Every day you wait, your choices decrease..

[azanon]

A female friend of mine told me that for every 6 women around my age there is one eligible man in the area I live. I am 38 years old.

I assume what she meant by "eligible" is intelligent and employable. The odds are in my favor but the quality of single women is not good in this area.

The mistake I assume you're making is thinking your target range is your age. It's actually about 23-34. If you actually look like the average 38 or older (gut, out of shape, etc), it's time to start taking care of your body.

Your possible range actually increases as you age, not decreases, because you always have the younger ones available and older ones will give you the time of day too.

 

[LoneRanger]

The mistake I assume you're making is thinking your target range is your age. It's actually about 23-34. If you actually look like the average 38 or older (gut, out of shape, etc), it's time to start taking care of your body.

Your possible range actually increases as you age, not decreases, because you always have the younger ones available and older ones will give you the time of day too.

I am in good shape but where I live it is economically in the dumpster and most of the good leadership types are and have been moving away for some time.

What has happened to this area is the character of the general population is down the tubes. I think my friend was saying that for every 6 women there is just one guy who is worthwhile. She has a lot of single friends looking for someone.

There are a tremendious amount of women here but because so many folks here are shady or mentally screwed up it is hard to trust anyone.

 

[StevenR]

No.

The pool is getting larger. I continue to be surprised by the number of women in there 20’s that have no problem with me. The only thing holding me back is me. I’m still surprised when I look into their eyes and they have that funny dazed look and I realize, hell, they are actually into me.

I’m not bragging at all; other super mature guys on here can corroborate this. It’s surprisingly, and pleasantly, common.

I have seen a few statements by older guys similar to yours, that the young hotties are still digging them. What I don't get is that it doesn't corroborate with what I see in online personals. If you go to sites like match or yahoo personals you will see that at your age you are virtually undateable to the majority of women in their 20's and 30's. So what gives here? Is there a totally different set of women on these sites who only want to date someone within 5 years of their age? I even see a lot of older women on those sites who are only into men who are younger than themselves.

 

[LoneRanger]

I have seen a few statements by older guys similar to yours, that the young hotties are still digging them. What I don't get is that it doesn't corroborate with what I see in online personals. If you go to sites like match or yahoo personals you will see that at your age you are virtually undateable to the majority of women in their 20's and 30's. So what gives here? Is there a totally different set of women on these sites who only want to date someone within 5 years of their age? I even see a lot of older women on those sites who are only into men who are younger than themselves.

I am on match.com due to my area's lack of places to meet women who are not regular drinkers.

Most of the women on match.com from my area are divorced, 35 years old and up (most over 40), with two or more kids and drink regularly.

The only date I got through match.com since I joined up in early March said she thinks most sign up and browse the site because they got drunk. I believe it.

I've done everything right with my profile. Fairly good pictures and well thought out profile description. So far only one date and no other one to one communications.

I'll see what happens when I join a gym this week.

 

[Vince]

I was talking to a 32 year old guy today who said this to me.

Basically, he thinks that if he doesn't get married ASAP, every day that he waits it is going to get harder. i.e. the pool of women you can marry and have a family with will keep getting reduced.

Any of you guys in your 30s and 40s feeling this way?

If you allow it to be true, then it will be.

 

[Phyzzle]

If you go to sites like match or yahoo personals you will see that at your age you are virtually undateable to the majority of women in their 20's and 30's. So what gives here? Is there a totally different set of women on these sites who only want to date someone within 5 years of their age?

No. They are just setting conditions off the top of their heads according to the entries available to them. For example, you might notice that every woman on these personals wants a guy who is "6 feet tall". Not 5'10" like an average guy she's surely dated before, it's "6 feet". It has a nice ring to it.

 

[edger]

I was talking to a 32 year old guy today who said this to me.

Basically, he thinks that if he doesn't get married ASAP, every day that he waits it is going to get harder. i.e. the pool of women you can marry and have a family with will keep getting reduced.

Any of you guys in your 30s and 40s feeling this way?

It only gets hard if you're looking for women in the late late 20's and up bracket, because by then most of them are married, or are in serious long-term relationships, engaged, etc.

So, the only problem this presents itself too, is the guy who is in his late 20's and up, who wants someone in his age range.

 

[( . )( . )]

This is simply the lonley old man myth again. Yet another feminine social convention.

This notion is one of the biggest AFC rationale ever perpetrated on men. Is lonelines a disease that necessitates a cure? If men could be made to believe so, think of the potential profit to be made from, and the potential for manipulation of, men. The real test for a man is how he lives with himself, alone. Precious few men ever truly allow themselves to be alone and learn real independence and self-reliance. The vast majority of guys (particularly in western culture) tend to transition from mother to wife with little or no intermission between, going from LTR to LTR until they 'settle' without ever having learned how to interact as an adult.

The fear of loneliness is entirely too exaggerated in modern western romaticism. The popularized fear-mythology of becoming the "lonely old man who never loved" is the new 'old maid' myth made popular in an era when a woman's worth was dependent upon her marital status and equally as false a premise. But in our brave new generation AFC, men (who've become women) are repackaged and shamed into believing this horsesh!t as part & parcel of this feminized gender role reversal. And thus we get Speed Dating and eHarmony and a host of other "conveniences" to pacify the insecurities that this reversal makes poor fatherless boys believe we 'should' have as part of ourselves by no other virtue than that we were born male.

Don't buy into the powder-puff idea that if you don't find your ONE by the time you're 30 and ASAP you'll tempt fate and risk a life of quiet desperation. This contrivance only serves the interests of women who's imperative it is to enjoy their party years in their 20's with as many Jerks as they can attract and have a stable Nice Guy who's petrified he'll live a life of loneliness and desperation waiting for them at 28-30 to marry and ensure their long term security.

Don't buy this lie. The man who is comfortable with himself and confident in his true independence is the one that women will want to be associated with and to share in it. How you handle being alone and what you do with that freedom is the real measure of a man.

If you're single and 50 you STILL have options if you're only brave enough to explore them. I know divorced men in their 50s who're dating mid to late 30s women now and I know men in their 60s who've been trapped and emotionally blackmailed by their wives for 20 years.



Which is precisely why you should date women younger than yourself. I personally know a 23 y.o. smokin' hot HB 8.5 who's seeing a 38 y.o. guy - her first 'older guy' as she puts it - and she cannot get enough of him. I was also the best man for my best friend's wedding last year, his wife is 25 and he's 38. They started dating when she was 23 and he was 36. Again, don't buy into what women who waited too long to cash their chips in in their 30s would have you believe about young women and older men.

Hats off . And this guys a moderator here aswell, I'm genuinely thankful your here mate.

*Wipes tears away*

 

[lookyoung]

So let me ask before he does; So why did you throw me under a bus?

Because getting married at 21 is way too young. What the fvck does a 21 year old know about life and marriage. A man does not mature till he is at least 27. I have seen many guys like you who were married young and they will now fvck anything that moves. You may be an exception but most guys who have limited sexual experience such as yourself tend to cheat. 21 year old guys also tend to make sh1tty husbands. A 21 year old guy is probably literally about as mature as a 17 year old girl.

Why would anyone wait 12 years to have a kid after marriage. Why not just date the girl instead of tying the knot? A guy that is 21 should not rush into marriage that is what woman do.