Everyone Hates Me!!! Help!!!

[Rint]

If anyone can help me solve my problem i'd be forever grateful. I hang out with all AZNs, but i think most of them are jerks. Last year i use to be super cool with them, and everyone wanted to get to know me, but then i didn't have enough ballz to ask this one HB 8 who liked me to the dance, and everything went down hill. Then i tried winning everyone's approval (BAD IDEA) and everyone found me annoying and dumb. This year almost everyone in my group hates me, and you know this is high school so it's very clickish so i have no one else to hang out with. So i'm kind of forced to make these people like me. 1 girl hates me cause she couldn't choose to ask me or this other guy to the turn around dance which is girls ask guys so she hated me and spread rumors. Another HB9 girl i use to be tight with hates me cause i took the neg-hit and tease technique tooo far. I'm in a really bad spot and i despretely need help. No one listens or talks to me cause they think i'm annoying and cause of the rumors and impression of me. HELP!!!!! SOS!!!

 

[Hoogie]

hmmm... while this should prolly be in the high school section...

Think of the group as a chik u were DJing.
Dont be needy, dont beg for approval... be the alpha male.
YOUR THE PRIZE... they are lucky to hang out with YOU. But with groups... cause there's dudes in the group... dont be too ****y.

Also might be good to use your DJ skills on chicks when they are not around anyone. That way, her opinion wont be so based on the opinions of those around her... improve their opinions and if your lucky it might catch on through word of mouth that your not such a tool.

I know it seems like a huge deal for you dude... but the more you make it a big deal the worse it gets.

 

[Rint]

Any other advice? That was good, but i need other options

 

[Docs]

Calm down. You're trying too hard for acceptance, and it's backfired. I'm a extremely calm person, and nobody hates me. I'm one of those rare people that'll know everyone, and nobody tries to d!ck me around. Why? Nobody has a reason to, I don't step on other people's shoes, and I'm always a high-energy person with a smile. Basically, I'm a joy to be around.

Now, I also have this sarcastic random side of me, and I'll feel free to fire out comments suiting to conversation or events. If you say you did something stupid, I don't let it off of you. I speak my mind carefully, but I do it in such a way that although I'm expressing heavily ****y traits, I get away with it.

Just a suggestion.....lighten up and don't take anything too seriously.

 

[Rint]

When i get too loose i get to hyper and weird, and i cant hold a conversation i just jump around bugging people. I think that was the annoying part. I need to build better traits and destroy the bad ones

 

[Thomas94305]

Don't take that "being different" stuff too far. You want to use that as spice, a little salt or pepper when you do something spontaneous. But, you see what happened when it's your main course. No one wants a plate of pepper.

If the people are upset, back off and give them space. Work on having normal conversations with people, chit chat. Once that happens, experiment with an occasional joke or whatever. But, just use it occasionally, until your social conscious goes up.

 

[danielzxc]

yeah, the constant joker quickly becomes annoying. Why are you so "hyper and weird"? Is that your ticket to getting attention? You don't always have to have something "special" to offer people buddy. Most people, most of the time, are quite normal, and just talk about normal, even mundane things. If you're always trying to be "different", well people are gonna see as "different" -- in a bad way.

Also, don't get too seriously hung up on this idea of people "hating" you. You're probably just too sensitive. People might not have much time for you (probably because you're just too annoyingly "different") but it doesn't mean they hate you. People change their opinions of other people all the time. So nothing is set in stone about how any one person feels about you. Haven't you ever changed your opinion of someone?

Best thing for you to do would be just calm the fvvkk down a bit and just be 'normal' for a while, even become "quiet". This will go soften up people's opinion of you WAY more than anything you could actively do. To do this, you really have to be observant of yourself, so that you notice when you are being "hyper" and immediately shut your mouth and slow down.

 

[Rint]

I need better traits that make more people feel better and more like they want to get to know me.

 

[Rint]

damn

 

[Rint]

Yea i'm too sensative, I want too much attention, and i'm unconfident in who i am. So any advice on that?

 

[Docs]

Attention: Dont ask for it, don't try for it. It'll come to those deserving of it.

Un-Confidence: Learn that you will fail. Learning to fail will teach you that succeeding is invitable. Develop your inner spirit to the point of where you think, you are the man. When you KNOW you are the man, and you fail, you strive to overcome, succeed and progress.

