Ever Dumped A Chick & Tried To Get Her Back?

[soulforge]

Hey guys, have you ever dumped a chick for a good reasons, then questioned you decision and tried to get her back??

How Badly did that workout for you ?? Lol

 

[Pardner]

Don't crawl back to a chick. Once you dumped her don't go back into the recycle bin. It wil never be the same as it was before and she can wind up dumping you.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Yes, I didn't necessarily try to get her back. I went NC for about 2wks? One morning she calls me out of the blue, really brief conversion. I said I was happy and doing great, she missed me blah blah.

I don't remember the whole time line but a few weeks later I contacted her. She was really excited to hear from me and next thing I know she's at my front door and ready to go. Latinas are f*king passionate. Her GF's gave me so much sh*t and busting my balls but were happy I was around again because it made her happy. It lasted about 2mo maybe and then I ended it again for the same reasons. :kick: Just like Ruler said.

I did it in my younger days as well just to get dumped a couple months later. Easy revenge for them, NEVER GO BACK! Kick your onetis man.

 

[soulforge]

hey guys i have absolutely no intention of going back to the chick i recently dropped.. starting to feel glad that i dropped her ass within a few months or so..

was just curious if you guys had ever made that mistake? and how it all panned out for you

 

[soulforge]

Any guys dumped a girlfriend, but the tried to get her back as a fuk buddy??

How did you manage it?

 

[soulforge]

Dumped my ex and within a week she'd hooked up with another guy. Most women just can't be alone.

She tried to get back with me and I entertained the idea since the breakup was mainly my fault but I couldn't muster the idea of her having been banged by another dude, even if she "didn't enjoy it". At the end of the day she still did it. She's young so maybe she'll be more level headed with the next guy...or just not have the naivety to tell him and expect him to meekly accept it :crackup:

It all depends on your tolerance level to be honest. If you can accept that she's probably hooked up with other dudes then go for it.

How long till she tried to get back with you. ???

 

[RangerMIke]

No. The reasons you break things off with a woman do not go away. Getting back with a woman you have 'nexted' is a waste of time. I have broken things off with women that come back as FBs.... but that's different.

 

[soulforge]

Dumped my ex and within a week she'd hooked up with another guy. Most women just can't be alone.

She tried to get back with me and I entertained the idea since the breakup was mainly my fault but I couldn't muster the idea of her having been banged by another dude, even if she "didn't enjoy it". At the end of the day she still did it. She's young so maybe she'll be more level headed with the next guy...or just not have the naivety to tell him and expect him to meekly accept it :crackup:

It all depends on your tolerance level to be honest. If you can accept that she's probably hooked up with other dudes then go for it.

Well i cant see a relationship ever working out with her, but a fuk buddy is possible

 

[soulforge]

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After I (accidentally) unblocked her when deleting her number.

That was about 2 weeks after I dumped her.

Fvck buddy situation will only work if you're truly over her or actively seeking a long term replacement which probably isn't going to happen in a month.

Even then it has a time limit - no girl will accept fvck buddy status for long.

Or you could just forsake all morals and tell her you want to be exclusive while banging other chicks on the side until you find someone else.

If your girl screwed you over in some way then I would opt for the last point.

Well she didn't really screw me over.. However she was rude and disrespecful to me on a number of occasions, i called her out on her behaviour and she starts to play the victim.. stops contacting me...

Makes no effort to make up or resolve the issue.. her victim mentality does not allow it.. i think she was expecting me to grovel or apologise and give chase to her..

We was both to blame for communicating badly to each other.. i did try resolving the problem, which was rather petty... but again her victim mentality got in the way..

So i just dumped her... its been 2 weeks NC.. upon reflection i realise she was quite a ****y and rude person..

A relationship with her is not possible... but maybe one day turn her into a fuk buddy once all my feelings for her are gone

 

[WanderingMan]

In my early days I broke up with my girlfriend because her behavior was starting to get out of line. Unfortunately though, as the love sick puppy that I was, I called her three days letter and tried to "talk" it out, and get back together with her. Her response: let's take it slow.

We actually did have a pseudo bf/gf relationship after that, but not surprisingly I was more into it than she was. And I believe she used the fact that we weren't officially together as a means to explore other options, and eventually just ended up leaving me.

Me breaking up with due to her bad behavior
Me breaking down and calling her three days later

If you're going to do it, do it - be a man. If she comes back to you, that's one thing, but if you break it off because of her behavior, you cannot go back.

 

[Lozboss]

I think you got to look at the Pros and Cons.

We as DJs make mistakes. It takes a Man to swallow his pride and say 'id' like t give it a go'.

That DOESN'T mean that it isn't an equal relationship, if she isn't as into it as you then it won't work.

