Ever been hit on by a gay dude?

[Black Dog]

You misunderstood what I meant. I never said fa**ts don't love masculine men. I said homos are less likely to approach a guy that looks like he will kick his a$$ for hitting on him, rather than a soft looking nice guy.

So your advice is to be a complete assh0le, and someone no one wants to be around? Except for other insecure meathead fagg0ts.

I'm 5'11 180 in very good shape. I could beat people up...but why would I?? Certainly not because I'm uncomfortable with my sexuality and therefore too insecure to deal with a man hitting on me.

You are a deluded individual. You do not understand what a real man is. Only what a caricature of an uber-masculine Bruce Willis-type man is

 

[MartyMcFly]

Having a smooth clean shaven face for a nice guy/good looking guy (the boyish good looks type) is like him wearing a bow tie and pants that are 2 inches too short in length that make him show his socks. It ACCENTUATES his niceguy-ness when you are supposed to be doing the opposite. A beard does the opposite which is it accentuates your masculine side.

Heyy.... I have to shave every day. I have no say in it.

 

[Fuglydude]

I've stripped at a few gay/bi clubs during my career. Most gay bars aren't exclusively guys, but actually will have quite a few women, mostly attractive women, around. Gay guys know right away if you're gay or not and won't waste time on you. They'll be chill, buy you a drink, share a joint with you, but won't directly hit on you. I remember one time I did a show and came back to the change room covered in sparkles. Apparently they had some kind of drag queen pageant there before, and drag queens really like sparkles. My fiance still bugs me about that.

I remember one instance where three good looking gay dudes started talking to me after my show. They were cool chill guys so I talked, had a drink with them... my gf met me at the club afterwards and I introduced her to these guys, and she was like.. "wow, you guys are HOT!" hahaha... I was like, ya I can pick up hotter guys than my gf hahaha!

There was one particularly creepy old fat gay manager who'd always try and pick you up if you were a dancer. He took the "I'm joking unless you're gonna do it" angle... he'd be like "I'll take my teeth out for ya" and shiit... He offered one of my buddies 3k to suck my buddy's cack, to which my buddy replied "that's a generous offer, but that wouldn't even begin to cover the therapy I'd need afterwards"!

I've had a gay guy offer me a few grand to sleep with me (just in case I wanted to try it... according to him), and another one enquiring if I did golden showers... yuck!

So overall, yes I've had several instances where gay guys hit on me... its mostly harmless shiit, but some of it can be downright creepy if the guys are creeps. Overall though, there's nothing wrong with them and they'll know outright if you're straight, and won't bug ya too much.

 

[the_stig]

WTF! Five minutes after viewing this thread, some dude on my facebook, no idea how he got there, sends me an instant message saying "cute pics". Defriend!

 

[DanelMadr]

It happened a few times. But it was very subtle. They were testing the water first and changed their mind without a close ....once he was nervous as hell only asking me what time it is.

Since they did not try to be obnoxious about it or disrespectful, I declined politely. I knew a guy in the army and he was the coolest guy around, I wouldn't mind follow him to battle but there was some kind of uneasiness - not to give him the wrong ideas, heh and he was the officer so he could make your life difficult. But I assure you he wasn't like those 'I'm gay, I'm proud of it and I want to be in the army, it is my right.'

If a gay dude comes to a bar, behaving like on gay parade, I slap him like a ***** he is. I f@cking hate gay parades. It is like swinging d1ck on a street and yelling I'm proud to be heterosexual. So not cool. Distasteful and retarded.

I had drunk fatties pinch my butt....and I acted/looked at them like I was mad....they were scared shytless. I smiled at them finally but it was too late....their heart rate disrupted :] I had one ugly b1tch asking me to dance and then asking if I buy her a drink at least. She was very frustrated and absolutely hopeless....I think she was a lesbian - acting like a guy or just simply wanted to experience the pickup, trying to force guys on herself. Wacko. I was polite about it but she was pissed.

