EX gf is back in the picture somewhat and I want her again

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Well I posted about this in the other forum but wanted a more mature view on this. Yes I know a lot of you are going to say don't go back etc. but it would be nice to hear other opinions.

So we recently connected after being apart for 2 years. She lives less than a mile down the road from me now. Weird. We were together for 2 years and lived together. We broke up for two main reasons:
1. She had jealous friends that were doing drugs and just partied way too hard and she was out of control - problem gone cause she has a way different set of friends now.
2. Stressed out about getting her masters degree - graduated and has a job shes happy with.

We hung out last weekened slept over and fvcked night and morning. That day we basically talked a little bit a bout the past and she apologized and said she loved me etc. Try to call her two days later no reply. Get drunk on friday but held myself back from calling her. But called her saturday morning
and we hung out all day and all night. We fvcked for like 3 hours at night and again in the morning. This time we talked about our past relationships in between the time we dated. She kept on saying she changed and has calmed down etc. She told me like a couple of months ago some dude broke down her door dragged her out of the closet by her hair etc. I was like wtf are you doing?

Then she started saying call your ex I wanna see if she is as cool as me. I told her no way. Heres the weird part. I said you save my number yet? She replied and said no I forgot then mentioned she was unsure about hanging out with me. I said quit being a wimp etc. So I dont know if she saved my number or not. Mind you we were both fvcked up. Then we fvcked.

Wake up the next morning sense she wanted to do her thing. I went home. Chilled for like 7 hours. Called her up to watch a movie, we rented one. Sensed she was unsure but said yes. After it was done I said Im going home, she said youre not going to stay? She said you can stay if you want. I said fine but I gotta wake up early. We end up fvcking again.

When we are together we vibe very well together. She said it seems like the time hasnt gone by between us cause we get along together so well. Not one of us has brought up the status between us or where either of us want things to go. Although she mentions sh1t like oh Im so happy being single now and says I could never have a dog (we had a dog together and I still have the dog). Seems like shes disqualifying herself sometimes. To me her actions and words say shes confused and doesnt know what to do. We are very affectionate with each other. Kiss, hold each other, flirt, laugh etc. We do a lot of jokes we had before.

So Ive contacted her each time to hang out, she called me back the first time though to hang out. I do want this girl to be my gf again and feel the problems are solved and we are good together and have good lives.

I have been fvcking her and initiating the hangouts to get her hooked and give her the attention. Each time I leave on a high note. I just know somehow that she is apprehensive about the whole situation. She even said when were both fvcked up after I said to her being an azzhole for making me think about her all day, that im an azzhole for popping up in her life again out of the blue. What Im going to do now is just pull a dissappearing act. Think she has my number or atleast knows it by now. Ill wait this week and weekened if no calls Ill call the next weekened and thats it. But I think it should do the trick.

I think she doesnt want to be repsponsible for our relationship wether it goes south or north.
 

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Desdinova and I replied I think after you abandoned that thread and thought no one else had anything else to say.

Anyway I stand by both of our replies.
 

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When we broke up it was sort of mutual. She was acting like a b1tch and refused to work out problems we were having. Instead of talking it out when i was on the brink she decided to go out with her friends so i said fvck it packed all my sh1t and moved out. So i think she wanted it and I did it for her and for me.
 

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aix237 said:
I said to her being an azzhole for making me think about her all day
VERY AFC!

dude face reality. she loves being single because shes getting all types of new d1ck ran up in her. she doesn't want a relationship with you. you are just her fukk buddy.
 

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J Roc you follow mystery method? apparently not. She was giving last minute resistance and was saying sh1t about not wanting to get used for sex etc. So I said in a playful way "im not using you for sex and I care about you" or in other words will stick around after sex. Dont even say thats wrong or AFC cause you say that and you say Mystery THE PUA is an AFC.
 

