ever almost rape your gf?

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How many guys here have ever tried to have sex with your girl to the point where if you went any further it could be considered rape?


I did this once to a girl that I was pissed at and she said it was the best she ever had.
 

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It took a lot of courage for you to admit this. But, I'm not sure of any of the other guys will reply. I have always been curious about how men are capable of raping women and what goes through their heads at the time. Somehow, I don't think it's all about misogyny and violence in every instance of it. But, this is an interesting topic and I'm curious to read the posts. This has actually happened to me before with one of my SOs.

One question: is it true that some guys think that most women have a "rape fantasy?"
SB:)
 

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Re:

Fantasies of dominating a woman to the extreme circumstances, yes. I've seen porn setup like it...it's actually pretty hot. And if you check out the good number of porn out there, most of it is gear toward domination and submission (not actual, but manipulating young girls), taking advantage of girls, one-upping, etc.

So, yeah...to a degree.



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Second thought.

Whenever you see somewhat primative movies, or even westerns for that matter, the sex is rough and rugged. Much of the reading I have done on primative tribes NOW in existence also point to the fact of somewhat rough sex.

To a degree, we had little knowledge of sexuality, so few people ever even thought about "slow", love making sex. That was more an act foisted upon people by TV, magazines, day-time-soaps, etc. Nice sex doesn't necessarily mean that's the only way. In a sense, since it is portrayed more in public, it has demonstrated "THAT is the way to have sex" and made alot of guys think it's not good to be rough.

Yet, most girls I meet enjoy sex with men for that reason.



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That's interesting A-Unit.

I've never actually had rough sex and I'm not particularly interested in it (though I do have my moments when I just want to be f--ked, but I'm not sure if that's the same thing). But i have been actually held down and taken advantage of and it was not enjoyable. It was after a huge argument, and I definitely said no.
What's even more interesting is that my SO didn't think that he did anything wrong when we talked about it a year later.

SB:confused:
 

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Originally posted by seabreeze
What's even more interesting is that my SO didn't think that he did anything wrong when we talked about it a year later.
That might be because -- and I'm just guessing here -- you stayed with him and didn't bring it up for a year.
 

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why would you do that?
 

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It's a long story fellas, but I am now coming out of this relationship.

I stayed because I wanted to make it work for the kids.
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Originally posted by seabreeze
It's a long story fellas, but I am now coming out of this relationship.

I stayed because I wanted to make it work for the kids.
SB
Still... you didn't bring it up for a year?
 

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Originally posted by seabreeze

One question: is it true that some guys think that most women have a "rape fantasy?"
SB:)
Well it certainly seems like every woman in a western-romance novel has one. Those are written by and for women, so if men think that women have a rape fantasy then it's because women gave the idea to them.

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
That might be because -- and I'm just guessing here -- you stayed with him and didn't bring it up for a year.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
 

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Yeah, I know. there were a lot of things in this relationship that should have been brought up a lot sooner, but they weren't.

We were in Jamaica on a vacation when it happened. I guess he made me feel guilty for scratching his face (while he was doing it). So I just let it go for a while. I know, I know.....
SB:(
 
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this is why we don't let gurls on sosuave... they make us feel guilty, even thru forums, lol

Anyways I think there is fvcking with passion (albeit luv or hate) then there is luv. I can't even fathom what went thru ya head when you made this thread. Think of if ya mother read this thread. There is rough sex and there is rape, don't blur the two into one.
 

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Originally posted by Microphone Fiend
this is why we don't let gurls on sosuave... they make us feel guilty, even thru forums, lol
Why should any of us here feel guilty about this thread? What other men do does not reflect upon the rest of us. We are all individuals and must be judged as so. "Men" as a group exists in just one place: people's heads. A 'group' does not exist in reality only individuals do.
 

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Strange ...

Before I even read any of the posts I was going to say: have you ever had your GF want you to sex her up as if you're raping her?

My last real GF liked to be "taken" in a pretty aggressive way.

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Drag beyond the ability of words to describe, seabreeze.

Though I understand the rationale behind "staying together for the kids' sake," my experience is that often if not usually, more harm is done by it. Really poisons the kids' attitudes about relationships. I mention this for the benefit of any guys who might find themselves in a relationship with kids that goes really sour. Yes, it can even happen to Don Juans...
 

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Having rough sex, animal sex, etc is one thing, but RAPING somebody, GF or not, is not even in the same ball park, period.


As you said, YOU WERE PISSED, so you forced yourself upon her cause you were angry. Wow, dont many rapists rape cause of some form of ANGER, albiet it hatred toward women or some other form of anger.

Why put yourself in a situation like that in the first place.

Just walk away to live for another day.
 

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I respect your honesty, but you can't be doing that. If you are too aggressive with the wrong female, you can get in serious trouble.
 

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Re: Strange ...

Originally posted by Bonhomme
Before I even read any of the posts I was going to say: have you ever had your GF want you to sex her up as if you're raping her?

My last real GF liked to be "taken" in a pretty aggressive way.
Please elaborate.. it sounds like she just wanted it a little rough..
 

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many of my friends belive that most women have a fantacy about being raped.

I even know a girl who told me that she had a guy who did just what i was discribing to her. she told me that she liked it. While the guy was tossing her around and having angry sex with her she was secretly enjoying it.

Regardless of what they say, women really like aggression
 

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sometimes i think rough sex is a good way to get out all the frustrations you have built up inside. Some girls can really get on a guys nerves and this is the best way calm down.

I've often thought that the reason some of these women get on my nerves is to provoke me and to make me more aggressive. I think they do it on a subconsious level so that they can get fcuked hard.
 

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Its the whole aggression thing. Its not bad or good, just happens.

Like in Rwanda, during the genocide, men would rape women over and over (before killing them). I used to work for some prison guy, and he mentioned most rapists tends to actually seem very nice and quiet, but release it during the rape.
 
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