Eye Contact From Chicks

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SO BASICALLY IF YOU'RE A GUY AND YOU'RE SLIM THE CHANCES OF GETTING ATTENTION FROM WOMEN IS ALMOST ZERO.

I guess if I worked out like crazy but can only get the body of Bruce Lee, I'm still unattractive.
 

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RandallLambert said:
TheWarrior, you're a fool. Why do you have to go to the gym? Because women don't want a skinny dweeb with a 30" waist. They want a MAN with a 34" inch waist and at least the DRIVE to want to stay in shape. To want to protect her. You have neither, which is why you have no PRESENCE and so rightfully you deserve every woman who ignores you. When you are ready to quit feeling sorry for yourself, get off your ass quit and being a self-deprecating emo loser then PM me.
BECAUSE I HAVE CROHN'S DISEASE AND IT'S AFFECTING NOT ONLY MY GUTS BUT MY LOVE LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IT'S HARD FOR ME TO GAIN WEIGHT. SOME DAYS I DON'T FEEL LIKE EATING VERY MUCH. I HAVE BEEN SLIM ALL MY LIFE. THE MEDICINCE FOR CROHN'S IS WORST THAN THE DISEASE ITSELF. JUST BECAUSE I CAN'T GAIN WEIGHT MEANS GIRLS WILL NEVER FIND ME ATTRACTIVE. WELL F CK THAT. I SHOULD JUST KILL MYSELF RIGHT NOW. I AM NOT GOING TO LIVE MY LIFE BEING BY MYSELF AND NEVER BEING ABLE TO GET A WOMAN.
 

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F Ck Everything... I'm Gonna Go Get A Gun Tonight And Blow My F Cking Brains Out. Peace!
 

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thewarrior said:
F Ck Everything... I'm Gonna Go Get A Gun Tonight And Blow My F Cking Brains Out. Peace!
Don't be a motherfvcking loser. I have told you it is possible, and that's what you need to put in your head. Women are shy who can't look at guys in the eyes. Some women are not shy, and they can actually look at you and smile, but 80% of them would look away and pretend they don't see you. Do they know that you exist? YES, you stupid insecure bastard! Women have eyes, man! It's you that's preventing yourself from approaching them.

Don't listen to these guys saying that going to the gym is the only solution. Getting buffed up will certainly help you out getting noticed, but that won't be everything. You need confidence in EVERYTHING. Your stride, the way you carry your body, where you look, what's in your head.

Let me give you an example. Just yesterday, I walked to some cool spot at a club with my buddy. We passed this chick who just sat there by herself. Before I noticed her, she noticed me first. As soon as I looked at her she looked away. Does this mean she's not attracted to me? **** no. As a matter of fact, that's a clear IOI that she likes me. As I walked toward her, I kept looking at her and smile even though she's not looking at me, and eventually she looked and smiled back. If she didn't look back, would that prevent me from approaching her? No.
 

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sharkybear said:
Don't be a motherfvcking loser. I have told you it is possible, and that's what you need to put in your head. Women are shy who can't look at guys in the eyes. Some women are not shy, and they can actually look at you and smile, but 80% of them would look away and pretend they don't see you. Do they know that you exist? YES, you stupid insecure bastard! Women have eyes, man! It's you that's preventing yourself from approaching them.

Don't listen to these guys saying that going to the gym is the only solution. Getting buffed up will certainly help you out getting noticed, but that won't be everything. You need confidence in EVERYTHING. Your stride, the way you carry your body, where you look, what's in your head.

Let me give you an example. Just yesterday, I walked to some cool spot at a club with my buddy. We passed this chick who just sat there by herself. Before I noticed her, she noticed me first. As soon as I looked at her she looked away. Does this mean she's not attracted to me? **** no. As a matter of fact, that's a clear IOI that she likes me. As I walked toward her, I kept looking at her and smile even though she's not looking at me, and eventually she looked and smiled back. If she didn't look back, would that prevent me from approaching her? No.
Agreed 100%. I've been trim my whole life and it hasn't stopped me from getting attention. In addition, when I put on 10 lbs of muscle, I'd say I got around the same attention. Friends noticed the new change and I felt good but that's about it.

And as for many women being shy, that's true too. Just last night it was a friend of a friend's b'day at a bar. I introduced myself to some of her friends but not all. Some immediately looked over when I came in but this one girl didn't even glance my way. I small talked her and she wasn't remarkably responsive either. But then when I sat next to her (different chairs) later on, she started to move closer, shoes kept touching up against each other etc...lol. I wasn't too interested but there ya go...To be honest, I didn't even realize exactly what was going on until later. IOIs can be subtle, and counterintuitive.
 

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thewarrior said:
F Ck Everything... I'm Gonna Go Get A Gun Tonight And Blow My F Cking Brains Out. Peace!
All this because girls won't look at you in the eye? Some of this is regional, as people in different parts of the US do NOT make eye contact the same way as in other parts. But...who cares? Did you stop and talk to the girl?...no, of course not, you kept walking and went to a computer and asked why. How about this, next time someone purposely does not look you in the eye, stop them and ask them why they did that. You might get the answer you were looking for all along.
 

