Ever hooked up with a girl with herpes?

[Colossus]

Being the resident medical professional here I feel I should speak up.

Herpes is a rather perplexing virus. Almost everyone has been exposed, but not everyone will manifest symptoms. Not everyone who comes in sexual contact with the virus will get it. Some people may get it after one exposure to asymptomatic viral shedding. Some people have one outbreak, some have dozens.

But what if YOU had herpes??? How would you want to be treated? Any single one of us here could have contracted it. It is an extremely common virus. Condoms dont really protect you either. It is very much a roll of the dice...unless you did something idiotic like have sex with a girl who had an active, visible infection.

Dont let one person's anecdote sway you either. Just because one or two guys have not contracted it from an infected partner doesn't mean you will have the same luck. Some people already have antibodies to it before a known exposure and others for unknown reasons will simply resist the infection. These individuals are are rare, however.

That said, if it were me I would probably move on as well. High-risk decision. HSV1 or HSV2...both types infect the genitals and both types are typically recurring. Now herpes isnt the monstrosity that people think it is, BUT---it is permanent. And it is true that HSV2 is the more aggressive variety. HSV1 infections have a much milder course and many people only get a couple outbreaks in a lifetime.

There really isnt anything you can do to keep from getting herpes other than not sleeping with a person who has a known infection, abstaining, or being monogamous with someone who is uninfected. I can tell you about plenty of everyday people who have no idea how they got it.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear All,
What a great thread....I have learnt a lot from this...I am pleased that the OP has seen sense,it's a shame,but we are supposedly Don Juans,and they just keep growing and travelling on...Talking about STD's the most dangerous one according to my Quack is Hepatitis B...Always check out the Iris of any Woman before you screw her...Yellowing of this central part of the eye is generally present in anyone with a Liver problem,even carriers...Sure you can be inoculated but some people,like me don't become resistant,they are going to be at the least,very ill, if they do get it.

 

[Greasy Pig]

I've often thought how I'd go meeting the woman of my dreams but she had herpes.
My little bro contracted genital herpes from some ONS and he was on suicide watch for months. Poor bastard.
He's a fvckin good bloke, super fit, good looking and ripped. He should be able to get any girl but he can't because this one very big problem is holding him back.
But he now has a great girlfriend and they're very happy. But they always use condoms and when they spoke to their doctor about having kids, he told them that she would definitely get herpes if they started having unprotected sex.
But then, I lived with a guy and his girlfriend and he had herpes and they fvcked all the time without condoms and she never got it.
He just made sure he wasn't having an attack when they fvcked.

I try to imagine if I had herpes and had to tell every prospective girlfriend about it. It would suck. Before I saw the hell my bro went through, I'd be the first to say GTFO, no pause, no thought, just GTFO.
But now I'm torn because every woman who rejected me because of it would just make me feel even worse about myself. So I feel sorry for people who have it and who are being responsible about it.
But then I don't think I could relax with a girl knowing that every time I fvcked her, I could be exposing myself to it.

If you do decide to ditch her, OP, do it honourably and leave her with some dignity. I'm sure she's been rejected dozens of times before because of it and she should understand, but still, be kind.

 

[Colossus]

If you do decide to ditch her, OP, do it honourably and leave her with some dignity. I'm sure she's been rejected dozens of times before because of it and she should understand, but still, be kind.

Agreed. I think he already did....but like you said imagine if you had to tell every potential woman in your life you had herpes. I bet at least 50% of them would exit stage left. Being a high value guy may help a bit, but still.

 

[Burroughs]

A thread like this really brings to light how sex addicted and moronic modern men are.

modern women will next for the merest hint of a slight....

too short...def next
poor....next
no house...next
live with parents....next
wrong hair color....next
six pack a little flabby because you're in gain phase....next
lose job......def next (even the good ones eventually)
not handsome enough...won't even talk to you

women don't give a flying fvck about personality

but men won't next for those reasons....we want to fvck!

but for men not to next a bish for an STD?!...you are NOT being the better man..you are a desperate white knight wanting to play hero..talking about her great 'personality'?!....thats fine if you're a lesbian looking to take long walks and visit bed and breakfasts...not a man playing russian roulette just to get your d!ck wet!

 

[Pair A Dice]

This happened to me not too long ago. You can read about it here — Retreat!
Long story short, I told her I don't think I could do it and bounced. We had fun during out hanging out stage, but I didn't want to risk it. Neither should you.

 

[Zunder]

I've often thought how I'd go meeting the woman of my dreams but she had herpes.
My little bro contracted genital herpes from some ONS and he was on suicide watch for months. Poor bastard.
He's a fvckin good bloke, super fit, good looking and ripped. He should be able to get any girl but he can't because this one very big problem is holding him back.
But he now has a great girlfriend and they're very happy. But they always use condoms and when they spoke to their doctor about having kids, he told them that she would definitely get herpes if they started having unprotected sex.
But then, I lived with a guy and his girlfriend and he had herpes and they fvcked all the time without condoms and she never got it.
He just made sure he wasn't having an attack when they fvcked.