 

[ScrewIt]

people are attracted to those with confidence and who's also doing his own thing regardless of others. well you're still young, it wont come overnight like a lightbulb idea but in due time. Patience is key.

Dunno why teenagers these days are always struggling with some sh!t or another. HS pressure is a b!tch ain it?

 

[KoalaKing]

You worry too much about what other people think about you, forget about them, what they think doesn't matter, become bold and ask hot babes out, if you don't you won't ever get to fvck any of them, don't be a wuss.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

Dunno why teenagers these days are always struggling with some sh!t or another.

****ed up parents is one of the major causes. B!tchy mother and pvssy father. Not a good combo for raising a normal kid.

 

[Snow Plowman]

Don't Give a fuk what anyone thinks good or bad.

Just do the stuff you want to do and focus on yourself. Who cares that your social circle no longer llikes you, there are surely more people that you can meet.

Also don't ever try to impress or qualify yourself to people because it will just back fire, and don't be a dancing monkey.

I'm similar to doc, well laid back, calm, always happy. (People think I'm gay) I'm a guy that women want validation from, because of the way I am. When I stand out with my own style(Peacockish) people think I'm gay, but nothing happens because I get no social pressure. Why? Because I don't give a fuk what they think whether it is good or bad.

Anytime you notice yourself trying to impress, qualify, or feel like what someone is saying is affecting you just cut that feeling off. Eventually you won't care. Your making a select few dictate how you act and how your experiences will be, your coming off as reactive.

 

[Being_the_Don]

If anyone can help me solve my problem i'd be forever grateful. I hang out with all AZNs, but i think most of them are jerks. Last year i use to be super cool with them, and everyone wanted to get to know me, but then i didn't have enough ballz to ask this one HB 8 who liked me to the dance, and everything went down hill. Then i tried winning everyone's approval (BAD IDEA) and everyone found me annoying and dumb. This year almost everyone in my group hates me, and you know this is high school so it's very clickish so i have no one else to hang out with. So i'm kind of forced to make these people like me. 1 girl hates me cause she couldn't choose to ask me or this other guy to the turn around dance which is girls ask guys so she hated me and spread rumors. Another HB9 girl i use to be tight with hates me cause i took the neg-hit and tease technique tooo far. I'm in a really bad spot and i despretely need help. No one listens or talks to me cause they think i'm annoying and cause of the rumors and impression of me. HELP!!!!! SOS!!!

You say that you hang out with all Asians and they used to think you were supercool. So I'm curious about something now: are you Asian? Because it shouldn't matter what racial/ethnic group they belong to it's a matter of how you relate to each other on a human level. Being true to yourself, even as a teen there are still things about yourself that you feel comfortable with and things you don't. You've got to believe in yourself before anyone else will. I am curious though, about why you mentioned they're all Asians and that you're worried they all hate you now.

 

[Rint]

Yea i'm asian. The asian group is the 2nd biggest at my school, but they dont really sync. The girls hang out with girls and guys hang out with guys in the asian group. Except for this one guy who i hate cause he's an ass hole who the girls follow around and the guys suck up too. I want to beat him, but right now i'm trying to repair my rep

 

[Rint]

The thing is everyones treating me like crap except some of the guys. Other people are ignoring me, and most of the girls think i'm weird

 

[All The Answers]

****ed up parents is one of the major causes. B!tchy mother and pvssy father. Not a good combo for raising a normal kid.

sometimes i cant believe how smart you actually are

THIS fella is the #1 reason teenagers are more messed up these days than in the past - its a trickle down effect!

back when feminists had no power, kids were raised RIGHT, and no one had troubles in their teen years, for the most part, and NOW just visit a high school, any city in America, and see how many kids r ****ed up to the extreme cuz of course they arent being raised right, due to what Daddy said, b1tchy mothers and pvssy fathers


im personally glad i got raised by an alpha dad who orders my mom around and shes submissive, old school russian household!! and ive never had any bullshyt issues like some americans

 

[ProDJ26]

so so true. Alot of times in the past I call myself trying to be super cool until I got the hint that I was the one repeling everyone away.

rint if I were you I wouldn't give a rats arse of what people think of me. What they see is what they get. However, you have to really be happy with yourself first, the rest will come together.

oh and I hate you!!!! :flowers: