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Why do we care about how she was before us (aside from infidelity obviously)?
 

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Why do we care about how she was before us (aside from infidelity obviously)?
Because she isn't going to change. So if she cheated before, had 1000 male orbiters before, was a black hole financially before, was physically violent before, etc. etc. - it's not whether it will happen again but when it will happen again. Women (and really people generally speaking) very rarely, if ever change. So it is good information to have. Maybe it is irrelevant (such as if you are going to keep her as just a plate, you may not care she ran her ex-husband's finances into the ground), but knowing too much never hurt anything.
 

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There have been studies about this. More than 4 notch count is a no go for LTR, Recreational use only. Havent you been keeping up with @RicBoy ´s multiple threads about a hot town bycicle (Im assuming she´s hot) with more than 100 notches?
 

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There have been studies about this. More than 4 notch count is a no go for LTR, Recreational use only. Havent you been keeping up with @RicBoy ´s multiple threads about a hot town bycicle (Im assuming she´s hot) with more than 100 notches?
Have there really been studies?
 

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Have there really been studies?
Who would even question such results? Most of them would be Blue pills, Captains Save a H0, femin@zis, White Knights, Social Justice Warriors, LGBTQs, etc.
 

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Who would even question such results? Most of them would be Blue pills, Captains Save a H0, femin@zis, White Knights, Social Justice Warriors, LGBTQs, etc.
4 is just a low number … if you’re being tongue in cheek that’s fine but I love reading studies if one actually exited
 

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I love reading studies if one actually exited
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The study was made by The University of Utah if Im not mistaken. If you are d1ck number 5 or less, she has better chances of a happy marriage. If you are d1ck number 6 or higher, happy marriage is gonna be an uphill battle according to statistics.
 

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The study was made by The University of Utah if Im not mistaken.
Thank you
That’s not a dramatic dropoff - and given that it was from the ‘Institute for family studies’ in Mormon Utah, actually finding that useful in a potentially reverse kind of way
 

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That’s not a dramatic dropoff - and given that it was from the ‘Institute for family studies’ in Mormon Utah, actually finding that useful in a potentially reverse kind of way
Well, whats an acceptable notch count for you? Where do you draw the line? Would you have wanted to give the "girlfriend" label to a girl with 100+ notches like Ric?
 

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Well, whats an acceptable notch count for you? Where do you draw the line? Would you have wanted to give the "girlfriend" label to a girl with 100+ notches like Ric?
No of course not
 

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There have been studies about this. More than 4 notch count is a no go for LTR, Recreational use only. Havent you been keeping up with @RicBoy ´s multiple threads about a hot town bycicle (Im assuming she´s hot) with more than 100 notches?
I also think the reason behind the notch count also matters..If reason behind her 4 notch counts is divorce bcoz she wanted cheap thrills or she selected an "abusive" partner or something like this or did her previous partner die or left her bcoz of her nagging, etc...

So not only the notch count should be low but also the reasons should be valid and genuine..
 

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Because she isn't going to change.
Past action is a principal indicator of future behavior.

People can temporarily change but there will always be an emotional force that pulls them back to their steady state, forged in while growing up, early adulthood, and cultural upbringing.

F(N) = k(N/m) x e(m)

As long as effort is applied, change can be maintained, but this force is a function of emotional motivation, desire for gain, or fear of pain. If this can be done and maintained over time, behavior modification can become a habit.

The best analogy I can make is someone that had been a lazy fat @ss their whole lives, then one day they decide being a 400 lb land whale that runs out of breath walking to the frig, isn't how they want to live their lives and starts a program of diet and exercise. If they keep this up long enough where they start to see positive (gain) results (usually 3 months) and they keep this up and this becomes a habit, they can change. But ANY set back at all can, and will, pull them back like a spring to who they are. Real change only happens when a person goes through a significant emotional event which provides the motivation to avoid pain and change.

Change is an individual pursuit... There in NOTHING anyone other than the individual can do to spur change. This is why marriage counseling, drug and alcohol treatment, prison, or any effort to compel change works unless the individual WANTS to change.
 

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Because think of her past as her credit score. If you are going to make any form of investment in to anything, you are going to want some assurance that it’s a safe bet.
 

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Because think of her past as her credit score. If you are going to make any form of investment in to anything, you are going to want some assurance that it’s a safe bet.
No woman is a fully safe bet and you would be wise to make damn sure you keep at least some of you out of her reach
 

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Because she isn't going to change. So if she cheated before, had 1000 male orbiters before, was a black hole financially before, was physically violent before, etc. etc. - it's not whether it will happen again but when it will happen again. Women (and really people generally speaking) very rarely, if ever change. So it is good information to have. Maybe it is irrelevant (such as if you are going to keep her as just a plate, you may not care she ran her ex-husband's finances into the ground), but knowing too much never hurt anything.
That's not necessarily true.

I was not very fiscally responsible in my mid to late 20s but am highly fiscally responsible now.

People are always changing, it's one of the reasons why people drift apart in relationships, two people start changing in opposite directions.
 

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You cant make a housewife out of a h0. Some members here learned that the hard way.
 
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