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aix237 said:
J Roc you follow mystery method? apparently not. She was giving last minute resistance and was saying sh1t about not wanting to get used for sex etc. So I said in a playful way "im not using you for sex and I care about you" or in other words will stick around after sex. Dont even say thats wrong or AFC cause you say that and you say Mystery THE PUA is an AFC.
telling a girl you were sitting at home thinking about her all day long and worrying about if she was going to call you is AFC!

she is spnning plates. she is enjoying the freedoms and joys of the single life. she has no intention of jumping back into a relationship with you.
 

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What is with the girls door getting broke down by some dude? LOL
You have a wild girl on your hands there man. As for you and J Roc's difference in opinions. I believe that saying mushy stuff actually works well with some girls and not well with others. You know her better than we do.

One important thing you shouldn't ignore is her disqualifying herself. Part of her does NOT want to be with you. She might see no future with you or she just might not have enough interest to settle back into a relationship with you. Heed your advice and put the ball in her court. If she doesn't show she REALLY wants to be together with you the drama will just continue.
 

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You should play this very loose - the bottom line is, it will end, because of the nature of your meeting. Your fvcking like rabbits, and she's obviously unsure of whether she wants you back in her life.

One thing is for sure, if you push the issue, or are to available, then she'll get turned off. You need her to make the decision - but you need to do it very subtle like.

Stop talking about feelings - stop calling her up aqll the time - stop initiating the hang outs.

Go a few days dry turkey.
 

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I posted about this in the other forum but wanted a more mature view on this. Yes I know a lot of you are going to say don't go back etc. but it would be nice to hear other opinions.
Apparently until you hear what you want to hear.

So I said in a playful way "im not using you for sex and I care about you"
Unless you said it sarcastically, she's going to hear, ""im not using you for sex and I care about you". I know you don't want to come across like an AFC, but I have to tell you, then why say things like this at all?

The problems that used to be there, are still there. It's not her past friends' influence that was the problem, it was SHE who was the problem. Given certain circumstances, SHE'S prone to behave a certain way. Given stress, SHE responds a certain way. Get it?

She says she's changed... well, let me tell you, unless and until you see the changed behavior when she's under those circumstances and see that new behavior CONSISTENTLY over TIME, and lots of time, then it's easy for people to say they've changed but then resort to past behaviors that have been ingrained in them for YEARS.

But you're smitten with her and just want to hear what you want to hear because you're driven by your own desires, instead of reality.

Sounds to me like you happen to have caught her at a time when she feels like playing with you and she's doing things to reel you in because she knows she's got you hooked.
 

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How much cold turkey are we talkin? She didn't call yesterday (monday) and I did not call either. My plan is to not call her through sunday night if I don't hear from there ill call her then. When we were talkin on saturday I made it sure to let her know I still talk to the last girl I was dating which I really do but she lives in another town. But if I do call her, the ex im fvcking now, on sunday I am going to tell her I've been really busy and had a friend that came down (the girl should come to her mind) to visit me for the weekened. this should make her jealous and raise the stakes and at the same time get her mind me since I won't be calling her all weekened. Even if she calls me on saturday ill probably just say im busy and im hanging with a friend that came down to see me. I know jealousy and scarcity is the only way to get the ex fired up
 

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It is highly doubtful she is seeing someone. She isn't going to hang out with me all daysaturday and all night and sunday night if some other dude is in the picture. She was telling me about some dude but he lives over an hour away so probably nothing is going on. she could be playing me but she introduced me to her co workers who are all goodie two shoes and she hangs with them pretty often. No way is she going to be coming off as a slvt or player in front of them.
 

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Bro please take care of yourself man. This girl is going to screw you over so bad. I was recently thinking about getting back with my ex, she still says she's in love with me (we have been long distance for a while) all the while in the background the slut has been screwing another guy. Well you know what, I'm going to let the other guy have her cause she's nuts - just like your girl is! For crying out loud learn from OTHER PEOPLE'S MISTAKES on this site and don't go back. The sex is mind blowing - remember that is just a short term thing. If you can separate your emotions from the physical, then yea bang the daylights out of her but if not get out of this situation like no tomorrow. delete her number, email, put call block etc. You will think about her, but instead watch porn or find other women, which always helps especially if you can bed them. cool take care of yourself man, and listen to people on this site because that beeyatch of yours is NUTS!
 

