Quality post, PlayerHerMan....
Two things in response.
In the first part, the narrator advises a man always ask himself what a woman's goals, interests, objectives might be when she initiates any sort of interaction with you. That's good advice. Just last night I was at a party and a woman I tried to game a bit last year was there. When I was trying to get with her, she played dirty pool, you know, lousy girl game. She was not honest about her relationship status when I tried to get her out, played coy, etc. I walked away after my second attempt, as is usually advised here and to which I agree. Anyway, she, to my mind, doesn't know what I know about the extent of her dishonesty in her interactions with me last year. But I think (1) she worries that I do or might know (and if I do, she's worried that I think she's a lying POS) and/or (2) realizes she misread my value and wants to keep open channels of pleasant interactions in case her relationship with new BF goes south. Women branch swing, don't ya know....
Anyway, my point to the little set up above is last night she sees me in a room at this party and comes up for a friendly, meaningless chat. I read it as her trying to show me she's a good person, trying to maintain an amiable ambiance with me those times we show up at the same functions. I gave her about 30 seconds of my time, cracked and joke and walked away. What I would like to point out here, and this is iterated in the video and by experienced posters on this forum, is that a woman almost ALWAYS has some sort of motive, some hidden, indirect, but goal-oriented reason she initiates interaction with a guy. In this case, there was nothing self-less or neutral about it. She either wants me to think well of her and/or wants to make sure our interactions are positive in case she needs to find another man. What she doesn't know I've already made my judgment about her: low quality woman surrounded by a veneer of hotness. I'll pass.
The second point the video makes I think all guys will do well to remember and newbies and perpetual AFCs would be especially advised to listen to. That is, a woman, once she's gotten her man, will do what she can to change him. Isolate him from friends. Criticize his likes and hobbies. Get him to do things with her he wouldn't normally do. Etc.
These are predictable but crucial sh!t-test many guys fail. She doesn't actually want you to change; or, should I say, should you change the way she pushes you too, she'll soon lose attraction and dump you. Her attempts to mold you are her ways to figure out whether or not the guy she thought she was attracted to is the "real" you.
The women who've fallen for me the hardest, ones who've either continued to chase me, or happily became side-pieces, FBs, and whatnot, are the women that I simply refused to bend one iota for. Oh, you want to take me to NYC? Great, but there's no way I'm going to a Broadway musical with you and your kid. I'll be at the bar watching the NCAA tournament. Meet me there when you're finished (true story). Oh, you want me to text you later tonight after banging you so I can have you show up with your long-term cuckhold BF and see that he's a real cool guy? I can't imagine why I'd do that. See you for our nooner next week (another girl, another true story).
You know that stereotype of the defeated husband, the "yes dear" guy? He's a guy who tried to please his wife by doing what she said she wanted and she only grew more resentful, naggy, harridan, etc. over time and he's lost to figure out what happened. By the time he realizes he's miserable and she'll never be happy (because of his beta backsliding and lack of frame), it is usually 10+ years, a few kids and a mortgage into the relationship and he feels "stuck." Meanwhile, she's banging her tennis instructor at lunch.
We all like sex. Many of us would like a good relationship with a good woman. But those latter things don't just "happen" and there's 1000 landmines waiting to trip you up. The belief that a woman openly shows a man her cards at anytime is one of the worst assumptions a man can make.
Whether or not the pursuit of anything other than sex is worth it is a decision every man must make. However, to make that decision well requires one know as much as possible about the "enemy." Thus, the art of war. Finally, keep in mind Beige Phillip's rule #1... we are in fact at war. Adjust your game accordingly.