I try to imagine if I had herpes and had to tell every prospective girlfriend about it. It would suck. Before I saw the hell my bro went through, I'd be the first to say GTFO, no pause, no thought, just GTFO.
But now I'm torn because every woman who rejected me because of it would just make me feel even worse about myself. So I feel sorry for people who have it and who are being responsible about it.
But then I don't think I could relax with a girl knowing that every time I fvcked her, I could be exposing myself to it.

If you do decide to ditch her, OP, do it honourably and leave her with some dignity. I'm sure she's been rejected dozens of times before because of it and she should understand, but still, be kind.

Well, as someone who recently has contracted Herpes - let me tell you a few facts....
*The only way to be sure of never getting Herpes is to never fvck any woman ever again. Even if you are currently in a monogamous relationship, she or you may have it and never know it. Condomns do not stop you getting herpes.
*There are blood tests for it - but even they can be inaccurate giving either false postives or vice versca. Really - only a culture swab taken when you have an outbreak is the only surfire method to learn if oyu have it.
*One in four sexually active women has Herpes. READ THAT AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN until if firmly lodges into your brain.
*My personal experience of my outbreak was pain when passing urine for three days - and thats it. Since I got diagnosed almost 6 months ago, I have had no outbreak again.
*The images of Herpes and weeping sores all over your **** are such bvll****. Those images are NOT the norm. The norm is my relatively minor "diiscomfort".
If you have a immune system that is shot - somewhat akin to an AIDS patient - then yes, you could get an array of bad sores. Most of the sores, if you get any, go away quickly - and you may never ever get another outbreak again for the rest of your life.
*Any chick that fesses up and tells you she has Herpes before you fvck - IS A WOMAN OF OUTSTANDING CHARACTER - and if you decline a relationship with her you should still treat her with the utmost respect.
*The problem with Herpes is not the virus itself - it is the STIGMA. Herpes is so minor from a disease point of view its not funny. A bad cold or flu is much worse. Its the STIGMA thats the problem.
*Any woman that wants to be with you when you tell her you have Herpes and she doesn't have it, is, again, A WOMAN OF OUTSTANDING CHARACTER that she can put all the overhped bvll**** about Herpes aside and treat you like the normal man you are.

For me - since my diagnosis, I have realised just how unworthy most women are of my time and attention. Pre-Herpes, I realise now the only reason I gave these women my time of day was because I wanted to stick my dik in their hole - thats it.

If I am never intimate again with a woman - so be it. While I was initally pisssed off that I caught this virus, I can tell you I never went close to being in the depressed state I have been in when things have gone wrong with women in my relationships in my pre-Herpes time.

While my casual sex days are over - I take solace in the fact that any woman I do end up with, that accepts my Herpes, is some special kind of woman.

Of course - you have the option of not telling prospective women that you have Herpes, and carry on as normal - i.e keep fvcking chicks like you did before. For me - I can't do that - despite my low opinion of most women in the western world - they are still human beings and they have a right to know if you have an STD or not. I could not live with myself if I fcvked around and didn't tell a chick of my Herpes status.
Some people can - and do. But that's not who I am.

EDIT: I have HSV2, supposedly the worse one to get. Also - I don't take antivirals, apart for the first week I had my one and only "outbreak". Popping anti-viral pills for the rest of your life is a waste of time and money, and is buying into the hype that the drug companies rejoice in as their bank accounts swell. Also - your own immune system will take care of the virus if you stay healthy - and this goes for most viruses. It is a poignant fact that most people seemingly don't realise that there are NO CURES for viruses. Only bacterial diseases can be somewhat controlled with anti-biotics. Herpes has been around as long as genital crabs - i.e FOREVER. You chicken pox as a kid? You still have it. Your immune system has just dealt with it so well that you never get symptoms again......this by the way, is the theory of how vaccines work.

 

[Desire]

You can take Lysine daily to prevent outbreaks. If you get a cold or someting else that lower your immune system, just take a little more.

 

[Boilermaker]

I married a girl with herpes, fvcked her all the time for seven years without a condom, and never got anything.

You're actually more likely to get herpes by fvcking random girls, especially if you think a condom will protect you. The people who transmit herpes typically do not know they have it; often they just got it, which is also the time that the virus is strongest in the body.

She should be on daily anti-viral meds. Valtrex was the old stuff, but famvir was better, last I checked. She will feel an outbreak coming on, and all you have to do is not have sex until the outbreak clears up. With every year that passes since she contracted the virus, the outbreaks will be fewer and less severe. The virus becomes less contagious with time.

Science will tell you that even if she does not have an outbreak, you may still become infected due to asymptomatic viral shedding. It is technically true, but also very unlikely. I have never heard of it happening. The scientific journal articles I read all base that assertion upon lab experiments, a lot of them just cultures in petri dishes; it's not based upon human experience.

Life is full of risks, and I can't guarantee that she won't infect you. But don't think that if you dump her and go after other girls, then you are assured that you won't still get herpes or even something worse. All sex has risk, but at least with this girl you know the risk and you should have developed enough of a sense of her intelligence and character to be able to make the decision of whether to trust her or not.