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procanto said:
since she contacted you after some time apart, she definitely wants to be in touch in some way...the issue is, however, that she is currently with someone...that she doesn't want to hurt...

she needs to be given the space to think about the situation that she's in and figure out what she wants to do with this guy before running to you...

i'm really glad that she contacted you and that you guys are hopefully going to work things out..

i would take it slow and make sure that you respond to her when she contacts you...but i wouldn't start the chasing game quite yet....it's not there, so don't rush it...

she's still in a confused state and misses you and wants to be back with you, just give it some time, and it will work itself out. make sure you sit down with her and communicate about how you feel..it's really hard for guys to do, but girls can't understand you guys unless you verbalize what it is you're feeling. we can't read you... best of luck!
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Wow, I've seen posts that made me consider adding someone to the ignore list. But, this one is like... "having a bug crawling on your arm so you brush it off" sort of reflex reaction. I was clicking all over "procanto" in a frenzy trying to get that menu to drop down! "MAKE IT STOP! MAKE IT STOP!!! AAAAAAAAARRRGH!!"
 

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Uh yea probably won't be gushing my feelings out. If she asks ill tell her al little. Man girls and guys are way different after reading that post.
 

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Her "disqualifying" herself are some red flags.

I don't think she's changed. What kind of woman would date a guy who would KNOCK DOWN HER DOOR AND DRAG HER BY THE HAIR??? A f'd up woman.

She's drama you don't want (and that you didn't want in the past - that's why you dumped her!)
 

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From what she told me they were both drunk. The dude was staying with her and she's known him since high school she's 27 now. He got drunk the night before and told him he couldn't come along the next night when they went out. So I guess he was waiting for her when she got home. Honestly I wish I never drunk dialed her then I wouldn't have found out she was living 30 seconds down the road. For that reason and us fvcking and hanging out and having a good time my feelings are involved now. Its bs cause I know her azz is holding back from even calling me period. Why answer my calls, agree to hang out for hours, show affection, if u don't want a relationship? Everybody knows including her that the only thing that is going to happen is we start dating again or we stop talking, no in between. Because of our close proximity it is a lot more difficult. This sh1t is going to drag onfor a while I think. I will continue to look for new girls but still
 

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aix237 said:
this should make her jealous and raise the stakes ...
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I know jealousy and scarcity is the only way to get the ex fired up
This is pretty lame dude. The games people play... :rolleyes:

So if you care about someone and really want to be with them, trying to make them jealous is cool? It's a good way to show you love em huh?

This site is filled with way too many screw ups. Relations between men and women are a mess thanks to the media/government and the evil behaviours it has produced. Now men and women are constantly trying to play head games with one another. Instead of complementing one another and working together, it's become a rivalry - a all too often a bitter game of who can screw the other over first or worst.

Treat women the way you would want to be treated. If someone treats you poorly or doesn't return your good gestures, you tell them to fvck off and then move on.

Listen, your ex seems confused, or is just lonely and wants sex and male companionship. Giver her space, let her pursue you if she's interested in getting back into a relationship. F*CK playing mind games and trying to manipulate her into being with you again.
 

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sodbuster said:
sex is always better with the crazy women,just the rest of your life sucks
All women are crazy these days, to some extent. It's because of the evil bastards who control the media and government.
 

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Women are never confused.

Give them more credit then that.

They know EXACTLY what they're doing.

"Confused" is either what they tell you they are (to keep you in a fog), or what the clueless guy rationalizes they must be.

You don't hear these allegedly confused women being confused in other areas of their life; you don't hear them expressing confusion saying things like, "I was going to go to work today but I wasn't sure if I should go there or not because I was CONFUSED" or "I like my red dress but I also like my blue dress so I don't know what to wear because I'm so CONFUSED" or "I could either drive into town or take the bus but I don't know what to do because I'm too CONFUSED!"
 

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