Gay dudes have very very difficult life. They experience hell in puberty and the rest of life is not better, I guess. Take pity on them. So if he is not disrespectful I am not offended. However he gets one warning like everyone else when disrespecting me.

 

[snowdog]

Correct. Uberguy and the rest that have said that it's a good thing to be hit on by a gay guy don't know S*** are proven wrong with what's highlighted in bold and the reason is quite simple and I will explain.

Let this be a lesson to you all.


Why do gay guys hit on you? The same reason fatties do which is YOU REEK OF NICEGUY-NESS!

Let me explain. It takes a huge amount of courage for a woman to hit on a guy. Most women are more afraid of rejection than a guy is. Women are emotionally unstable and any small hit to their self steam and they feel like crap for weeks and that's because women are all about emotion. If a woman will hit on a guy it's going to be with a guy she feels is a guy who will not totally embarrass her and outright reject her, but instead give her the time of day as opposed to a jerk/bad boy who will embarrass her/reject hair in less than a new york minute.

NOTICE I SAID "WOMEN" (non fattie). Now for a FATTIE/WHALE and a GAY GUY to hit on/approach a guy, he must totally look like a nice guy/reek of nice-guy ness for them to feel safe approaching/hitting on that guy. It's 1000% more dangerous for them to approach/hit on a guy than your average woman so YOU MUST BE 100% VERIFIABLE NICE GUY FOR THEM TO EVEN THINK OF TALKING TO YOU!


If you get hit on by a fattie/gay guy it's because they see the nice guy/gentleman in you and knows that you won't totally tell them to f*** off and embarrass them right there and then which would be a hit to their self steam. They know because you reek of niceguy-ness that you won't do that and actually feel that they might have a chance in their mind.

Do jerks/bad boys get hit on by fatties or gay guys? of course not! Because they know they will be rejected and probably insulted. That's why they go for the nice guy/gentleman that will probably won't even be insulted by the thought of being hit on and chat them up a bit.

GETTING HIT ON BY FATTIES AND GAY GUYS IS A LEAK IN YOUR GAME THAT YOU NEED TO FIX!

If you get hit on by fatties/gay guys you need to examine yourself by looking at the mirror/looking at the way you present yourself and the way you act, and ask yourself are you a straight up nice guy???

I write this from personal experience. I once got hit on by a fattie. It took me a while to realize i reeked of niceguy-ness which was the reason a fattie would even get the courage to chat me up. I couldn't help it i got boyish good looks rather than rugged masculine good looks.

If you get hit on by a fattie/gay guy you are probably good looking but you lack the masculine good looks THAT MAKE GOOD LOOKING WOMEN HIT ON YOU!

It's never a good thing to be hit on by a fattie/gay guy. It only shows you that you still either look or exude nice-guyness for them to be even comfortable trying to chat with you.

What's even worse is if other girls see you chatting with gay guys/fatties. That's a huge hit to your reputation and your pre-selection ratings.

Women are naturally attracted to guys that they see around other good looking women (pre-selection). Having women see you around the opposite (fatties/gay guys) has the opposite effect and will make you look real bad in the eyes of women.

Getting hit on by a good looking woman = GOOD
Getting hit on by a fattie/gay guy = BAD

WHAT CAN YOU DO

Change your dress style: If you got boyish good looks (which if you probably are getting hit on by fatties and gay guys you probably do) think of changing your style. Try dressing up in a way that won't make you look like a preppy nice guy.

Grow facial hair: This has done wonders for me. Grow a beard and it will instantly make you look more masculine. When you combine it with your already born good looks it will give you that necessary edge and masculinity that attracts women rather than whales and fag***ts.

Having a smooth clean shaven face for a nice guy/good looking guy (the boyish good looks type) is like him wearing a bow tie and pants that are 2 inches too short in length that make him show his socks. It ACCENTUATES his niceguy-ness when you are supposed to be doing the opposite. A beard does the opposite which is it accentuates your masculine side.

This is some of the dumbest bullsh*t I've ever read on here.