I just love it so much, when someone with some real experience and knowledge (like Bible-Belt or Colossus here) shows up and breaks the illusion after five or six geniuses have already chipped in and made some naive remarks about something they had no idea about...

I am not going to tell OP to go for it or dump her for it because I just don't have anything to say, but it's always refreshing to see someone with real-world advice and experience talk about a subject. It is instantly visible when someone is lashing out from his guts, and when someone presents easily verifiable facts along with experience to enrich it... That gives me hope about this forum and society in general : )


Having some knowledge before having an opinion...

Thank you Bible-Belt for the actual, real, info.

I can't rep you more apparently.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Thanks. And thanks to Zunder as well for sharing his story.

 

[Down Low]

My cluster-B ex had herpes of the mouth. The lying cheating wh0re slvt would get frequent "flu-like symptoms" and then grow cold sores of the Herp-1 variety. Only about once every other year did she get caterpillars. As I hear, Herp-2+ is contagious only when shedding scabs -- same as chicken pox. So I'd mind-fvck her by French kissing and skull fvcking her when she showed sores but wasn't yet flaking off.

One more thing. Don't lie to yourself. A woman having a STD -- whether or not she lets you in on the dirty secret -- is proof positive that she's of low moral character.

 

[Zunder]

My cluster-B ex had herpes of the mouth. The lying cheating wh0re slvt would get frequent "flu-like symptoms" and then grow cold sores of the Herp-1 variety. Only about once every other year did she get caterpillars. As I hear, Herp-2+ is contagious only when shedding scabs -- same as chicken pox. So I'd mind-fvck her by French kissing and skull fvcking her when she showed sores but wasn't yet flaking off.

One more thing. Don't lie to yourself. A woman having a STD -- whether or not she lets you in on the dirty secret -- is proof positive that she's of low moral character.

If there was a prize for "Stupid Ignorant Cvnt of the Decade" - and you didn't win it, you would definitely be in the Grand Final.

 

[SoldMySoul]

My cluster-B ex had herpes of the mouth. The lying cheating wh0re slvt would get frequent "flu-like symptoms" and then grow cold sores of the Herp-1 variety. Only about once every other year did she get caterpillars. As I hear, Herp-2+ is contagious only when shedding scabs -- same as chicken pox. So I'd mind-fvck her by French kissing and skull fvcking her when she showed sores but wasn't yet flaking off.

One more thing. Don't lie to yourself. A woman having a STD -- whether or not she lets you in on the dirty secret -- is proof positive that she's of low moral character.

I disagree with your assessment sir on women with STDs having low moral character. Just maybe she contracted it from an a cheating ex, or perhaps from someone like me when I had them on my lips and was unaware. Or maybe she got it from anybody... I would not paint with such a broad brush because speaking of paint, you would paint yourself in a corner with an untrue statement like that.

But if she was whoring around doing anybody and everybody, then yes, your statement would be dead on the money.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Zunder,
Great to see you posting again....Goodness you have grown...I am really happy that you have risen above the nasty situation it seemed you were in...Be lucky Mate.

 

[Colossus]

+1 to Zunder for an outstanding public service post.

All of that is good factual info.

You are 100% correct dude, it's the stigma that's ugly. For most people it is a very minor skin disease that recurs very infrequently if at all....but just the name Herpes...sounds so vile to the uneducated.

No one here is trying to talk guys into sleeping with a girl with herpes, just treat them with some respect. They are still human beings and any one of us could have the same bad luck.

 

[Zarky]

A woman having a STD -- whether or not she lets you in on the dirty secret -- is proof positive that she's of low moral character.

I'm gonna assume you had a major brain fart when you wrote that one...

 

[Solomon]

LOL I've banged a few chicks who had the herp. Made sure there was no outbreak at the time and I haven't (knock on wood) ever gotten it. In fact I dated a chick for years who had it.

Don't tell me you at the puss brah

 

[backbreaker]

i'd fvck a girl with ebola if she had nice enough legs and you gave me one of those hazmat suits

 

[VikingKing]

Every day man.

 

[mikey2012]

A thread like this really brings to light how sex addicted and moronic modern men are.

modern women will next for the merest hint of a slight....

too short...def next
poor....next
no house...next
live with parents....next
wrong hair color....next
six pack a little flabby because you're in gain phase....next
lose job......def next (even the good ones eventually)
not handsome enough...won't even talk to you

women don't give a flying fvck about personality

but men won't next for those reasons....we want to fvck!

but for men not to next a bish for an STD?!...you are NOT being the better man..you are a desperate white knight wanting to play hero..talking about her great 'personality'?!....thats fine if you're a lesbian looking to take long walks and visit bed and breakfasts...not a man playing russian roulette just to get your d!ck wet!

Just had test- came NEGATIVE. Fvcked her for 12 months. Saw pics on internet HSV 2...then said NEXT...btw she also has BPD..so was no brainer.
You just dont need barnacles growing on your **** period.

Agree with Burroughs. women will NEXT you even if you hold your fork wrong..