right. Guess it depends what your tone was when you were talking to her.

Personally I wouldn't feel the need to set her straight. First, I'm a completely different person than I was in high school. Second, if she looks like hell then I'd say karma took care of it for me. I would've just smiled and went about my day.

 

[Clash113]

I actually am nor bitter and not am I pissed off about who I was...If anything I am proud of myself because I always marched to my own beat. When I graduated, I put allllllll that stuff behind me, especially the female situation because the fact is the odds are stacked against a guy in highschool unless he's a jock, though I did have some women interested in me...but I don't dwell in the past and have more then moved on with my life, but I felt what I did was necessary because she was a complete and utter C*** to many people and enjoyed being one to the fullest. I felt justice was done and the only unfortunate thing was there wasn't a camera there to capture it and broadcast it to the entire neighborhood.

Yes, I know I may have looked like the "*******" in this situation and could've been more civil, but do you guys really think if the shoe was on the other foot that she would've shown me any mercy? Hell no, she wouldn't of given an inch, especially if I treated her the way she treated others, and was only doing so because her current situation sucks, so it was very insulting for her to come around and trying to suck up to me and not only that, but then try to make me feel GUILTY for doing the same thing to her she's done to countless others who will probably never get an apology from her. The truth had to be said...if she didn't like it, too bad. She should've shown more consideration to others when she was younger (And she knew exactly what she was doing), now when she gets the same in return (not even a fraction of what she's dished out) she has the audacity to moan and cry.

This was a special case though. I have met others like her who werent as bad and so I didn't go and say the things I said to them that I said to the woman this topic is geared towards. Lets face it, some women when they are young and have their looks are so drunk with power, their complete slime to most people and then when they lose that power, they expect those same people they mistreated to welcome them open arms.

 

[Clash113]

What was your intention by calling her out? Was it to hurt her? If so, well... two wrongs don't make a right. Guess it depends what your tone was when you were talking to her.

Personally I wouldn't feel the need to set her straight. First, I'm a completely different person than I was in high school. Second, if she looks like hell then I'd say karma took care of it for me. I would've just smiled and went about my day.

Believe it or not, I actually talked to her a little bit. She approached me and started the conversation, it was when she then handed over her number without me asking I was like "What's this for?" and I already pointed out what happened afterwards. She deserved to hear so she wouldn't think she got away squeaky clean. She enjoyed her teen years with the opposite sex, but a lot of guys didn't because of her and the bull**** attitude of girl's like her. She just got a taste of her own medicine and didn't like it.

 

[Clash113]

Great post. I used to get TONS of girls in highschool but I still remember the ones I couldn't get. I remember how snotty and arrogant they would be about it too. I remember walking by girls like this and how they would tell their girlfriends I wanted them and how they would all laugh at me together. It left me feeling bitter, of course, but I kind of see myself and the OP as the "Count of Monte Cristo" in a sense.

I have done what you have done Clash and it felt f**king great! I don't care if someone says I was "bitter" or "living in the past" - I don't even care a bit. It was so rewarding to point out to these women what snobs they WERE while they are currently trying to be all cute and nice. They come up with every excuse in the book, but they know whats what. They remember every loser that hit on them and they probably laughed about you to their friends at the time. But when the star quarterback leaves them on their own with two babies to take care of who's turn is it to laugh?
I will ALWAYS point out to the chick how she rejected me and how I felt. Although, like STR8up, I would definitely f**k her -for old times sake.

Its nice when, like the Count of Monte Cristo, you can go away and come back and be ten times better than you were before. This is happening to me currently. I am becoming AWESOME. I feel like the monk who goes into the cave and stares at the wall until his eyes burn holes in the wall and he comes out and he has reached enlightenment. I am still in the cave, so to speak and still learning, but whenever I go out I see that my dedication to my goal has not been in vain. And when people from my past see me they notice this as well which is a nice reminder that I am on the right path. But I am getting off-topic.

My main point is that you should always be moving forward and spiralling out and when you see a former-***** of a woman from high school who has completely let herself go, then you should "next" her as Clash did or f**k her once or twice and move on as STR8UP suggested. It's ok to be bitter, it's normal, but don't let the bitterness rule you.

Yes. That's it. You should not feel bad because they didn't feel bad when they did it to you. It's like I said, it's not so fun when the tables are turned. Then they moan and try to make you feel guilty, when they themselves did the same exact thing years ago because they thought they could get away with it. The only difference is this time the power has shifted in your favor. When they were ignoring guys it was no big deal because they had their looks and 5353893 mangina's waiting in line, so who cares if a couple of regular guys get snubbed, fast forward a few years later and it's a completely different story. Then it's "Well, I am not in as demand anymore and I know I was really terrible and/or pretended like you didn't even exist, but I was young and immature then so you should forgive me"....yeah, young and immature, that's what they all say, it's like they all share one universal hive mind.

Glad to hear your doing good yourself these days.

 

[Clash113]

It is not so much as to the woman as it is to the OP himself. Why have bad feelings towards those women who are now nice to him? its not like they were mean to him in the past its just that he couldn't get them when he was younger. If I see a woman from my past who I couldn't get due to AFCness and really didn't do anything wrong, and is now nice to me, I wouldn't be really be upset about it. I am living in the now not in the past.

Didn't have bad feelings, just told it the way it was. Note I wasn't the one that got upset and threw the tantrum, it was the woman, because she couldn't handle what she handed out herself. Also...if her current situation didn't suck, she probably wouldn't of bothered being so "polite" in the first place, but I knew full well it was a charade and wasn't falling for her trick. I make no appologies. I guess the lesson here is what goes around comes around.

 

[squirrels]

It is NEVER "unfair" to reject any woman for romantic relations for ANY reason of your choosing. Don't ever date a woman "in the interests of fairness".

 

[BlackJackal]

It is not so much as to the woman as it is to the OP himself. Why have bad feelings towards those women who are now nice to him? its not like they were mean to him in the past its just that he couldn't get them when he was younger. If I see a woman from my past who I couldn't get due to AFCness and really didn't do anything wrong, and is now nice to me, I wouldn't be really be upset about it. I am living in the now not in the past.

Didn't have bad feelings, just told it the way it was. Note I wasn't the one that got upset and threw the tantrum, it was the woman, because she couldn't handle what she handed out herself. Also...if her current situation didn't suck, she probably wouldn't of bothered being so "polite" in the first place, but I knew full well it was a charade and wasn't falling for her trick. I make no appologies. I guess the lesson here is what goes around comes around.

Exactly. Good on you for tellin it like it is.