Because you

1) Imply that looks are actually important for your game. News flash: THEY AREN'T. It doesn't mean sh*t.
2) Imply that you can actually control others. People, gay, fat or whatever have their own will, you know.
3) USE TOO MUCH ****ING CAPS AND BOLD SH*T!!!!!1111

You come across as a homophobe, and a dumb one at that. This whole post reeks of insecurity. I mean, how much of an insecure person do you need to be to actually grow a f*cking BEARD because of how OTHERS view you? I feel sorry for you, man. Your reality is small.

Who gives a sh*t about gays or fatties trying to approach you. Just let them know in a friendly matter that you aren't interested, done. Being a friendly, approachable guy is a good thing. I have developed that over the years and I feel I'm getting close to perfecting it. All kinds of people randomly start a chat with me because I have a positive vibe about me. I make friends very easily and I never get into fights. Not because I'm some suckup, but because I'm on top of the situation and I don't need to prove anything to anyone. Even these macho muscle douchebags who just love to start fights sometimes try to start sh*t with me. The situation usually ends in them buying me beers and joining the party. MY party.

And guess what, I found out over the years that being being a good guy is attractive as hell to chicks if you're comfortable and confident with it. Especially the really hot ones. Acting like an ass-hole may be better than being a chumpy nice guy, but being a nice guy while having tons of confidence and a strong reality beats being an ass-hole by a mile.

 

[DanelMadr]

This is some of the dumbest bullsh*t I've ever read on here.

Because you

1) Imply that looks are actually important for your game. News flash: THEY AREN'T. It doesn't mean sh*t.
2) Imply that you can actually control others. People, gay, fat or whatever have their own will, you know.
3) USE TOO MUCH ****ING CAPS AND BOLD SH*T!!!!!1111

You come across as a homophobe, and a dumb one at that. This whole post reeks of insecurity. I mean, how much of an insecure person do you need to be to actually grow a f*cking BEARD because of how OTHERS view you? I feel sorry for you, man. Your reality is small.

Who gives a sh*t about gays or fatties trying to approach you. Just let them know in a friendly matter that you aren't interested, done. Being a friendly, approachable guy is a good thing. I have developed that over the years and I feel I'm getting close to perfecting it. All kinds of people randomly start a chat with me because I have a positive vibe about me. I make friends very easily and I never get into fights. Not because I'm some suckup, but because I'm on top of the situation and I don't need to prove anything to anyone. Even these macho muscle douchebags who just love to start fights sometimes try to start sh*t with me. The situation usually ends in them buying me beers and joining the party. MY party.

And guess what, I found out over the years that being being a good guy is attractive as hell to chicks if you're comfortable and confident with it. Especially the really hot ones. Acting like an ass-hole may be better than being a chumpy nice guy, but being a nice guy while having tons of confidence and a strong reality beats being an ass-hole by a mile.

Hi,

not that I don't agree with you, but it seems your attitude reeks of the similar traits, that you accused him of. It is lots of 'I' and being proud of your good guy image. Not that it is a bad image and certainly better than that of 'The big pimp with tight game' but be careful because there is a trap. In order to protect your image you might slip in to thinking too much of yourself and you forget to look around. Remember PRIDE is a sin too for a reason.
You start correcting people too much and BAM reality check. Or some of those who tried to pick fight with you won't have a beer with you and instead they feed their own image by kicking your azz, which is bad, because then besides your butt hurting, they will be free to kick some more.

 

[snowdog]

^That's a very good point you make there. And please don't get me wrong, I'm not a dumb-ass who doesn't know when to walk away. Maybe I didn't make that clear in my post there. When I sense I should just back off, I do so.

The reason I may went a little overboard is just that I always just get kinda pissed when I read this stupid macho sh*t about hating on gays. A childhood friend of me who turned out to be gay got his ass kicked a couple of times over the years for no reason at all. He's a normal guy with a college education and a good job who doesn't bother anyone. It's just stupid bullsh*t. Gays are also just people and they have it a lot rougher than we have. Leave them alone and worry about your own sh*t.