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Look, i'm not trying to be mean to you, honestly, it just feels as though you like not being able to solve this problem more then finding a solution. As it happens Player Supreme himself has done a whole show as a response to your post which you can access here: http://playersupreme.libsyn.com/index.php?post_id=490606

LISTEN to the advice he's giving you. Also i would say take a trip somewhere where eye contact is more normal like Italy or Spain where the girls will stare you right out....?
 

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thewarrior said:
Thanks a lot.

This is what I don't f cking understand about the whole situation of meeting and attracting women.

I smell good. I wear nice clean clothes. I'm average height. I'm built nice, but slim. My skin is clear. My breath doesn't smell. I don't have a knife in my hand or a sign around my neck saying I'm going to kill you.

THEN WHY THE F CK DOES EVERY, AND I MEAN EVERY FEMALE, IN MY AGE RANGE PRETEND I'M INVISIBLE????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

Oh, sure, old ladies notice me and make conversation. But if I get on the elevator with a girl around my age, no eye contact, no glance in my direction, nothing. If I'm walking down the street and pass by 30 different girls in their twenties, no eye contact, no glance in my direction. This seriously f cks up my confidence. Is my mirror lying to me? Do I have a big ass wart on my face with hairs growing out of it?

I try HARD to have a smile on my face and there's no f cking way a girl can read my mind and know what I'm really feeling.

I MUST repulse women for some reason.
Put up a pic if you're comfortable with doing so. Then we could perhaps tell you if it is your looks. i think if you're expecting to get girls checking you out, you should be atleast above average in looks. There's also the possibility you just don't realise it when they do.
 

Channel your excited feelings into positive thoughts and behaviors. You will attract women by being enthusiastic, radiating energy, and becoming someone who is fun to be around.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I listened to Supreme's show. He said some really good things.

Oh yeah, I'm a black guy.


I need to be a man. I need to stop worrying about my body because I'm not stick thin. My ribs aren't showing. I'm just slim and muscular. And I like the way I look. Last night was rough for me. I sat up all night evaluating my life. And I'm tired of being beta in mindset. I'm gonna talk louder, walk with my head up, and do what I feel. I can do this. I'm a man. No woman is better than me. I have to forget my upbringing and be a man. And I'm gonna try and take control of my illness the best I can.

Someone said that I'm giving off vibes that I'm insecure and it's true! I have to get out of my head, and just be me. And I need to start doing more social activities.

Thanks for posting the link to that podcast. It opened my eyes... I don't know who the lady was on that show but she was enlightening too.
 

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Common sense and experience says...

OTHER reasons she might not look at you = she's preoccupied, she hasn't noticed you, she has bad eyesight, she has low self-esteem, it's a cultural thing, she's a shtty mood, etc.

Common sense and experience also says, AFTER you open your mouth and put yourself out there, she might like you and the dynamics change and no one's gonna even care about who didn't look at who when you guys were strangers

So trying to interpret a situational piece of body language to actual mean something is stupid, especially because technically you guys aren't even interacting yet

use your balls and talk to her before you even try to gauge her interest. you do have balls right?
 

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Your a brother...let me tell you, sisters know in a heartbeat if your scared. Most women can tell really. You need to take some pressure off yourself to succeed and work on your inner game, build up your self confidence. I just listened to the podcast Supreme made for you. Listen to the man. BTW what is your target niche of women? Black, white, asian? Do you dress like the type of guys you see these women with? Do you do the things they do? Are you in their social circles and go to the type of places they go?
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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You can do the "buff guy" thing, but if you wanna stay slim (like moi), then work on posture, not sulking, and becoming comfortable in your own body. Build a foundation for yourself - you are your own Indiana Jones or James Bond. You should strive to be an idol, and you need to figure out what you want in life and what kind of awesome inspiring person you want to be.
 

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Willis said:
Dont Expect Sh!t From Women,,,when Your Out Dont Go Out Lookin For Eye Contact And All That Type Of Sh!t...u Gota Make Sh!t Happen...look At Her, Say Yo Bit<h, Wat Up....
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Lol, that's absurd.

First off, don't like that mindset sink in, it's going to kill you.

One of the greatest aphrodisiacs to a girl is the simple fact that you had the balls to approach her to begin with, that's the first step.

Secondly, unless your F*cking Brad Pitt, not every girl is going to look at you, that's just ridiculous. I mean, some girls will look at you in which case, you'll look back and meet them at the eye and smile at them. If they reciprocate, that's simply an approach invitation.
 

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trv26 said:
Put up a pic if you're comfortable with doing so. Then we could perhaps tell you if it is your looks. i think if you're expecting to get girls checking you out, you should be atleast above average in looks. There's also the possibility you just don't realise it when they do.
I really hate posting my pics on the internet, but here it is:

http://i43.tinypic.com/2chtfs6.jpg

Am I an ugly guy that repulse women? (Ignore the bad quality since it's a cell phone pic)
 

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dude man its your mindset u are a decent looking guy its just the way you think.
you need a strong inner game, thats what you need to work on.
 
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