 

[soulforge]

In my early days I broke up with my girlfriend because her behavior was starting to get out of line. Unfortunately though, as the love sick puppy that I was, I called her three days letter and tried to "talk" it out, and get back together with her. Her response: let's take it slow.

We actually did have a pseudo bf/gf relationship after that, but not surprisingly I was more into it than she was. And I believe she used the fact that we weren't officially together as a means to explore other options, and eventually just ended up leaving me.

Me breaking up with due to her bad behavior
Me breaking down and calling her three days later

If you're going to do it, do it - be a man. If she comes back to you, that's one thing, but if you break it off because of her behavior, you cannot go back.

I broke up with her, because of her bahaviour.. we had a petty fallout over something that could have easily been resolved... problem is she makes no effort at all to make up..

Twice i have reached out to sort things out... she plays the victim.. either she does not care, or she expects me to grovel, chase and end up giving her all the power..

i offered her to meet for a coffee, a chat and sort things out... she made some excuses about how she couldn't meet because of her kids...

But she made no counter offer to talk on another day... again she was probably expecting me to reach out to her again...

So i decided to dump her ass.. can't deal with her sabotaging the relationship over stupid petty things, that can easily be resolved..

Thats why trying to get her back is probably a really bad idea, even as a fuk buddy

 

[soulforge]

Trouble is, when you dump a chick you liked... you start to question your decision

 

[WanderingMan]

Trouble is, when you dump a chick you liked... you start to question your decision

If you break up with her, then why are you trying to go back. You broke up with her...

Leaders - Men - make decisions and stick with them.

I've had girls end it with me, as a ploy to try to get me to chase or commit more of myself to them. Not only could I tell what they were doing, but at the time, I just wasn't interested in anything more, so it backfired on them. They were trying to unnaturally force it - like an ultimatum. Never a good idea in my opinion.

 

[soulforge]

yes its hard for - ALL - of us, but you also have a very severe OCD. You need to recognize that.

Yes i am a little OCD... regarding this matter, i,m just a little indecisive, as i really wanted it to work with this chick

 

[soulforge]

2 weeks on after i ended it... and she is back on POF looking for fresh dik...

My first reaction when i saw her profile was.. i need to get this girl back... now i,m thinking fuk her... she aint never gona make a good girlfriend /wife to me..

I tried communicating to make things right, but she expecting me to grovel like a dog.. so dumping her was the only option


Seriously i will never ever get emotionally involved with a pof girl again... lesson learnt... they are nothing but bad news...

 

[ArcBound]

As a man, the easiest thing you can do is get back a girlfriend you dumped.

The problem is do you want to, and are the problems that led you to dump her still there in some capacity?

I've seen a few friends do it (like dump a girl and get back within a week sort of deal) and they've had long ongoing relationships.

 

[soulforge]

As a man, the easiest thing you can do is get back a girlfriend you dumped.

The problem is do you want to, and are the problems that led you to dump her still there in some capacity?

I've seen a few friends do it (like dump a girl and get back within a week sort of deal) and they've had long ongoing relationships.

Yeh there is problems... she can be quite rude and ****y sometimes... i had to call her out on her behaviour, but she starts playing the victim and stops all communication with me..

She sabotages the relationship.. i,m not perfect, we both handled the situation quite bad this time round...

But she makes zero effort to resolve things... victim mode kicks in... so i either grovel like a dog to make up with her... or the relationship is finished..

These are my choices!! Sound like a healthy long term relationship to you???


Either she does not care about the relationship... or she is too proud and stubborn to reach out and fix things..

Or she wants to gain the power in the relationship...


Any hope here at all??? I sense none, other than to dump her ass

 

[ArcBound]

Yeh there is problems... she can be quite rude and ****y sometimes... i had to call her out on her behaviour, but she starts playing the victim and stops all communication with me..

She sabotages the relationship.. i,m not perfect, we both handled the situation quite bad this time round...

But she makes zero effort to resolve things... victim mode kicks in... so i either grovel like a dog to make up with her... or the relationship is finished..

These are my choices!! Sound like a healthy long term relationship to you???


Either she does not care about the relationship... or she is too proud and stubborn to reach out and fix things..

Or she wants to gain the power in the relationship...


Any hope here at all??? I sense none, other than to dump her ass

Well the groveling part definitely has to stop whether you do stay with her or not. If you know you are in the right, then you are in the right. You say you handled the situation quite badly this time too, what did she do and what did you do that were bad?

 

[soulforge]

Well the groveling part definitely has to stop whether you do stay with her or not. If you know you are in the right, then you are in the right. You say you handled the situation quite badly this time too, what did she do and what did you do that were bad?

I will send you a private message and explain mate