 

[DanelMadr]

^That's a very good point you make there. And please don't get me wrong, I'm not a dumb-ass who doesn't know when to walk away. Maybe I didn't make that clear in my post there. When I sense I should just back off, I do so.

The reason I may went a little overboard is just that I always just get kinda pissed when I read this stupid macho sh*t about hating on gays. A childhood friend of me who turned out to be gay got his ass kicked a couple of times over the years for no reason at all. He's a normal guy with a college education and a good job who doesn't bother anyone. It's just stupid bullsh*t. Gays are also just people and they have it a lot rougher than we have. Leave them alone and worry about your own sh*t.

I understand. I do.

Let me offer you some mind food.

I prefer kicking azzes, instead of backing of. Mind you that they get a warning first...I let them see my 'You gonna die' look, heh.
My rationalization is this>
1. They will remember the lesson.

2. As much as I like the idea of walking away and not feeling bad about it later (for it means no Macho artificial Image of yourself), I am not a Zen master and there is a wild side in me, which I am not sure I want to get rid of. I am not Jesus.

3. Have I mentioned, they will remember it and even if I loose, they will think twice next time, because their victory won't be painless, physically or mentally.

Everytime I avoided confrontation with some pr1ck, I felt like shyt. Never again. There is nothing in this world like a fist fight for the right cause. Even if you loose, you feel great. Women, Money, Career, Diplomas nothing feels as good like this. I believe that's because it is our primal directive 'to Protect' or better 'not to be a coward'. Maybe I put too much weight on it because of personal issues (macho daddy or whatever) but I still praise it. Going around a world knowing that you don't fear fight. It is freeing feeling.

 

[ArcBound]

Correct. Uberguy and the rest that have said that it's a good thing to be hit on by a gay guy don't know S*** are proven wrong with what's highlighted in bold and the reason is quite simple and I will explain.

Let this be a lesson to you all.


Why do gay guys hit on you? The same reason fatties do which is YOU REEK OF NICEGUY-NESS!

Let me explain. It takes a huge amount of courage for a woman to hit on a guy. Most women are more afraid of rejection than a guy is. Women are emotionally unstable and any small hit to their self steam and they feel like crap for weeks and that's because women are all about emotion. If a woman will hit on a guy it's going to be with a guy she feels is a guy who will not totally embarrass her and outright reject her, but instead give her the time of day as opposed to a jerk/bad boy who will embarrass her/reject hair in less than a new york minute.

NOTICE I SAID "WOMEN" (non fattie). Now for a FATTIE/WHALE and a GAY GUY to hit on/approach a guy, he must totally look like a nice guy/reek of nice-guy ness for them to feel safe approaching/hitting on that guy. It's 1000% more dangerous for them to approach/hit on a guy than your average woman so YOU MUST BE 100% VERIFIABLE NICE GUY FOR THEM TO EVEN THINK OF TALKING TO YOU!

Lol I always like f28300's posts because they are usually on spot. At one point in high school I got a lot of acne and as a result became more introverted at the same time. Fat women, ugly women and gay dudes would still hit on me.

Once I cleared up, but still didn't fix my game fatties would still come up to me from behind and put their hands on my shoulders which freaked the fvck out of me. After I regained my social skills, learned game and started working out (added 20 pounds so far and at a low bf) voila all of them dissapeared. But I still picked up cute and sexy girls.

Now whenever I pass the same fatties that would kino me before they all look down and away from me and never think of speaking to me. I think its kind of like how an AFC does the same around a really hot girl. They in some way, know you are above them and therefore don't approach or directly approach you. The sum of this is: a fat girl gay guy hitting on is like a desperate dude hitting on an ugly girl because he thinks that he can get her. If gay dudes and fat girls think they can get you, you most likely do have a problem.

 

[P­ornography]

Fat girls and gay dudes are not one in the same.

Fatties:

- Probably dress ****ty
- Probably have zero personality
- DON'T take care of their health
- Probably don't care of their looks

Homos, on the other hand:

- Usually have tight fashion sense
- Probably take care of their bodies
- Probably are all-around cool people.

They are guys after all, just like you and me only they're GAY. What's the big difference, besides the liking dudes? Doesn't make him any less of a Don Juan, as long as he's got his sh!t together.

How many gay guys have you all actually met? I don't often meet the hugely flamboyant, obnoxious gays, but maybes that's who you're all referring to.

 

[vatoloco]

"The day the gay man does not find me attractive is the day I know my looks have faded."​

-Vatoloco​

 

[Gray The Prince]

Even during my nerdy, pre-football and early football days, gay guys didn't hit on me. The fatties on the other hand are a different story. However, when I hit the weights and became Captain my Junior year in HS (Still an AFC cause I didn't have balls and was still a "nice guy" even though I got looks and smiles from cute girls) Anyway, now as a College Freshman, fatties hitting on me is unheard of.

Oh and I've been hit on by a gay dude once since I've been here at college, but then again he likes mainly masculine buff dudes. (A friend of mine who is also an inspiring walk-on for our university's football team was also hit on by the same dude and he's WAY more jacked than AND still has plenty of hot ass HB's wanting him.)

So, just because a gay guy hits on you doesn't necessarily mean a bad thing about your looks and game...fatties on the other hand are another story.

 

[snowdog]

I understand. I do.

Let me offer you some mind food.

I prefer kicking azzes, instead of backing of. Mind you that they get a warning first...I let them see my 'You gonna die' look, heh.
My rationalization is this>
1. They will remember the lesson.

2. As much as I like the idea of walking away and not feeling bad about it later (for it means no Macho artificial Image of yourself), I am not a Zen master and there is a wild side in me, which I am not sure I want to get rid of. I am not Jesus.

3. Have I mentioned, they will remember it and even if I loose, they will think twice next time, because their victory won't be painless, physically or mentally.

Everytime I avoided confrontation with some pr1ck, I felt like shyt. Never again. There is nothing in this world like a fist fight for the right cause. Even if you loose, you feel great. Women, Money, Career, Diplomas nothing feels as good like this. I believe that's because it is our primal directive 'to Protect' or better 'not to be a coward'. Maybe I put too much weight on it because of personal issues (macho daddy or whatever) but I still praise it. Going around a world knowing that you don't fear fight. It is freeing feeling.

Well, you should pickup martial arts then. You get to fight several times a week with people who actually know what they're doing. I've been doing kickboxing a couple of years now and the better I got at it, the less I felt the need to pick fights in the street. Even though I can whoop some serious ass, I don't feel the need to because I have nothing to prove to anyone. I walked away from fights I probably would have won. Why? Let me give you some food for thought now.

Fighting in the street with people you don't know is just a really dumb thing to do. It's way up there with getting in a car when you're wasted.

First, you don't know who you're dealing with. Maybe it's some kung fu master who will simply beat the sh*t out of you. Maybe it's some lunatic who has a knife or a gun on him, and there are plenty of those. Maybe he has ten friends with him. A lot of drunk ass-holes also won't think twice about grabbing a glass and jam it in your face.

Aside from the risk of getting your teeth knocked out, which won't grow back, you risk serious injury and/or assault charges. If you get knocked down, all it takes is a nasty fall on the head to get killed or to end up in a wheelchair. This is a realistic risk, this sh*t happens every week. If you're the winner of the fight and the other guy gets seriously injured or even killed, say bye bye to your life and the possibility of ever having a career, because you'll be going to jail.

Just think about it. Some dumb-ass drunk fight in a bar with some random douchebag you probably won't even know is not worth all that. The one who walks away is the better man here. F*ck that stupid macho bullsh*t, it's dumb and simple-minded.

 

[DanelMadr]

Well, you should pickup martial arts then. You get to fight several times a week with people who actually know what they're doing. I've been doing kickboxing a couple of years now and the better I got at it, the less I felt the need to pick fights in the street. Even though I can whoop some serious ass, I don't feel the need to because I have nothing to prove to anyone. I walked away from fights I probably would have won. Why? Let me give you some food for thought now.

Fighting in the street with people you don't know is just a really dumb thing to do. It's way up there with getting in a car when you're wasted.

First, you don't know who you're dealing with. Maybe it's some kung fu master who will simply beat the sh*t out of you. Maybe it's some lunatic who has a knife or a gun on him, and there are plenty of those. Maybe he has ten friends with him. A lot of drunk ass-holes also won't think twice about grabbing a glass and jam it in your face.

Aside from the risk of getting your teeth knocked out, which won't grow back, you risk serious injury and/or assault charges. If you get knocked down, all it takes is a nasty fall on the head to get killed or to end up in a wheelchair. This is a realistic risk, this sh*t happens every week. If you're the winner of the fight and the other guy gets seriously injured or even killed, say bye bye to your life and the possibility of ever having a career, because you'll be going to jail.

Just think about it. Some dumb-ass drunk fight in a bar with some random douchebag you probably won't even know is not worth all that. The one who walks away is the better man here. F*ck that stupid macho bullsh*t, it's dumb and simple-minded.

First. I do not pick fights. I really don't. Actually it is quite the opposite. Jerks trying to prove themselves on me like to pick fights with me.
Actually I did not have a fight for years and you know why? Because I got over the 'Oh what if he knocks me out and I loose my teeth' and I am ready ti kick azz not stressing about the outcome. And you know what, those jerks can feel that and they back off very fast.

I wanted to tell, that I know some moves but my resolution to fight to the death if inevitable saved my life a few times. Yes sometimes it is only my pride at stake but hey, I value it, especially when my adversary is a jerk and I did nothing to provoke his hate of me.

That is my message...not to join a fight club, that's lame.

 

[snowdog]

ALright, man. It's a free country.

Don't belittle martial arts though, that sh*t is awesome. You'll learn a lot about yourself.

 

[Blusher]

There are plenty of guys out there who women (men) find attractive who don't fit the bad boy image.

I will admit the "niceness" is somewhat related, but it doesn't tell the whole story. As long as you aren't a doormat it doesn't matter anyway.

Words of wisdmon, man.

Men can be so obsessed about projecting that 'ooh I'm so dangerous' image that they don't realize:

1) Most people don't buy into it
2) It's super homo-erotic
3) Girls find it boring to be around Mr Tough Guy who never smiles
4) It's just another facade to hide inscurities

 

[snowdog]

^Nail on the head

 

[wanderer69]

my thoughts,,,

I'm bisexual.. In the way that I love women. Desire woman , however it's quite a challange to get my **** sucked.. Charm, Dinners, whatever. I'm married. Love girls to the fullest of sexual desires...However... I find nothing wrong with getting a lil' drunk and swapping *******s with a dude. And not most dudes...most dudes are nasty.. But be as manly and straight as you can hold that position....and (don't admit it outloud)... but a 28 year old thin guy with no hair on his chest, a tight build, a thick long ****, shaved and trimmed, and a case of beer....and it's our secret we sucked each other off...strictly for sexual thrill, and not love. No hugging, kisssing, wearing dresses, or holding hands... whateva'. I had one drunkin' , got hit on, ignored it... then, i dunno' desired to suck a ****... cause I know how it should be done...I have a penis. The recip was awesome.... Never saw the guy again. That doesent make me Gay. That makes me human...of course I have to tell no-one or I wuld be shunned by society.My point is there is a HUGE differiance between being a loopy fag, and getting sexual thrills. I'll **** around with any dude that is clean cut, in shape, attractive, discreet, and looking to bust a nutt. Then move back on to normal life!

 

[xv2000]

Yeah, at my prom this gay guy kept looking over and smiling at me, and since I've actually never talked to a gay guy in real life, I didn't know that being as friendly around new guys as I am around my friends can be dangerous if the other guy is gay. He kept on smiling at me the whole night and whispering stuff to me. It didn't dawn on me that he was gay the whole night until he asked me for my number.
Now he talks to our mutual friends and says "He just has be gay" and stuff. ****, worst first experience with a gay guy ever. I need to stop being so friendly with guys.